Sleep My Sweet

   Fri, August 23, 2013 - 10:31 AM
At noon today, my sweet boy slipped away. When he last left the hospital, it was through a hospice program that took him to the home of Master Pan. The emphasis shifted from "fixing" him to making him as comfortable as possible. He rallied a bit and he wanted to return here, but he never regained the strength to do it. His last days were peaceful ones. Even joyful. Dozens of the very best people in the world sat with him around the clock. Master Pan never left his side. He was as much a part of the community in Wichita as he was here. And they mourn. He relented to allow a somber service but only if it be followed by a celebration. It is my hope that the party becomes totally inappropriate. dirk would like that. I tell you this here, because this is where his best friends look for him. He was wise. He was brave. He was loved. He is now with "another part of the family". Master Larry, Master David, and gavin. I know it is a joyful time though hard to see from the darkness that fills my soul just now. Remember him and smile. The soul of a boy, the heart of a man, and the smile of an angel. We are not done. Sleep my sweet. Your Tag. Always and all ways.


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Fri, August 23, 2013 - 10:51 AM
This was very hard for me to read. Although we never met in person he still touched my life. He was one in a million, had a heart of gold and left this world way too soon.

My heart is heavy and full of sorrow for those he left behind. Especially you.

I am so sorry for your loss.

i will light a candle and keep you in my prayers.

Fri, August 23, 2013 - 12:33 PM
That was a very touching tribute, Tag. He was one of a handful of folks I considered a real friend here. I know you were much, much closer to him and you are in my thoughts and prayers.

Rest in peace, Dirk
Fri, August 23, 2013 - 2:12 PM
Eternal Rest!
The world has lost a part of itself. A man who found joy in life and the people around him has been taken from us. May the example of his life lead us all like a beacon to be the best we can be.
Fri, August 23, 2013 - 2:45 PM
At that hour
At that hour when all things have repose,
O lonely watcher of the skies,
Do you hear the night wind and the sighs
Of harps playing unto Love to unclose
The pale gates of sunrise?

When all things repose, do you alone
Awake to hear the sweet harps play
To Love before him on his way,
And the night wind answering in antiphon
Till night is overgone?

Play on, invisible harps, unto Love,
Whose way in heaven is aglow
At that hour when soft lights come and go,
Soft sweet music in the air above
And in the earth below.

James Joyce (1882 - 1941)
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Fri, August 23, 2013 - 3:19 PM
I knew he was close, I could see the bands holding him here getting thinner and thinner.

My heart sheds tears as I wish him best travels and new adventures...

And for all his friends here on Tribe as well as the ones who surrounded him in the start of a new journey, Peace to all of you. May your hearts be comforted with the love and understanding that he has given and left in all of our hearts.
Fri, August 23, 2013 - 4:18 PM
A beautifully written tribue.
Please accept my deepest sympathy.
Fri, August 23, 2013 - 9:21 PM
In Tribute
Get back to me
after you've lived
a thousand years
we'll have a conversation
we'll talk of bread and circuses
whores and crack
and how i'm an alcoholic
after we'll drink
in tribute
to the ghost's and memories
of a thousand years past.

Rest In Peace dirk
Sat, August 24, 2013 - 6:21 AM
Though we never met in person, and I was not aware that his end was immanent, I send sympathy to those who were close to him.
No man is an island. The loss of one diminishes us all.
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Sat, August 24, 2013 - 4:09 PM
This is something I posted at the passing of my friend, brother and dedicated leather man.

He was pain free the last four days on morphine. Master Pan and I had stepped out of the room for five minutes, and as we walked back into the room he took his last breath, he waited until we were there, and with that he passed.

Today we are poorer, and weep for the loss of one of our own, but we celebrate his living among us.

One of the last conversations I had with boy dirk went something like this, "Master Woo, I am ready for the next adventure."

One of the best gone before us, to await us where there is no more pain.

We miss you boy. "smooch".

Yours in tears,

Master Woo
Sat, August 24, 2013 - 4:28 PM
Thank you Master Woo. You honor us here. Woo is one of those incredible people who kept company with dirk. His heart is big. His voice would melt you. His Scottish brogue peppers the pot. His slave Redfire is amazing as well. In a room full of good folk, the very best.
Sun, August 25, 2013 - 7:04 AM
I'm so sorry!
Sun, August 25, 2013 - 8:59 AM
I'm so sad to hear this news. I always enjoyed talking with Dirk. He always had nice things to say to me,now that he's gone my heart feels weak and my soul cries out for him to come back to us on earth. Even if it's just for one more day. :(
Sun, August 25, 2013 - 12:15 PM
A tribute left on another page in another site;

A better man than most has gone and wandered off this road.
A journey we will all take when we tire of the load.
A place where love and laughter lie about as some great feast.
A place where all the troubles of this world have failed and ceased.
So lift a glass and raise a voice and celebrate this one.
And know it your heart that dirk and us are not yet done.
Sun, August 25, 2013 - 3:12 PM
There are people you meet on-line that remain impersonal and superficial, and there are those you wish you had the opportunity to meet in actuality. He seemed engaging, engaged, thoughtful and very willing to get beyond superficiality. One of the reasons I came to this site as often as i did was to see what he had posted.

Very sorry to hear he has passed on, may his memory be a blessing.
Sun, August 25, 2013 - 6:06 PM
Been there. It hurts.
But it reminds me of something I saw on a rural Wisconsin headstone once: "Don't cry because it's over. Smile because it happened."
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Sun, August 25, 2013 - 11:08 PM
Woolf (Wichita Organization of Leather Fetishes) of which dirk was a proud member, has set up a memorial fund in his memory.

We have a memorial fund setup to help offset the cremation and funeral home expenses.

Donations can be sent to:

Woolf Memorial Fund
1602 E Waterman
Wichita KS 67211


Woolf Memorial Fund
PO Box 2673
Wichita KS 67201 USA.

Make checks payable to Woolf Memorial Fund.
Mon, August 26, 2013 - 8:08 PM
I am so sorry for your lose..I know the pain of losing a loved one..May he rest in peace..
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Sat, August 31, 2013 - 6:32 AM
Memorial donations
Thank you to all that have sent donations, we have more than enough to pay for the send off that dirk would have wanted.

Thank you again.

Mon, September 2, 2013 - 3:41 PM
Dirk made Tribe a place worth returning to
for me. Thank you for making his last days sweet.
Wed, September 4, 2013 - 1:37 PM
bye dirk tagged
one day we'll
have a conversation....
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Sun, September 8, 2013 - 3:03 PM
Party for dirk
Last night we had the party for dirk as promised. There was good food and good fellowship all around. As per Tag's request much cheese was eaten. One of dirks obsessions was cheese, we bought half a wheel of Blue Stilton and there is still quite a lot left, even when it is all gone his memory will not be!
Mon, September 9, 2013 - 1:18 PM
Wish I could have been there.
Oh, Dirk, I'm missing you.
Mon, September 9, 2013 - 9:33 PM
Bon Voyage Into The Summerlands Dirk
It was the visual memory of Dirk posting about a move over the summer with a picture of floating dishwear from the cartoon of Disney, Beauty And The Beast, I recall Dirk's blog postings on Tribe regularly and his stimulating BDSM man picture uploads, recalling this, I checked into and see the memorial tribute to Dirk to his passing. With Cyber and blog aquaitances seperated by miles or even short distance, the reality that mortal fate does arrive and such devoted ones leave us. Dirk was a kind fellow and inquirer among my contacts, plus shared my desires for boots and leather, jockstrap and other fetishes to keep sexuality one notch above bland. Touching to read that Dirk had a circle of fellow fetish devotees that cared and helped him in the last weeks regarding his health situation.

Dirk got to live to see a turbulent World and America of many changes for LGBT people including breakthroughs with same sex marriage dealt with at the U.S. Supreme Court level, as well as the decriminalization of sodomy laws nationally and Lesbians and Gay/Bi males allowed to openly serve in the armed forces. The HIV and other pandemics also with medical breakthroughs for longivity. His Tribe profile and media survive to remember his passions.
Thu, September 26, 2013 - 8:47 PM
He saw clearly and made me laugh and cry.
Fri, March 7, 2014 - 8:17 AM
There is not a day that goes by that he isn't on my mind. I feel he is always near me and watching over me like he always did when he was with us.
Wed, June 11, 2014 - 3:53 PM
There are no words ...
Writing this now ... stunned and saddened ... just now learning of Dirk's passing from this blog.

I must apologize for this late note; I have been away from Tribe for almost a year. I have been wondering about Dirk's silence, but now I know why. I would like to share with everyone his last message to because DIRK WAS THE FIRST TO FRIEND ME and the FIRST TO WELCOME ME and MAKE ME LAUGH:

March 9, 2013
... "It is great to meet another brother Taurus that is as fukkin bull-headed as I am." ...

R.I.P. Dirk