January 27, 2005Paul definitely has *lotsss of booksss*. That's how he first drew me into his lair. I mean, my interest was piqued by those lively blue eyes that are framed by the world's longest lashes, that daddy-ish vandyke dappled with rust, the broad shoulders and sturdy arms, the bit-able lips, and ...yes, that fabulous rear. I didn't believe he could really have so many, though. I thought it might just be a bookshelf or two stacked high. You know, nice...but not really all that.
Then I saw them. The shelves upon shelves of luxurious books, hardcover and soft all stacked by the thousands. I watched as his fingers flipped through the pages so carefully and dexterously, that I could not help but wonder just how skilled they might be at other forms of, umm, ... searching. And, yes, they are.
His mind is quick and curious, constantly circling around several dozen interests all at once. These range from music, to sports, to theory, bourbon, and kink. But more than that, Paul holds contradiction with ease. He can viciously torture me to tears one minute, and later I will find myself curled in his lap discussing Judith Butler and Kristeva.
He's the only person to ever laugh at my psychoanalytic jokes. He even joins in with jokes of his own. Hell, I think he started the first round! And pretty soon we've created a frustrated Mrs. Lacan shouting "This is boooring Jacque!" and then running off in a violent huff to have her desires satisfied by the sapphic Luce Irigaray because, "She knows what I really want! Not this Bullsheet!" At the end of this tale we are both in tears because we are just laughing so very hard.
Paul has a truly generous nature. I've watched him extend himself in countless ways, to many friends, over the short time I have known him. He has that rare gift of being unafraid of lending an ear to family and friends when they've just needed someone to listen. He draws people in and charms them in a way that is far more than the histrionic theatrics most people use to impress. His charm penetrates and captures the heart simply because of it's authenticity. Once charmed, people tend to remain in his circle for decades.
This extraordinary man is a rare creature formed from equal parts of brilliantly intellectual, emotionally open, sidesplittingly funny, deviously sadistic, and well, just plain goofy. It is an intoxicating mixture that has the unique ability to shake you up and leave you warming in a deep tumbler with a little sigh impaling your cherry red heart.