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The Lie of Self-Less-Ness

   Tue, April 8, 2008 - 1:25 PM
There is much afoot about healing the world these days and I say first, we must learn that we must heal ourselves NOW.

For some of us it means taking more responsibility for our own actions, words
and
learning to come from wisdom rather than from ego.We are faced with having to
own up to
the reality of who we are and how respond to others. Learning to let go of the
tediousness
of the ego that lives in fear of being taken advantage of or ignored completely.

For others it may be that they need to learn that what they tell themselves is
selfless
service for the healing and benefit of others, is in actuality yet another
illusion that serves
only to further deplete them of their energy and sense of self. WHen we give so
much of
ourselves away to others dramas and issues, we in essence play a dangerous game
of
playing martyr to our own egoic sense of greatness. It too is an illusion. We
cannot
become so attached to serving others to the point of our own derailment and
demise. WE
are learning that we have been lied to. Men and Women both! In our time, selflessness is equated with goodness
but truly
how can we do the greatest good if we have less-self to do it from????? We must
replace
this ladies and gentlemen. NOW! the Era of our Selflessness is OVER. We are moving into our
SELF-
FULLNESS and leaving behind self-lessness.

I am not speaking of Selfishness that thinks only of its wants and likes. that is not self at all, that is the illusion of the EGO.

SELF_ FULL NESS is this:
AS we are Learning to honor ourselves,
and to
not put ourselves in situations that continually harm us, this is wisdom.
Learning to
transmute the guilt and ego needs to feel needed are steps to becoming truly
able to do
the greatest good. As we honor ourselves in positive ways, we become more
capable of
knowing how to truly honor others. When we accept that for us to be at optimum
condition that we need rest, peace, time for ourselves, time in nature, kind and
loving
people around us, harmonious home and family life, food that is healthy for our bodies, pure water to drink, clean air to breath, laughter, beauty, kindness, as we accept ONLY these
things in
our lives and work to create only such things in our lives, we become full of
joy, love,
peace, healing, patience, compassion, grace.

Think of how much of our society is completely against all those things I just listed. Our entertainment industry for one example, is full of violence, death, butchery, fear, competition, hate, demise, and depravity. From the video games we let our children play, blasting away at enemies, to the slash and gash movies that our society will willingly pay for to sit in the dark for 90 minutes and be terrorized for the sake of a thrill. Music is full of aggression, dissatisfaction, and complaints. Television is an endless stream of advertisements encouraging us to take drugs because the natural world and our own selves are completely out of control and unable to do a thing about it , so take a pill at least. These are just a few examples. I need not go into politics, environment, media coverage etc. you know it!

What if we simply refused as individuals to take any of it in any more. If each SELF sought FULLNESS to their being nourished and enriched by a life that is sustained by all manner of good things. what a society that would be, what a future that would create! BUt his is not going to happen as a whole unless we start with ourselves.

In the trainings I provide for Priestesses, there is a basic tenant. : AS vessels of the Goddess we have learned that to be truly filled we must FIRST
be truly
emptied.

we understand this to be that as we empty out these old conditionings and beliefs and replace them
with
healthy ones that support our sense of SELF, we come home to our authenticity.

Like
Quan Yin,
LAdy of the compassionate waters, who pours out the endless flow, we must
become
central to our own existence. QUan Yin does not sit on her lotus in the sea of
tranquility
with umpteen people who need things from her, demanding things of her. her arms
are not
full, her eyes are not focused all around her on everything she Must get done.
NO. A true
Goddess of compassion for the world, sits in her SelfHood. She floats as a
sovereign
queen on her tranquil sea on her lotus, full up with her own inner being of love
and
wisdom. Her eyelids softly closed, her gaze focused inwards to the source of joy
and love
from her authentic being.It is in this state, that she heals the world.

In your personal challenge whatever it is. Claim your lotus. Calm your sea.
CLose your
eyes and focus them within.

another note on karma: we may feel feelings of guilt, anger, panic, need,
insistence that
we must do something, that we cannot let go. but remember that as you do this
for your
SELF you are in essence doing the most good you can for others. You are showing
them
how to do this for themselves. this is LOVE. making other independent from you
not
dependent on you is true unselfish love. we teach children how to walk by slowly
learning
learning how to let them go it on their own. Not by carrying them everywhere.

We must step back from our " selfless " egos and realize that we are in effect
inhibiting
another persons ability to take care of themselves. We stand between them and
their own
evolution because we take on that karma for them, rather than allowing them the
space to
take responsibility for themselves. But no matter which of these or both of
these we are
coming from to seek balance, we each are dealing with our own transmuting of
the last of
the dead weight karma so we can be whole, functional and without excuses, so we
may
exist in grace and integrity, empowered and FULLY present.

( the Goddess is taking role call and will want to know who is FULLY present and
who is
absent)

namaste,
Mary Magdal-Anna

(image by Sue Halstenberg)



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Tue, April 8, 2008 - 3:08 PM
The Truth spoken by a Goddess.
Very Beautiful.
Namaste.
Sat, April 26, 2008 - 1:31 PM
as always I understand precisely what you mean and interpret your words as you intended because my belief is in line with your own. It is only when we achieve the delicate balance of loving and giving to ourselves that we are truly able to be selfless in our gifts to others. I think that motherhood is the best example of this when a mommy achieves the balance and is able to give to herself to replenish the infinite energy required to love and care for her children selflessly.

The world is filled with people who delude and distract themselves in the giving that they may perceive as selfless. Constantly keeping busy giving their energy away to good causes. Giving is wonderful but I agree with your perspective that we must all give to ourselves what we give so freely to others and not deprive ourselves of the love, understanding and compassion we give to everyone else. The people who understand and achieve this have infinite energy to give and are the happiest people on the planet (in my humble opinion) because they live in balance and harmony.

We may find ourselves depleted of energy and exhausted when we take on the drama and stress of others but if we can learn to not absorb the worries and concerns of others I believe we are better equipped to assist them in finding their own resolutions, guide them if you will.

You are a true Goddess and loving teacher who understands the balance required and for the most part I think you achieve balance. It's only when you are off balance that you find yourself tired or stressed out. I appreciate your lessons and perspectives my dear friend. You open my mind and light the path to my own spiritual intellect regularly. I enjoy how you inspire me (& so many others) to express our own thoughts and beliefs. I feel my creative ideas gently coercing me to write something down and share those thoughts with others. You are such a wonderful blessing.
Love & Light, Charrice
 

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