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Jealous Women

Sharon — Sun, 29 Apr 2007 13:28:52 GMT

I am writing a blog entry about jealous women. I have been in the workforce for almost 20 years in various office/clerical jobs. The one thing that remains constant in any office job that I've had is in dealing with jealous women coworkers. I suppose that these women have very low self-esteem and for them to feel better about themselves they have to constantly put another woman down. Most of my on the job conflicts involve the jealousy of other women. It seems that they don't like you if you have a better figure than they do, have prettier hair and skin, have no bratty kids to take care of, or no sorry lazy boyfriend or husband to deal with. And God forbid that you have more education than they do, even if it is an Associate's degree, which I have. And God forbid that you have enough money to buy a very modest house or condo! I bought a condo back in 2001 and I mentioned it to one woman who I thought was my friend. She claimed that she and her husband already had a home. Later on I found out that this was not true. I noticed that this little hussy stopped speaking to me. I didn't do any sort of harm to her. I think she was jealous of me because I had a degree of independence that she will never be able to have. She told other women about my buying a condo, and then they started acting funny towards me. I try to spend my money wisely and not on foolish stuff like fake hair and fake nails, etc. I find it extremely hard to develop good honest friendships with most women. It seems that they are not happy unless they are putting some other woman down. Later on, I started to develop good platonic friendshships with well-educated males. They are MUCH EASIER to get along with. I don't have to put up with a lot of jealousy and insecurities that come from dealing with women. These men accept me the way I am and they don't feel threatened by any success or achievements that I obtain. As far as my silk scarf business is concerned, the majority (60-70%) of my online customers are MEN!!! I suppose that they buy my scarves as gifts for their wives,girlfriends, mothers, sisters, etc. I just want to say to all of the men customers out there, thank you very much for supporting me in my business!!! and TO HELL to all of you jealous old (and young) hussies who cant stand to see a successful, child-free, independent Black woman who doesn't fit into your narrow stereotypes!!!

The Joys of Silk painting

Sharon — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 14:10:03 GMT

I just wanted to write a blog about the beautiful art of silk painting. I am a professional silk painter who makes a lot of hand painted silk scarves and clothing and sells them online. Silk painting has been around a very long time and originally began in China. The modern form of silk painting started in Europe with the French. They developed several brands of excellent silk dyes and resists. In the later part of the 20th century, silk painting came to America and now there are many excellent silk artists all over the USA. Most of them live in California, New York and Florida, but a few silk artists can be found in most of the 50 states. I started out in silk painting as a self taught artist. I used to paint in watercolors, but soon became bored with it and wanted to discover a new medium. I learned about silk painting by reading some books from the public library and going to the local Arts festival. The first time that I actually saw a hand painted silk scarf or garment, I said wow!! This is the most beautiful art form that I have ever seen. The colors were so rich, vibrant and intense and the fabric felt so soft and luxurious. I had to learn how to do this myself. So I went to the public library and checked out some books on silk painting and ordered a few scarf blanks and bottles of dye. When I first tried silk painting, it was really neat. My first few scarves didn't turn out too well, but I kept practicing at it until I got better and better. I soon was hooked on silk painting and finally gave up watercolors and paper. I devoted myself to mastering the art of silk painting. A few years later I was selling scarves to my coworkers and then later on I had a solo show at a local art gallery. In 2004 I started selling my scarves on a website called www.artisanstreet.com which was been fairly successful for me. When I lost my job in December 2004, I did not know how I was going to make ends meet, but the sales from Artisanstreet started coming in and the money that I earned from these sales helped to pay my utility bills and groceries until I found another job. I have included a picture of one of the scarves that I painted in 2006. I also have some scarves on at site called www.etsy.com. My personal website is called www.colorsofsilk.etsy.com

To be a single African American Christian female over 35

Sharon — Fri, 20 Apr 2007 12:51:20 GMT

I am a single African American female over 35 years old. I have no children and I am also a Christian. I am just writing my thoughts and life experiences on this blog to share with people. Sometimes I feel like an outcast in a culture that values families and children. I have nothing against children, because I am an aunt and have 2 wonderful nephews and one niece. I dont fit the stereotype that most people have of Black women. I am not on welfare, I didn't grow up in the "ghetto", and I work hard at my clerical job everyday. I am also NOT a lesbian. I am heterosexual, but as a Christian I do not believe in living a sexually immoral lifestyle. I have worked in office jobs in the past 15 years and most of the women in these jobs seem to have no interest in anything except their husbands and children. As I have gotten a little older, I find it very hard to relate to them, because they do not seem to want to develop other interests. I enjoy talking about current events, politics, art, culture,religion, hobbies,music, etc. Married Black women are the most difficult to get along with. If they know that you are a single Black female, they really give you the cold shoulder. They seem to be afraid of making friends with single Black females because they think that you are going to steal their husband!! I just want to let all of you married Black women to know that I DO NOT want your ugly fat husband or any other woman's husband. In the past few years at my previous job, I got along great with white males, both married and single ones. They seem to have a wider variety of interests and they dont talk about kids, soap operas, shopping, hair and makeup. I can talk to them about current events, politics, art, work, music, and other topics. At my last job, I worked at a mail order pharmacy and I socialized with many of the male pharmacists. Some of them were very nice and much easier to get along with than most women. At this time, I have a work at home clerical job and I also have a home based Internet craft business where I sell my hand painted silk scarves. I have had some moderate success with my scarf business, with most of the sales occuring between the months of September and January. I get orders from customers all over the USA and a few overseas. My work at home clerical job involves processing utility bills for large and small companies. I work at this job 4 to 5 days a week and do my silk painting on my off days. It would be nice to have some more friends, both male and female, Black,White, Hispanic or other races that like to do different things and have a wide variety of interests. I hope to meet some interesting people through tribe.net It would be nice to meet people who are not into crass materialism. I do have a problem with people who think they are better because they live in the suburbs and have a McMansion and drive an expensive SUV. I feel that American society places too much emphasis on outward appearance and material comforts. Just because a person may live in an urban area and have a modest house or apartment and drive a small car or use mass transit doesn't make them a bad person. I wish that more people would value the inner character of a person and get past the superficial. At my last job at the pharmacy, some of the employees were caught up in materialism. They drove very expensive cars and lived in expensive neighborhoods. Many of these people were not well paid pharmacists, but regular hourly employees like myself. It amazes me how they were able to afford such a lifestyle. Some days I would come home depressed because I felt very out of place in such an environment. Some times I would read my Bible or watch a "religious" film like Jesus of Nazareth to help me feel better and not compare myself to others. My deepest wish is that I hope that people will focus more on inner character and less on externals like physical beauty and material possessions.