FUNDAMENTAL CONCERNS OF HUMAN BEINGS:

Who or What is Right or Wrong?
Who or What is True or False?
Do I Argue or Not?
Life "Should be" XYZ
Life "Shouldn't be" XYZ
Why, How, The Answer?
I Am About Looking Good/Not Looking Bad
Shoulds, oughttas, disempowering language, descriptions, procedures, expectaions, conditions of satisfaction.
I am expected to represent my language with evidence.

Thus, the experience of being human is resigned and Cynical, and we hide ourselves behind being reasonable.

Where are you disempowered? For me, when I distinguished myself, it was with:

My Parents: they don't trust me, they're passive aggressive.
My Brother: he doesn't do anything with his life, he accuses me of being beligerent
My Career: I don't believe I'm good, Can't believe I'm good, I have to try to prove I'm good rather than just be.

Where are you dismpowered? What is really happening? What do you want to see?
Speak it and believe it!
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Most of the time, what we say happened didn't happen. It is the "story" that we run. What really happened is always completely different than what we SAY happened.

Story vs. What Happened!
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Is your inner voice keeping you from success?

If you are not producing breakthrough results in an area, you are running a racket on yourself...you're surviving it.
Being in action when you're internal dialogue tells you not to act is really your integrity over your stories.
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Enrollment is the access to power and action in your community.

The first step in enrollment is sharing yourself. Sharing where you have been inauthentic. Acknowedge your inauthentic past.
The Second step is to share the new possibility that you are creating (to counteract the past...creating a new future to live into) that touches, moves and inspires them.
How to find the possibility that doesn't "fix" but empowers? Simple. Find the thing in your life that isn't working. Then imagine removing it from your life. Who could you be if it were removed? Powerful? Unstoppable? Caring? Creative? THAT is your possibilty/future to live into.
You want to be powerful to empower OTHERS.
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What is a Racket? A fixed way of being plus a persistent complaint.

The invariant structure of a Racket:

Payoffs: Be right/make others wrong, Dominate/avoid domination, Justify yourself/invalidate others
Cost: Love/Affinity, Vitality/well-being, self-expression, satisfaction/fulfillment

If only A then B.

"Thank your Racket for sharing, then step up."

Steps to distinguishing rackets:

What would say your issue is? Be rigorous with your language.

What are the reasons why?

What are the messes you've made or have been made from this?

What have you not done and why have you not done them?

Who is to blame?

What are you unwilling to tell the truth about in this area?

What is the impact of being reasonable here?

What unreasonable actions are you taking?

What possibility for your future are you creating?
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3 things at play when you get upset:

1. You have a thwarted intention
2. You have an unfulfilled expectation
3. You have an undelivered communication
Every upset is all three somehow

Rackets are ultimately defined as avoiding your responsibility.
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Integrity is being whole and complete, being our word, A stand in life that doesn't need evidence.

Enrolling conversation is bringing life where there is no life.

Why do we create a possibility to live into? To give yourself power.

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Strongs Suits.

The three strong suits that occur in youth (the main ones) are:

"Something's Wrong Here" Childhood
"I Don't Belong" Adolescence
"I'm On My Own" Adulthood

What you create from those incidents in your "beingness" you carry with you for the rest of your life. Their goal is to keep that incident from ever happening again. Mine are:

Indpendence
Stand
I Can Do It All (by myself)
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Who are you?

Who you are is the stand that you take for who you are.

When you create your stand, you are at the beginning of an inventive life...and you are certain of it no watter what life throws at you.

Life is Empty and Meaningless and it's empty and meaningless that it's empty and meaningless. It just means nothing.

How do you get to nothing and complete the past?
By seeing the cost & impact.
You can't declare until you complete.

Your stand needs NO EVIDENCE!
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Not DO-HAVE-BE

BE-DO-HAVE!

In enrollment, your considerations are not their considerations. You are stopping yourself from being enrolling, NOT THEM!
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The fear of failure is kept in existence by trying to fix or cure "fear of failure." While the future is imagined, the experience of fear is not imagined. When we try to "fix" it, we're experiencing the fear as though it was real.

Failure isn't the problem...fear of failure is the problem...

What you resist persists!

Resisting failure actually keeps us in failure in the present. you're so afraid of failure in the future, because you failed in the past.

Distinguish that you're not in trouble now...take the past out of your future. You're making the present feelings dependent on what I'm expecting the future to look like based on my past!

People live by the superstition that life would be better without problems. Not true. The real problem is that people deal with real boring problems. How many of your problems do you always deal with> That's your problem! Small problems. I cling to the problems. You use them to be the "because" in life. Don't try to fix problems. You can't. CREATE BIGGER PROBLEMS! If you fix a problem, it creates a new problem.
The world does not have problems...people have problems. "Problems live only in language!"

We are that "problems shouldn't be."

Authenticity is: "In life there are problems."

Create bigger problems so that your beingness is bigger than your former problems.
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You'll never get anywhere being "I'm right, you're wrong."
Instead: "You know, we're saying the same thing just from a different paradigm."
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Transformation generates new "contexts" for being! (context = realm of possibility)

Every time you create a new context for your life, new possibilities are seen that were otherwise not possible.

When you wake up, is your "already listening" saying "there is something wrong here?" then, do you survive your day instead of live it?

You cannot be powerful in life if you don't have power in the face of "no." But it isn't the "no" that is the problem...it's the meaning you add to the "no."

They are not saying "no" to you, they are merely saying "no" to what you are asking of them. "No" occurs as a part of the game for those who are in the game for the long haul.

After the final "no" is a yes. And on that yes, the future of the world depends... You are cause in the matter of what you're adding to "no."

To get that "there's something wrong here." is to get that there's something incomplete (integrity is out).

I am still stopped by "no" in getting help for my business and asking for money.

People have breakdowns because they lose touch with their possiblities.
1. Recognize that what's happening is a breakdown.
2. Return to the possibilities you've created.
3. What actions can I take within my possiblity?
4. Follow through on your actions until you create a breathrough.

What have I accomplished by being possibility in 2004 that I otherwise couldn't have done?

Called 50 execs in the industry
Went out with at least 10 women
Had much closer family get-togethers
Been cause in the matter of my own peace
I became far more powerful in making others and my dreams come true
I went broke and was at peace through it
Became a powerful miracle maker - by living in the future
I developed myself into being loving, respectful, authentic, unstoppable, miraculous, and at peace with the world.


Distinctions for an Extraordinary Human Being


• Integrity – Do what you say by when you say you will do it.
• Racket Free – Give up being right.
• Powerful – Being straight in your communication and take what you get.
(manage conversations not people)
• Courageous – Acknowledge your fear and act anyway.
• Peaceful – give up the interpretation that “There’s something wrong here.”
• Charismatic – Give up “In Order To.”
(do what you are doing not “in order to” do something else)
•Enrolling – Sharing your possibilities in such a way that others are touched,
moved & inspired.

You must be unreasonable

Advanced Course...

Nothing trumps integrity. Nothing. No matter how it may seem or how great the technology. You can go to other distinctions when things are out (ie racket or strong suit) but what is really there is that you are out integrity…and you ARE that you can do life without integrity. What if you didn’t need any other distinctions when who you are is integrity is the primary #1 distinction? A detective asks, “What is out of place?” at a crime scene. If things aren’t working for your life, that becomes your question…but it almost always integrity. Think of integrity as a doorway into a world that is powerful and full self-expression. Integrity doesn’t cause extraoridinary performance. However, without it, nothing good is sustainable. Sometimes when things are working, we get arrogant. “The rules don’t apply to me now.” – then it all falls apart. If things aren’t going well, then only place to go is to restore integrity.

Integrity Baseline Syndrome

When you know this distinction and things still aren’t going well, you have this sydrome for sure. This is when you get pride in your ingtegrity. Or you are that being 2% out is alright. Then you are at 98% integrity. Your baseline moves down 2%…then, since it’s okay to have your integrity here, you go down another 2%…to 96% because it’s okay to be down 2%…then 96…94..92 etc. Within moments, you have no integrity. All because you think that YOUR integrity is so much more than everyone else’s

You simply restore Integrity when you see that it is out. It’s completely natural to do so… integrity is a state of being: whole & complete…unbroken.

You want to do VIOLENCE to “keeping your word/honoring your word!”

Integrity is honoring what you know to do even when you’re not expected to do it. Honoring what you’re expected to do even when you’re not asked to. Doing things how they were MEANT TO BE done.

If you are this (restoring honor), it becomes important to you. It also means immediately communicating when you know you’re not going to keep your word. Ie “I’m not that I’m a great composer or director.. I’m that I’m not good enough…” Then it’s obvious why I din’t have what I want… Ididn’t believe that I’m good.

The “IT” dies of embarrassment when you clean up your Int… but you LIVE!
You have to be in an empowering context. If you’re a disempowering conversation/context, you STILL have no Integrity. Creating an Empowering Context one place and not in another in still not integrity. It’s IBC! “Nobody will know that this is a disempowering conversation.” It’s either all empowering or it’s not. Context live in your language. Context is decisive. You must be in consistent conversation for being powerful – maintain a powerful future in to which you’re living. You’ve given up caring whether things work or not. You’re looking good, getting ahead, etc.

There are two kinds of possibility: Someday/maybe/etc. or the possibility RIGHT NOW.
“I have sex only once a year…but TONIGHT IS THE NIGHT!”
This becomes the possibility you live into – your empowering context.

The first thing you’ll confront in Integrity – the future as possibility has a half life. No matter how powerful the possibility, the potency wears off. It lasts as long as it can until “IT” makes a comment about your possibility. Every time it does, you need to recreate your possibility again.

Get specific with the area that you’re out of integrity/EC/not working. What does it look like when you wake up in the morning? What’s the conversation? Justification? You’re distinguishing “What it looks like when who you are is without integrity” which looks like “nothing works.” “Nothing works” is what you say when there is an area that is out of Integrity.
Who are you? What is that experience (like being a pianist)? Not explaining what it is. Do you have to think about or remember it? You’re doing it in the moment. I’m getting up in the morning to do this because it’s who I am. I still have the thoughts, but it doesn’t matter because I’m something else.

To get there, you need to practice choosing. It’s your access to all of it. Choose to honor your word and create an EC. What is the access (answer) to living the life you love? You have to see where “there’s something wrong here” is in your life. There’s nothing? Then you’re in a complacency or worse scenario. You are that it is that “you are to blame.” “It’s your fault for everything. People who excel do so to avoid the blame?” We organize our life to avoid being the blame. Responsibility shows up as blame even! It’s not your fault and you’re not to blame. These concepts do not exist in reality. We think we’re bad people. This is no truer than if it were your fault. Choose the empowering one. Those conversations won’t go away. Being them is empty and meaningless. Responsibility is a declaration. Distinct from assertion. Assertions require proof/evidence. Declarations require no evidence (declaration of independence). Declaration is a great place to come from. Responsibility and declaration is simply “I am cause in the matter whether experienced or not! This is different than blame! “What does it look like when I am being cause in the matter?” What’s it like when you are to blame? (not being cause). (Pianist) – apply to issues [because that is who I am!]

Maximize this by practicing all of these – create from integrity, not “better.”

Honor your word, have an Empowering Context, What does it look like? You are cause in the matter, It’s not your fault.