Daily Infractions

Better thoughts for the day

sonomasiren — Tue, 26 Aug 2008 18:44:00 GMT

If you are wise enough to follow the trail of good-feeling thoughts by deliberately looking for positive aspects along your way, you will come into vibrational alignment with who-you-really-are and with the things you really want, and once you do that, the Universe must deliver to you a viable means to achieve your desires. ~Abraham~

The Simple Truth

sonomasiren — Fri, 01 Aug 2008 16:44:13 GMT

So much to say....but how does it go...a picture is worth a thousand words...sigh...

<<giggles>>

sonomasiren — Mon, 28 Apr 2008 19:07:23 GMT

The Tree Hugger While walking through Golden Gate Park in San Francisco, a man came upon another man hugging a tree with his ear firmly against the tree. Seeing this he inquired, 'Just out of curiosity, what the heck are you doing?' 'I'm listening to the music of the tree,' the other man replied. 'Would you like to give it a try?' Curious, the man says, 'Well, OK...' and wrapped his arms around the tree & pressed his ear up against it. With this, the other guy slapped a pair of handcuffs on him, took his wallet, jewelry, car keys, stripped him naked, and left. Sometime later another nature lover strolled by, saw this guy handcuffed to the tree stark naked, and asked, 'What the heck happened to you?' He told the guy the whole terrible story about how he got there. When he finished telling his story, the other guy shook his head in sympathy, walked around behind him, kissed him gently behind the ear and said, 'This just ain't gonna be your day, cupcake...'

An old letter found - betcha all wondered

sonomasiren — Fri, 25 Apr 2008 16:06:20 GMT

Dear Tide: I am writing to say what an excellent product you have! I've used it all of my married life, as my Mom always told me it was the best. Now that I am in my fourties I find it even better! In fact, about a month a go, I spilled some red wine on my new white blouse. My inconsiderate and uncaring husband started to belittle me about how clumsy I was, and generally started becoming a pain in the neck. One thing led to another and somehow I ended up with his blood on my new white blouse! I grabbed my bottle of Tide with bleach alternative, to my surprise and satisfaction, all of the stains came out! In fact, the stains came out so well the detectives who came by yesterday told me that the DNA tests on my blouse were negative and then my attorney called and said that I was no longer considered a suspect in the disappearance of my husband. What a relief! Going through menopause is bad enough without being a murder suspect! I thank you, once again, for having a great product. Well, gotta go, have to write to the Hefty bag people.

Full Moon Sundy 3:25am

sonomasiren — Sat, 19 Apr 2008 19:29:26 GMT

WOO HOO - I get to play tonight!!!!!

New Book

sonomasiren — Sun, 24 Feb 2008 19:16:23 GMT

The new book is "Unlocking the Secrets of Your Childhood Memories". What a powerful book this is. Page 136 if you can get that far: *I release you from the responsibillity I gave you long ago to determine how I feel and respond to life. *I release you from the anger I have felt because of our past relationship. *I release you from being responsible for my happiness. These "releases" come after acknowledgeing your dreams; seeing the crap you've brought forward to today. And then you get to make choices: 1. Keep swinging at thin air by carrying the grudges, the pain, and the hurt. 2. Gripe about your past and those who were part of it. Keep opening your own wounds and those of others. 3. Accept your past for what it was and move on. My past is my past; I am learning daily; I am finally "getting" why I'm here and what I have to give. And so it is......

Four Healthy Behaviors Add 14 Years

sonomasiren — Fri, 22 Feb 2008 01:09:11 GMT

OK, so I just read an article about living to be 100 (did I mention I plan on living to be 112?) I know some of you will take issue with the alcohol, so there are red wine vitamins for you (yes, I have them! ya can't drink everyday!) People who practice four specific behaviors live, on average, 14 more years compared to people who don’t practice those healthy behaviors, according to a new British study. The four behaviors - not smoking, performing regular exercise, drinking moderate amounts of alcohol and eating five servings of fruit and vegetables a day - had each been independently shown to increase lifespan, but this was the first study to examine their combined value. Researchers at the University of Cambridge and the Medical Research Council studied 20,000 men and women from the city of Norfolk who were between the ages of 45 and 79 in the years between 1993 and 1997. The participants filled out questionnaires tracking their health habits. Then, their death rates were recorded until 2006. The study was reported in the January 8, 2008 edition of the journal PLOS Medicine. It is part of the European Prospective Investigation into Cancer and Nutrition (EPIC), conducted in 10 European countries. EPIC is the largest-ever study of diet and health. So, I'm going to the store for vegetables - have a Healthy Day!

The Big Rock Theory

sonomasiren — Sat, 19 Jan 2008 04:03:17 GMT

The big rock theory; no, not the big bang theory, the big rock theory. As I was speaking with this absolutely brilliant woman some weeks past, she reminded me of the big rock theory. It’s a very profound and logical way to prioritize and evaluate one’s life – IMHO. Start with a jar; this represents your life; your energy; what’ really important to you and represents where your time goes. The first thing you want to put in this great jar is your big rocks. As she was explaining, the importance of these first rocks, the largest rocks I was contemplating, are the delicate balance of life. Family, Spiritual/Spirit, Health/Body/Exercise, Work/Money, Relationships/Love, Play/Friends - the Big 6. All need to be balanced, like the spokes of a wheel. So should they all have the same size rock I wondered? Then my mind flits to the 7 Laws of Highly Successful People (I think is the title) – his premise is about the same – rolling all of life’s priorities together and making time for all of them in a very organized little calendar. So, back to the rocks. The Big 6 fill the jar. Now what. You add smaller rocks; the not as important things, juggled around the important issues. It might be leaving work to go see your son in a play; skipping the gym to shower and start a great dinner for your lover; making time to stop by to see Mom and bring her treats. These are the important things you can fit around your “Big 6”. Then came the pebbles, whatever they are. Riding your horse, dinner with friends, phone chats with those close – these little charms fit easily around the others until your jar looks full. Is it truly full you might ask?!? Ah, but sand fits easily in the little nooks and crannies – what might sand be? Food shopping, gutter cleaning, bill paying – I don’t know – it must be done, but isn’t necessarily any sort of priority. Her eyes began to twinkle when she asked if I thought people used sand as an excuse for not tending to rocks. Can you think on any examples? There’s always the infamous “I can’t tonight, I have to wash my hair”; but she got me thinking. Would I leave my Big 6 guy to go bra shopping? Would I even skip a date with my small rock potential guy to do my Costco run? You’re laughing right! Of course you are, because if you really enjoyed spending time with him, you wouldn’t! That stuff can be done anytime. Ever been on the other side of this and inside you’re going WTF! So here is a prime example of where size matters! What size rock are they in your jar and what size rock are you in their jar (just to spell it out a bit). So after adding the somewhat meaningless, but necessary sand stuff, your jar is full to the brim, yes? Nope. Pour in water. What’s water I asked her –this wise woman who just mysteriously entered into my life. Who knows, sometimes it’s the things people do, not to face the rocks or pebbles or life – maybe it’s sitting on tribe too long instead of spending time with a real live person; maybe it’s hiding behind your kid’s needs instead of facing the reality of life. It’s different for everyone, just like the Big 6. It’s all about what’s important to YOU. My son is 27 now, but I do remember using him as an excuse not to do the “things” I didn’t want to do. Now I realize; there is always time for the things you really, really want to do. Her point she explains, is that she really wants a Relationship, with a big “R”, and she wants it to be one of her Big 6. She describes how in “R”elationship, she likes to make her guy one of her big rocks; fit some of the other, not so important things around him; talk to him about their weekend plans and then set up times with her girlfriends, etc. around him, not the other way around. Is that wrong, some would ask? Should she give so much to a guy? Or is simply respectful; can you still do things on your own? Of course! It’s just about what’s in your jar. What’s most important. Now, when I see her with a guy, I can say, “where is he in your jar”. She’ll know what I mean. If she says “Big 6” – that about says it. If she says “water”, here’s your sign guy. Or maybe she’ll whisper “small rock, but getting bigger”. But here’s the kicker she pointed out later; the really big point – where are you in their jar. If you start out as a pebble; morph into what appears to be a big 6 right off the bat; then slowly shrink to a grain of sand, where everything else comes before you – here’s your sign. It’s almost impossible, she explains, to step on a big rock, but stepping on a grain of sand is pretty easy. Goes with friendships too not just relationships – don’t make a friend a small pebble if you’re water to them. See, told ya this lady was sharp. I want to thank her for her time and her insight – she gave me exactly the information I needed to hear. And just to surprise her; I listened!

Interesting thoughts for today

sonomasiren — Mon, 10 Dec 2007 22:17:03 GMT

Laughter The Chinese mystic's last surprise Laughter is eternal, life is eternal, celebration continues. Actors change but the drama continues. Waves change but the ocean continues. You laugh, you change--and somebody else laughs--but laughter continues. You celebrate, somebody else celebrates, but celebration continues. Existence is continuous, it is a continuum. There is not a single moment's gap in it. No death is death, because every death opens a new door--it is a beginning. There is no end to life, there is always a new beginning, a resurrection. If you change your sadness to celebration, then you will also be capable of changing your death into resurrection. So learn the art while there is still time.

My solution for the day

sonomasiren — Fri, 19 Jan 2007 23:32:50 GMT

Stress All private goals are neurotic. The essential man comes to know, to feel, "I am not separate from the whole, and there is no need to seek and search for any destiny on my own. Things are happening, the world is moving--call it God...he is doing things. They are happening of their own accord. There is no need for me to make any struggle, any effort; there is no need for me to fight for anything. I can relax and be." The essential man is not a doer. The accidental man is a doer. The accidental man is, of course, then in anxiety, tension, stress, anguish, continuously sitting on a volcano. It can erupt any moment, because he lives in a world of uncertainty and believes as if it is certain. This creates tension in his be-ing: he knows deep down that nothing is certain. Osho A Sudden Clash of Thunder Chapter 3 Commentary: How many people do you know who, just when they were completely overloaded, with too many projects, too many "balls in the air", have suddenly come down with the flu, or taken a fall and ended up on crutches? That's just the sort of "bad timing" the little monkey with the pin in his hand is about to impose on the "one-man-band" pictured here! The quality of stress represented by this card visits all of us at times, but perfectionists are particularly vulnerable to it. We create it ourselves, with the idea that without us nothing will happen--especially in the way we want it to! Well, what makes you think you're so special? Do you think the sun won't rise in the morning unless you personally set the alarm? Go for a walk, buy some flowers, and fix yourself a spaghetti dinner--anything 'unimportant' will do. Just put yourself out of that monkey's reach! For me, today, this was very profound - I'm getting to sign a new lease for office space; move; buy new furniture; do a new advertising campaign - and sometimes I wonder, to what end.....

Relationships

sonomasiren — Sun, 14 Jan 2007 00:40:18 GMT

This was given to someone close to me. "They say a relationship trives on communication and honesty. Look for excuses to make coffee or hot chocolate and serve them in bed or after a stressful day. Give more than your share and then give some more. Let go of jealousy and just trust. Be vulnerable and open your heart. First be true to yourself, trust yourself, be honest with yourself - then you have something to give to another. I wish you happiness and contentment forever." This was written on parchment paper and rolled up in a tray with coffee, hot chocolate and 2 cups. Just wanted to share this with y'all 'cause it touched my heart.

The power of Energy?

sonomasiren — Sun, 07 Jan 2007 17:22:25 GMT

Energy has been on my mind a lot lately. The energy of a relationship with a man. The energy you exchange in lust; in love; in the heat of the moment. And how some men are better at pushing their energy than others. Then someone pointed out that women, specifically bi women, are also pushing energy, attempting for attention with me as well – but that I’ve just not noticed. This whole thing about sex energy, the only energy they say, is to move it; evolve it. To be sexual but not consumed by sex. Then I look at those who profess to be the Queen of the O or the King of Cock. I just want to understand. And if love is giving, why do people say they love but really only want to take? So many questions - makes me feel like I haven't been around as long as I have. While pondering this, one looks at how others use sexual energy. Some women use sex to get what they want - they manipulate. Some use honesty and words. Which is more effective? While watching how men respond, most times oddly enough, it is the manipulative arts that win over. Sometimes I think I should learn them, learn to use them, but I know I can't. It seems, to be real and true to yourself; authentic they say, you have to be honest, real and respectful of others even if it means you lose love, or lose friendships, or don't always get what you want. Even if it hurts you. At the end of the day, you can be proud of you - that you have been honest and authentic.

My issue for today

sonomasiren — Mon, 16 Oct 2006 21:47:07 GMT

Exhaustion A man who lives through conscience becomes hard. A man who lives through consciousness remains soft. Why?--because a man who has some ideas about how to live, naturally becomes hard. He has continuously to carry his character around himself. That character is like an armor; his protection, his security; his whole life is invested in that character. And he always reacts to situations through the character, not directly. If you ask him a question, his answer is ready-made. That is the sign of a hard person--he is dull, stupid, mechanical. He may be a good computer, but he is not a man. You do something and he reacts in a well- established way. His reaction is predictable; he is a robot. The real man acts spontaneously. If you ask him a question, your question gets a response, not a reaction. He opens his heart to your question, exposes himself to your question, responds to it.... Yup, this is me now. Not so hard, yet also, not so predictable. Now I seem to have unbridled emotional responses, not bad mind you, but I respond with emotion and sometimes with tears. I guess I can get a handle on this too at some point.....

This too shall pass

sonomasiren — Thu, 24 Aug 2006 19:45:49 GMT

Today I struggle to remain present; live in the moment; remain at ease; just notice; just observe ... just be a watcher. I struggle. This whole idea is difficult in one sense and sane in the other. This morning, I watched the sun come up between the trees, over the golf course with the ocean in sight; last night I watched the sun set on the beautiful bay of Hanalei. It doesn't get much better than this; and yet, I have thoughts of the future. Needs; desires; hopes; and I am confused. I am greatful for this opportunity; my sanity needed this opportunity. Will I really be able to face going home; face the responsibilities that have patiently waited for my return; face the decisions and obligations I ran away from; sometimes I am scared and afraid - and then I remember; This To Shall Pass... Sometimes I shed tears of joy, sometimes they're from frustration and fear. Sometimes my energy is rich and golden and I'm floating; sometimes I want to curl in on myself - but then I must remember to tell myself that This To Shall Pass.... Just observe, Just watch, Just witness....

Hope

sonomasiren — Fri, 11 Aug 2006 02:01:47 GMT

Hope...which whispered from Pandora's box only after all the other plagues and sorrows had escaped, is the best and last of all things. Without it, there is only time. And time pushes at our backs like a centrifuge, forcing us outward and away, until it nudges us into oblivion. from "The Rule of Four"

end of rope ...

sonomasiren — Sat, 01 Jul 2006 16:12:41 GMT

Someone said the other day, they felt like their life had been on pause, yet they knew the movie was still running - they just weren't participating. Not that they couldn't; but they were unable to connect. My analogy seems to be in the realm of "Dodge Ball". Remember that game? It feels like I am the only one left in the circle and everyone else has a ball; do this, feel this, ignore this, do this for me, this is your responsibility, and the infamous, "couldn't you just". I feel pummeled. Since my Dad died in March, I just don't seem to be able to handle it anymore. Couldn't you just take 10 minutes every morning to meditate, you'll feel so much better; or take these herbs 3 xs a day, you'll be much calmer; or walk 5 times a week, it is so good for releiving stress; or handle this small project once a week or blah, blah, blah. Do this for me, I need it done. Nothing horribly bad; just too, too much. But then you try hard, and do the right thing and act with ethics, and breath and love. For that you get, "you should have called sooner, joined this meeting, been uncomfortable to appease me...And when I have the audacity to ask for ...help or understanding or someone to see things from my point of view. <<geez, i feel like a real whiner>> I'm confused. So, instead, i'm going to go sit on a beach for awhile and contemplate life; far, far, away from the pull of duty. I'm tired of being the "r" word <<responsible>>. What do ya think?