Over the past couple of weeks there has been a lot of turmoil over one of my partner's secondaries. She and I have had a good relationship, as metamours, over the past couple of years, and I think the relationship brought a lot of positives into our lives. However, she made some big errors in attempting to re-organize the relationship between the two of them, and I've spent the past couple of weeks doing the most emotionally intensive support _ever_ with my primary. Now, after dropping one... read more

To get back into the whole writing things down phase. I noticed that I process more clearly when I am writing. So why have I been absent from my blog? Why, because thought and introspection all require energy and time, both of which are in short supply. Having been in a position where I am noticing my ability to reason within my relationships falter slightly, I am forced to concede that indeed, I need to write! Without the writing, there is only me in my head, blurting thoughts as they o... read more

Abundance! This is one of the main reasons that most people get into poly. The idea that you can have the vast majority of your needs met without overburdening one partner. Ah, but wait, there's more! For me, love and sexual energy are a positive feedback system. The more I have, the more I want, the more I have to give to others, the more I have for myself! Let's call this concept trickle up polynomics, shall we?

How does this affect the way that one approaches life? To have need... read more

One of the arguments I've heard repeatedly about why poly is unhealthy is the idea that by having more than one relationship, you are unable to commit fully, or have a mature emotional bond with another, that polyamory is a way to shield yourself from true, deep intimacy. Categorically, I find that to be untrue, in fact, I've found a whole new level of intimacy within my marriage, with myself, and a conscious everyday impetus to focus on each of the important emotional bonds in my life. St... read more

One of the things that has become abundantly apparent to me as we've delved farther into a poly lifestyle is that there are about as many varieties of polyamory as there are people who identify with the term. There can also be a feeling from other poly-types that their version of poly is the really where it is at. My, my... where have we seen this before? Anyone experience religious beliefs, where you have Baptists dogging on Quakers, Catholics annoyed with Lutherans, or when lesbians/gay... read more