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Only for The Brave

   Wed, May 14, 2008 - 10:58 AM
All the years wasted waiting for them to "make it up to you" and all the energy you expended trying to make them change, or make them pay, kept the old wounds from healing and gave pain from the past free rein to shape and even damage your life…

Nothing you have done has made them change…

Indeed, they may never change…

Inner peace is found by changing yourself, not the people who hurt you…

You change yourself for yourself, for the joy, serenity, peace of mind, understanding, compassion, laughter, and brighter future that you get…

In a way, forgiving is only for the brave…

It is for those people, who are willing to confront their pain, accept themselves as permanently changed, and make difficult choices…

Countless individuals are satisfied to go on resenting and hating people who wrong them…

They stew in their own inner poisons and even contaminate those around them…

Forgivers, on the other hand, are not content to be stuck in a quagmire…

*They reject the possibility that the rest of their lives will be determined by the unjust and injurious acts of another…*

Sometimes forgiving was easy for me; sometimes forgiving was a very bold choice…

Whatever kind of choice it was, it always led me to a more peaceful and loving heart…

It always left me happier and free to move on to create healthier relationships with others and with myself...



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Wed, May 14, 2008 - 11:04 AM
It's always amazing to me how many people can't see that being resentful is giving away one's power. When you hate or resent someone, you allow them to dictate how you feel, and they more than likely don't even know or care that they have that power.

Forgiveness to me equals freedom
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 11:27 AM
Excellent statement, NK! Do you mind if I quote you on that one?
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 12:41 PM
go right ahead...Sometimes pearls spill outta my mouth! (Or off my fingertips in this case)
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 12:57 PM
for The Brave
Amen girlfriend!
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 12:59 PM
NK!!!!
Don't be tellin ur naughty stories here!!! Pearls spilling out of your mouth...I know you were going for wisdom but all I could think of was necklaces for some reason....tee hee!

ANYHOO---Arell this is so right on...I try hard...sometimes it takes awhile for the forgiveness to come through...but most of the time I make it there....
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 1:02 PM
Indeed, my lass, indeed...
Forgiveness is really only for the brave... I love that line!

It's on my profile. "Change is our only constant." Heraclitus said that over 1500 years ago and people still ignore it!

And when there has been damage from any wound, change can only come from forgiveness and you can only heal if you get first aid, you know? That first aid is within yourself, everyone has the tools, most chose to ignore them because it pushes them outside of their little comfort boxes. They want to cling to others to help them see the light when it is shining behind their eyes, you know? Too bad so many people just can't get their heads wrapped around that... It's hard, scary and truely only for the brave - just like honesty, faith and love...
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 1:05 PM
Probably the biggest mistake we all make is blaming "THEM" for everything. Each "I" needs to make the change then "them" becomes irrelevant.
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 1:14 PM
I am so lucky to have such wise friends!
Wed, May 14, 2008 - 3:32 PM
This is what burner love is all about:-).
Thu, May 15, 2008 - 7:04 PM
And there comes a day....
when you are filled with lightness....and it was all so trivial....Thank Goodness for growing older and wiser....
 

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