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Tue, February 19, 2008 - 10:55 AM
Now my loving is running toward my life shouting,
What a bargain, let's buy it!
(Rumi)
I used to think that this poem was about a willingness to die for love -- a very romantic and dramatic idea. Like Romeo and Juliet. Or the Lady of Shallot.
But now I read it as a willingness to give up your life -- your ideas, beliefs, ways of being in the world. Somehow, that's the harder real choice. And recently, I've known two people who loved their lives more. So it goes.
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Tue, February 19, 2008 - 11:37 AM
I interpret it differently. It definitely speaks of compromise in relationships, but also to take advantage and give into love when it is in front of your face.
I don't think you have to give up yourself to be with someone you love. Yes, there are sacrifices....and you may not live exactly the same way as you had. But your ideas, beliefs and way of being don't have to change......or rather, they change, but in the way anyone's life and beliefs change as they get older. I think the healthiest relationships are when you can be yourself.....your own unique individual. And if one feels they are losing themselves, they need to take a step back and figure out why they feel this way, and how to remedy it (it might mean taking more time for yourself, or ending a relationship). |
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Tue, February 19, 2008 - 4:27 PM
A true love will make you a stronger person. You each become better people by being together.
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Tue, February 19, 2008 - 4:28 PM
A true love will make you a stronger person. You each become better people by being together.
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Tue, February 19, 2008 - 4:30 PM
And I guess I feel so strongly about it I couldn't help post it twice. Sorry about that. =)
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Thu, February 21, 2008 - 9:11 PM
Thanks girls. You remind me why it's good to have friends to help keep me grounded. Relationships can be so confusing -- it's sometimes hard to know which way is up, esp when falling in love w/ someone who adores, charms and captivates me, but is also very different, and in a very different life place. I have always tended to believe the things that men tell me under the umbrella of love, but I think sometimes the observant girlfriends have a better perspective on what's going on.
In this case, the interesting and tricky part is that I feel that at the core of our beings we are so very similar -- so aligned, so complimentary. But the layers of who we are and where we are -- our personal histories and how our views of the world have been shaped by our life's paths -- are so very, very different. I cannot wait to get to LA next weekend and see you both dance! I think it will be just the kind of adventure and inspiration I need. Hugs and much love to you both, my beauties. |
