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Female Reggae DanceHall Partner Needed

David — Sat, 12 Jul 2008 18:32:02 GMT

Hello everyone I have just moved to Oakland, Lake Merritt Area and i am looking for a dance partner to go out with once in a while. I can dance to any beat but i am more into Reggae music. Please read my profile first so you don't have to ask me to to tell you about myself If you have YAHOO,AIM or MSN, let's chat. about it and see what develops.

Does the first letter of your first name reveals your sexual identity ?

David — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 02:51:35 GMT

According to studies, the first letter of your first name reveals your sexual identity ... What do you think? Repost this with the letter of your first name. -A- You are not particularly romantic, but you are interested inaction. You mean business. With you, what you see is what you get. You have no patience for flirting and can't be bothered with someone who is trying to be coy, cute, demure,and subtly enticing. You are an up front person. When it comes to sex, its action that counts not obscure hints.Your mate's physical attractiveness is important to you. You find the chase and challenge of the "hunt" invigorating. You are passionate and sexual as well as being much more adventurous than you appear; however, you do not go around advertising these qualities. Your physical needs are your primary concern. -B- You give off vibes of lazy sensuality. You enjoy being romanced, wined, and dined. You are very ha ppy to receive gifts as an ___expression of the affection of your lover. You want to be pampered and know how to pamper your mate. You are private in your ___expression of endearments and particularly when it comes to lovemaking. You will hold off until everything meets with your approval. You can control your appetite and abstain from sex if need be. You require new sensations and experiences. You are willing to experiment. -C- You are a freaking beast. You are the sexmaster. You do what you want, when you want...and it comes as no surprise because everyone always wants it from you. You are definately the best ever. Others should stop now to save the embarrassment. -D- Once you get it into your head that you want someone, you move full steam ahead in pursuit. You do not give up your quest easily. You are nurturing and caring. If someone has a problem, this turns you on. You are highly sexual,passionate, loyal, and intense in your involvement,sometimes possessive and jealous. Sex to you is a pleasure to be enjoyed. You are stimulated by the eccentric and unusual, having a free and open mind. -E- Your greatest need is to talk. If your date is not a good listener, you have trouble relating. A person must be intellectually stimulating or you are not interested sexually. You need a friend for a lover and a companion for a bed mate. You hate disharmony and disruption, but you do enjoy a good argument once in a while it seems to stir things up. You flirt a lot, for the challenge is more important than the sexual act for you, but once you give your heart away, you are uncompromisingly loyal. When you don't have a good lover to fall asleep with, you will fall asleep with a good book. (Sometimes, in fact, you prefer a good look.) -F- You are idealistic and romantic, putting your lover on a pedestal. You look for the very best mate you can find. You are a flirt, yet once committed, you are very loyal. You are sensuous, sexual and privately passionate. Publicly, you can be showy, extravagant, and gallant. You are born romantic. Dramatic life scenes are your favorite fantasy pastime. You can be a very generous lover. -G- You are crap in bed!(Remember....I didn't write this!!!! LOLOL) -H- You seek a mate who can enhance your reputation and earning ability. You will be very generous to your lover once you have attained a commitment. Your gifts are actually an investment in your partne r. Before the commitment, though,you tend to be frugal in your spending and dating habits and equally cautious in your sexual involvement. You are a sensual and patient lover. -I- You have a great need to be loved and appreciated... Even worshipped. You enjoy luxury, sensuality, and pleasures of the flesh. You look for lovers who know what they are doing.You are not interested in an amateur, unless that amateur wants a tutor. You are fussy and exacting about having your desires satisfied. You are willing to experiment and try new modes of sexual ___expression.You bore easily and thus require sexual adventure and change. You are more sensual than sexual,but you are sometimes downright lustful. -J- You are totally fucking marvelous! -K- You can be very romantic, attached to the glamour of love.Having a partner is of paramount importance to you. You are free in your expression of love and are willing to take chances, try new sexual experiences and partners provided it's all in good taste.Brains turn you on. You must feel that your partner is intellectually stimulating otherwise you will find it difficult to sustain the relationship. You require loving,cuddling, wining,and dining to know that you're being appreciated. -L- You are very romantic, idealistic, and somehow you believe that to love means to suffer. You wind up serving your mate or attracting people who have unusual troubles. You see yourself as your lover's savior. You are sincere,passionate, lustful, and dreamy. You can't help falling in love. You really enjoy stimulating yourself, though you are fairly new to it. You fantasize and get turned on by movies and magazines. You do not tell others of this secret life,nor of your sexual fantasies. -M- You are emotional and intense. When involved in a relationship, you throw your entire being into it. Nothing stops you; there are no holds barred. You are all consuming and crave someone who is equally passionate and intense. You are willing to try anything and everything. Your supply of sexual energy is inexhaustible. You are very social and sensual; you enjoy flirting and also enjoy mothering your mate. -N- You need constant stimulation because you bore quickly. You can handle more than one relationship at a time with ease. You believe in total sexual freedom. You are willing to try anything and everything. Your supply of sexual energy is inexhaustible. You are a flirt yet once committed, you are very loyal. You are sensuous, sexual,and privately passionate. Publicly, you can be showy,extravagant, and gallant. You are born romantic. Dramatic love scenes are your favorite fantasy pastime. You can be a very generous lover. -O- You are very interested in sexual ac tivities yet secretive and shy about your desires. You can re-channel much of your sexual energy into making money and/or seeking power. You can easily have extended periods of celibacy. You are a passionate, compassionate, sexual lover, requiring the same qualities from your mate. Sex is serious business; thus you demand intensity and diversity, and are willing to try anything or anyone. Sometimes your passions turn to possessiveness, which must be kept in check. -P- You are very conscious of social proprieties. You wouldn't think of doing anything that might harm your image or reputation. Appearances count, therefore, you require a good-looking partner. You also require an intelligent partner. Oddly enough, you may view your partner as your enemy; A good fight stimulates those sex vibes. You are relatively free of sexual hang-ups. You are willing to experiment and try new ways of doing things. You are very social and sensual; you enjoy flirting and need a good deal of physical gratification. -Q- You require constant activity and stimulation. You have tremendous physical energy. It is not easy for a partner to keep up with you, sexually or otherwise. You are an enthusiastic lover and tend to be attracted to people of other ethnic groups. You need romance, hearts and flowers,and lots of conversation to turn you on and keep you going. -R- You are a no-nonsense, action-oriented individual. You need someone who can keep pace with you and who is your intellectual equal the smarter the better. You are turned on more quickly by a great mind than by a great body. However,physical attractiveness is very important to you. You have to be proud of your partner. You are privately very sexy,but you do not brag, you are willing to serve as teacher.Sex is important; you can be a very demanding playmate. -S- You are secretive, self-contained, and shy. You are very sexy, sensual, and passionate, but you do not let on to this. Only in intimate privacy will this part of your nature reveal itself. When it gets down to the nitty-gritty, you are an expert. You know all the little tricks of the trade,can play any role or any game, and take your love life very seriously. You don't fool around. You have the patience to wait for the right person to come along. -T- You are very sensitive, private, and sexually passive; you like a partner who takes the lead. Music, soft lights and romantic thoughts turn you on. You fantasize, but do not tend to fall in and out of love easily. When in love, you are romantic, idealistic, mushy, and extremely intense. You enjoy having your senses and your feelings stimulated, titillated, and teased. You are a great flirt. You can make your relationships fit your dreams, often times all in your own head. -U- You are enthusiastic and idealistic when in love. When not in love, you are in love with love, always looking for someone to adore. You see romance as a challenge. You are a roamer and need adventure, excitement, and freedom. You deal in potential relationships. You enjoy giving gifts and enjoy seeing your mate looking good. Your sex drive is strong and you desire instant ratification. You are willing to put your partner's pleasures above your own. -V- You are individualistic, and you need freedom, space, and excitement. You wait until you know someone well before committing yourself. Knowing someone means psyching him out.You feel a need to get into his head to see what makes him tick. You are attracted to eccentric types. Often there is an age difference between you and your lover. You respond to danger, thrills, and suspense. The gay scene turns you on,even though you yourself may not be a participant. -W- You are very proud, determined, and you refuse to take no for an answer when pursuing love. Your ego is at stake. You are romantic, idealistic, and often in love with love itself, not seeing your partner as he or she really is. You feel deeply and throw all of yourself into your relationships. Nothing is too good for your lover. You enjoy playing love games. -X- You need constant stimulation because you bore quickly. You can handle more than one relationship at a time with ease.You can't shut off your mind. You talk while you make love.You can have the greatest love affairs all by yourself, in your own head. -Y- You are sexual, sensual, and very independent. If you can't have it your way, you will forget the whole thing. You want to control your relationships, which doesn't always work out too well. You respond to physical stimulation, enjoy n ecking and spending hours just touching, feeling and exploring.However, if you can spend your time making money, you will give up the pleasures of the flesh for the moment. You need to prove to yourself and your partner what a great lover you are. You want feedback on your performance. You are an open,stimulating and romantic -Z- You are and very attentive person, who requires the same attention in return from your partner. In love you seek quality, not quanity. You are secure in your sexuality and seek the same in a partner. Beauty comes naturally to you and you will look for the same in a partner. You are loving, caring and open minded. You like cheese. 10:54 PM - 0 Comments - 0 Kudos - Add Comment - Edit - Remove YOUR AGE BY sex math Current mood: cheerful

Grade your relationship readiness.

David — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 02:49:50 GMT

Grade your relationship readiness. Assignment #1 You think you are ready to settle in with someone for the long haulbut are you sure? This exercise will help you figure it out. Step 1: For each statement, give yourself a check if you agree. * Im done with just fun; I want to spend my time with someone I really connect with. * Im in control of my life (that is, things are in order, I have no big issues distracting me, and I have time to devote to developing a good relationship). * Im financially responsible. * I have a healthy social network of friends and family. * I have my own dreams and goals aside from finding a long-term relationship. Step 2: Review. If you didn't agree with the first statement, you may not be ready to settle down just yet. Sometimes people are looking for a long-term relationship just because they feel like they should be in one, says Jennifer Viewmont, LCW, president of Deliberate Living, a Raleigh, North Carolina-based coaching service that specializes in relationships. But be honest with yourself: If you're not in that mindset yet, dont rush it. Continue to date casually. Now, whether youre looking for fun or The One, you can still benefit from the exercises that follow (think of it as a kind of advanced placement course). Look again at those other four statements and note any missing checks. Those are the areas to work on improving. Heres why: Like attracts like. Every person looking for a serious relationship should strive to be the kind of person he or shed like to marry, says Rachna D. Jain, Ph.D., a psychotherapist and life coach in Beltville, Maryland. Assignment #2: Study your summer-romance history. Sipping margaritas outside, splashing around in a kayak: Summer activities make it easy to share amazing times with just okay dates. But if youre looking for a real relationship now that fall is near, try this exercise, says Jain. Step 1: Take a sheet of paper and divide it into three columns. In the first, write down all of names of fun people you've dated. In the second, jot down the first word that comes to mind when you think of this person, and, in the last column, summarize in just a couple of words why this person wouldn't be a good long-term partner for you (i.e., selfish or too adventurous). If you can't think of a disqualifying trait for someone, explore the possibility of moving this relationship from fun to serious. If you are no longer dating that individual, consider the possibility of a fun type of person being a long-term prospect down the road. You just may open yourself up to a whole new pool of people. Step 2: Get out a fresh sheet of paper and again divide it into three columns. In the first column, list all of the disqualifying descriptions from the previous exercise. Then, in the center column, identify the opposite, positive trait that you'd need from a long-term love. Example: If you listed selfish, define the characteristic that you desire in a partner. Maybe it's respectful of my feelings or perhaps its altruistic and caring. In the third and final column, list people in your life who've possessed these positive traits. (They don't need to be romantic relations; include family members, friends and co-workers, too). Now, summarize your findings: I want a man/woman who is (positive trait) like (person/people who fit this trait). Do this for all your traits, and focus on finding someone with these qualities. Ask yourself: Where would this kind of person be hanging out? Can my friends, relatives or an online dating site help me meet this kind of person? Heres why this exercise works so well: The main shift from fun to long-term has to do with values and compatibility, says Jain. This exercise not only forces you to define the values and qualities are most important in a partner but also asks you to develop a game-plan for seeking and reaching out to people with great potential. Assignment #3: Edit your attitude. A few miserable mismatches can convince you that all the good ones are taken. Accurate assessment? We think not! You need to prevent your dating frustrations from sabotaging your success, says Tonja Evetts Weimer, MA, a relationship coach in Greenville, South Carolina. Start with this exercise: Step 1: Carry a blank note card for one week. When a downer dating thought (i.e., Theres no one out there or Everyone my age is married with kids) enters your mind, jot it down it down on the card. Step 2: At weeks end, examine the negative thoughts you've recorded. Then, one by one, challenge them in writing. Sample revisions: There are 101 million single people in the United States; I may need to explore different approaches to meet the right one for me. Or, Everyone I hang out with is married with kids. I need to make an effort to meet new friends who are single and up for going out on Saturday nights. Step 3: Define alternative approaches for reaching your goal. Example: I will tell two friends (name them specifically) that I'm looking to expand my social circle or I will join a softball league to meet a few new going-out friends. Step 4: Refer to your card any time self-defeating thoughts about dating surface. Your goal is to infuse yourself this fall and beyond with a positive attitude toward dating. A negative attitude holds you back, because you'll view situations in ways that validate your beliefs, says Viemont. If you think, the only single people in my town are losers, then you are bound to find faults with every person you do meet. What's more, left to fester, a negative attitude can turn you into someone who's not so fun to be around. On the other hand, keeping an open mind about the dating process can lead to more positive, proactive behavior and (who knows?) maybe even a perfect match before the next schools out season arrives. Nicci Micco is co-founder of www.whatrealwomeneat.com and a contributing editor for SELF; she has also written for More and Mens Health.

Just a Request

David — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 02:48:47 GMT

Why is it assumed that when a guy request a friendship from a woman he wants sex? Yet when a woman request a friendship from a man, most men dont think of sex right away, well at least i dont. I was just thinking out loud. Your input Please

Does she want to date you?

David — Thu, 19 Oct 2006 02:45:54 GMT

Does she want to date you? By Alan Goldsher Guys can be kinda dumb. Im not talking kinda dumb in a low-IQ kind of way remember Ken Mr. Jeopardy Jennings? Last time we checked, he was a guy and clearly not unintelligent. But in terms of figuring out how to comprehend a womans feelings about us when were trying to make the leap from friends to friends who kiss, forget about it. This is especially true for guys whove been burned in the past (and who hasnt been?) who are wary about rejection. Maybe were not totally illiterate, but we often have a difficult time reading signals. So here, a few signs shes interested consider them your green light to get closer. The lets laugh signal Distinctly not-dumb guy David Wygant, author of Always Talk To Strangers, is an excellent signal-reader. If she makes you feel like a stand-up comedian, even though youre not that funny, she wants to take it to the next level, says Wygant. Similarly, Rosemarie of White Plains, New York, shares, If Im interested in a guy, I kind of tease himI try to get a funny, bantering chat going. It shows that Im interested in playing a bit of a cat-and-mouse game, you know? I'll say something like, I think youre just making that up, or Honestly now, has that line worked? but I say it with a big smile and eye contact so he knows Im just joking. The tell-tale time sign If you are friends with a woman and sometimes wonder if there might be more there, take heed of when she wants to hang out with you. If she wants to meet you for a quick work day lunch, chances are she doesnt fancy you in the way you might hope. But if she asks you to meet her for a drink in the evening or to see a movie with her on a Saturday at 8 p.m., she may be casting you in more of a boyfriend role. Says Shelly of San Diego: I work with a lot of guys and admit to getting crushes on coworkers from time to time. I'll chat them up about new movies I want to see, and if one Im interested in asks me out, I do what I can to make it at night on a weekend. That makes it so easy to grab a drink or food afterward and get to know each other on a more personal level. The body language clues OK, so the odds of a woman reaching out to hold your hand while youre flirting with her are slim to none. So how does she use her body to show you shes interested? Jess from New York believes a womans gestures will send you the message. Her body language will give her away if a woman leans in toward a guy while hes talking, mimics his body language, and maybe sneaks in a subtle touch here or there, these are pretty good signs that shes into him. Obviously, he should get her phone number and actually call. And how does a guy know if a woman isnt interested? If she is looking around the room while hes talking to her and crossing her arms across her chest, says Jess, shes probably not that interested. Also, if she tells the guy that he would be perfect for her sister or she suddenly brings up the fact that shes been talking to her ex-boyfriend, theres probably not a spark there. The guy should just move on to a woman who is worth his time or possibly take the uninterested woman up on her sister offer. The look of I like you A guy should also know what kind of eye contact is waving him in. Direct eye contact that lasts more than a couple of seconds is a sign of interest, say the experts. And if a woman looks from your eyes to your mouth, well, things are in very, very good shape. I dont know if its conscious or not, but when I like a guy, I find my gaze wanders from his eyes to his mouth, says Moira of St. Louis. Its definitely a seduction move; it lets him know that Im thinking about what it would be like to kiss him. Gentleman, if youre getting that signal, this is another time you want to go ahead and get that phone number. Taking the next step Once we men realize she likes us, likes us, our minds are oftentimes so blown that we have no idea how to proceed. Fortunately, Wygant does: Once she gives you the hints, you need to close the deal. Ask her to talk to you away from her friends or call her up on the phone and say, You know what? I want to take you out for a nice dinner just the two of us. What if the object of your affection is a woman you've known as a pal for a while? Over dinner, you have the talk, advises Wygant. You say, Id really like to become more than friends. Id like to start dating you. What do you think of that? At this point, shes given you every single sign that this is the conversation shes been dreaming about, and of course the answer is going to be yes. So it all really boils down to a two-pronged plan: Pay attention and take a chance. If you focus your energy on the woman in question rather than on yourself or your surroundings (which is what you should be doing anyway), youll pick up more than you ever thought you could have. And if you disregard the very obvious signs the laughing, the touching, the eye contact and you dont go for it, well then, then you are kinda dumb. Alan Goldshers book, Modest Mouse: A Pretty Good Read, will be published by Thomas Dunne Books in August 2006. Visit his website at http://www.AlanGoldsher.com, or write him at askalan@cs.com.