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The truth of it is - I am mostly on here to meet like minded women. It's true.

I love moving towards beauty - in all of its forms . . . unhurried late afternoon walks exploring the river valley, lying on hills under the sunset and enjoying the whisper and rustle of leaves and the cool smells of autumn . . . Preparing a vegetable stir-fry for a few intimate friends and lingering afterwards, with glasses of Malbec, enjoying each other's company . . . Slipping into my black utili-kilt and dress shirt for a moonlight wine and cheese . . . Leisurely wandering the farmers' market on Saturday mornings . . . Singing songs on my guitar to the cool ocean breeze while you roast perfect marshmallows over a slowly dying bonfire on the beach . . . Waking up in our sleeping bags under the stars and our lips are touching before our eyes even open.

I travel a lot. I imagine us on a road trip, exploring new towns, poking in and out of little shops and cafes, trying new and strange local delicasies, find hidden waterholes and slipping into the cool, refreshing water and then baking in the sun for a while before we head back to the hostel to rest, cuddle and then dress up and hit the town with new friends we just met that day.

I've been successfully self-employed since I was 18 and I've built my various careers - slowly - on honesty. Integrity, authenticity, being real and respecting people's dignity matter to me more than money (but I do very well anyway). I believe in being forthright with people - even when it's uncomfortable. I don't change my mind just to appease people and make them happy. But I also think it's important to really listen and value other people's needs. To have a spine but also a heart. My clients know this about me and return it.

I love women. I am in awe of their depth, their flowing and shifting moods. The way their smiles can shift from smoldering and naughty to tender and open to bright and radiant. I love the beauty of a woman who is angry like a wild storm crashing the sea against my cliffs, or shut down and vulnerable like a turtle pulled into it's beautiful jade shell. I've enjoyed many amazing experiences with women i'll never forget. My relationships with women (ex-girlfriends - who are still friends, summer flings, best friends and my grandmother) have taught me more about myself than any of the books I've ever read or courses I've taken.

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I grew up in Edmonton going to an alternative hippy school. In kindergarten we would sit carting wool, then spinning it and then knitting our own recorder cases.

I'm mostly here to meet a woman to fall in love with. It's true.

About you . . . You're in your early to late twenties. You're fit, curvy, healthy and slim and have long dark hair. You revel in movement and dance and both exploring and enjoying your body. Your veneer of being quiet and reserved at first covers your immense depth. You are strong both in obvious and secret ways. You give a killer back rub. You have kind eyes that sparkle with openness, mischief and spontaneity. You're an empathic listener. You're comfortable in your own skin (you don't obsess with fitting in). You're wise, and enjoy close, rich and deeply honest friendships with wonderful people. You radiate an earthy warmth, and can't help but be curious and care about people (who are always better for knowing you). Among friends - you can be a sarcastic, provocative, and scandalous bad ass - you've experimented with your dark side (and enjoyed it). If you're right for me, we will crack each other up every day and settle into each other's arms every night. Do you know why? . . .

You are the kind of woman who looks at the contents of your laundry soap to make sure you aren't polluting the earth. You don't overdo it on the makeup or perfume, but you dress so beautifully that it breaks the world's heart open - all with clothes you found at a thrift shop or got from friends.

You can't believe you're actually reading a profile on POF. But you are tired of the bar scene. You're not here because you can't find men who are interested IN you - you're trying to find a man who's interesting TO you and who 'gets' you. I might be that man.

We had Summer Solstice bonfires at Hawrelack Park where are the families and children would get together for a big end of the year picnic and celebrate. Then, when it was dark, we would gather around the crackling fire for stories. So many happy memories from those times. The school, to my immense heartbreak, collapsed when I was in grade 6 due to politics I have never fully understood.

I also have the happiest memories of playing in the backyard with my dog Blackie who my brother and I found in someone's backyard when I was four years old. And of my father who passed away when I was young.

I went to public school in junior high and then to Western Canada's largest performing arts high school. It was a wonderful, open and creative environment and I was blessed with incredible teachers across the board.

To the utter dismay of many of my teachers, I never went to university after high school.

Since then . . .

- I've done close up magic (card tricks etc) since i was 12

- street performing magic (which i have discovered is unspeakably harder than it looks),

- improv comedy more or less weekly since I was 16,

- led over 80 day long workshops for student councils and peer support teams from around Alberta over a span of about 7 years. They were a lot of fun and very well received and seemed to really have an impact on some of the youth who came. I miss it.

- worked under the table on and off for three years in california leading enviro/social justice summer camps all around north america for youth ages 15-25 where we'd spend a week exploring environmental issues, what it was like being young men and women in the world, stereotypes, racism, and sharing our feelings in a safe space.

- convened gatherings of leading young changemakers from every inhabited continent around the world - www.youthjams.org

- traveled a lot (Sweden, Brazil, Mexico, Hawaii, most of the USA and a lot of Canada)

- Spent a year in Nova Scotia learning Scottish Gaelic and then 5 months on the Isle of Skye in Scotland at a Gaelic college

- I now do work with some of the most inspiring people in Canada and help them in their work to make the world a better place.

- And in December of 2007 I started a project to help good folks in Edmonton come together to keep our town green, sustainable and original.

IDEAL DATE: My perfect first date is a non-date. It's two people being together and getting to know each other. How about we stay in the moment and explore? If we get past that then the romance will flow easily if it's there to be shared. In other words, I don't date. I connect and explore the possibility of what can happen.

We learned Greek, Roman and Norse myths in elementary school, having Homer's Osyssey told to us by the teacher from the front of the room. We would bake our own bread in class, play capture the flag in Mill Creek ravine and somehow consistently persuade our french teacher to let us play soccer during french class.