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How do you make friends?
Sun, May 6, 2007 - 1:31 PMThis is on my mind so much now because we have this move coming up. The closer it gets, the more nervous I get. Every time we move it seems to take me 2 years to find a group of people I fit in and have fun with. Then I find my niche and it’s time to move again.
I’m fortunate to have more good friends now than I have at any other time in my life and this may not even be a problem in Sacramento since I have friends and lots of family there already unlike anyplace else we’ve moved. But I want to make it easier this time if I can, so I’d like to hear how other people make friends or find a group of people they fit in with.
To change the subject, hubby & I just got back from seeing Spider Man. It was fun just to go out to a movie together, we don’t do that very often anymore since movie prices are so high. Later we’re going for a bike ride. We’ve had a nice weekend together and I’m happy to know that whatever the future holds at least I’ll always have my best friend here by my side to face it with me.
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Sun, May 6, 2007 - 4:42 PM
Girl, I feel ya. I grew up in a small town, went to the same school for K-12th grade, same church, same neighbors, etc, etc, so I NEVER had to learn how to make friends til I was an adult. Went off to college, and it was like major culture shock for me. They threw all of us freshman in a room together, called it a "mixer", and expected me to talk to STRANGERS. Whaaaat? I was so freakin' uptight. So, sadly, I learned to drink. I certainly would not suggest this method for anyone else, but it worked for me......kinda. It also worked against me at times (oh I have a LOT of stories), but it did help me loosen up a little. NOW that I'm a big girl, it does come a little easier, with or without alcohol, but I'm certainly not the one in the room that people gravitate toward. I tend to come off as standoffish, or bitchy, or whatever. I married a Navy guy, so I know what it's like to pick up and move far, far away from any friends and family. It's not easy. I did a lot of reading in those days. I never did buy the whole "Navy wife" thing, so I was never in the auxiliary or anything. Actually I don't think I've had any real close friends outside of work until bellydance. Lucky for me the Alchemy girls are super-supportive and friendly, or else I probably wouldn't stick with it. So, I guess what I'm trying to say here is, find people who have similar interests, by taking a class or joining a club or gym or something. It's way better to have just a few great friends than a whole slew of acquaintances.
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Sun, May 6, 2007 - 9:29 PM
I think Sandee said it perfectly. Believe it or not, I have a really hard time making friends, too. Mostly though, that's about me not trusting strangers, not really about any sort of shyness on my part. So, getting into something I really enjoy at least gives me the advantage of knowing that these people are into SOMETHING I'm into and maybe that will lead to something more.
Also, you can start making friends here on tribe! Look up tribes located where you will be moving to, especially those involving something you are interested in. You can start some virtual, no-strings buddyships and maybe it will lead to some real-life buddies once you move and decide to meet a few of them offline. :) |
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Mon, May 7, 2007 - 6:41 AM
Brianna, I feel the same way when it comes to new and different things...thats why I want you to know that you have been the most sweetest and very approachable chick I know. From day one I have felt very comfortable around you and found it very easy to be myself......I hate your leaving, if I throw myself down and kick and scream will it help? I know, you must follow your soul mate and bestfriend. I understand what your talking about there. Life has been grand since Jason entered my life. Could no imagine life without him. We just "get" each other and support it.
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Mon, May 7, 2007 - 10:00 AM
I think you're definitely smart as hell and great fun to hang out with - if you could only click so well with ALL of jeremy's friends girls as you did with me and with lucas? LOL definitely glad you decided to come check out the bellydancing - even after lucasio dropped out on us! I hope it's been as much fun for you as it has been having you there!
and don't forget! I'll be in Sacramento by the end of the year! Our boys will be wanting to have guitar hero battles anyway - so maybe we'll find something fun of our own to do! I've already scoped out all the yoga classes.....and your bike club idea was a great one - I'm sure you'll meet lots of fun peeps there. They have such beautiful trails there - I only got to check out a couple - but I'm totally jonesing for some rollerblading along the river....gotta find some kind of voodoo potion to finally heal up your ankle! I'm really hoping you can check out Hot Pot Studio with me when I come in October (2 weeks, among other things, for Dan's wedding in San Francisco on the 13th)....Unmata still scares me - espcially that crazy pony dance thing - but talking to Bo on tribe has really convinced me to at least give it a shot! but until then, I think we've got time to do lots more damage in Augusta this summer! (especially if we ever decide to get the cosmic bowling bellygirls trip together!) xoxoxoxo |
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Mon, May 7, 2007 - 3:03 PM
Thanks girls! I think the only solution is to pack you all up and take you all to CA with me:) What do you think? No? Well at least I can keep in touch with you all here on Tribe. I'm so happy I got invited to attend Mari's classes (thanks Rhonda) you girls have all enriched my life and made it soooo much more fun. I plan to take full advantage of all that fun over the next few months as my stress levels rise from the job and house hunting process. Cosmic bowling, Indian food...anything else that involves fun bellydancers I'll be there!!
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Tue, June 5, 2007 - 3:59 PM
Still waters run deep..
If I never paid attention to the shy ones, I would've never met my husband! Shy people have always intrigued me! I'll always gravitate to the one in the corner or wanting to get to know the shyest guy in school (which would always freak them out!).
Believe it or not, I come off shy or can get kind of introverted sometimes but I know the ones where being introverted means being painfully shy and that's no fun I'll bet! I can't tell you how many times I've heard "I had no idea So-&-So was so fun" or "Your husband is great; he's just so quiet!" like that's a flaw! The shy ones I have found are the most interesting, have great senses of humour, loyal, trustworthy, and just great people that if you just give them a chance or take the time to get to know them you'll find a gem! Guaranteed!! |
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