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Re: what lies beneath (in Limerence Experienced) sorry to dig up the memories of such dreadful days. :(

Have you noticed that having survived "the living dead" that your attachment to life - and to death- is different? Or different from other people's?
discussion post on Wed, January 28, 2015 - 8:33 AM
Re: what lies beneath (in Limerence Experienced) "I wonder who I am beneath all this crazy LE. I like the idea of discovery.... "

Hold on to that! I can see the glimmer of you in that line :) You are curious and open - and limerence won't kill that. :)

Something you may want to rethink is... read more
discussion post on Tue, January 27, 2015 - 4:21 PM
Re: what lies beneath (in Limerence Experienced) "I wonder who I am beneath all this crazy LE. I like the idea of discovery.... "

Hold on to that! I can see the glimmer of you in that line :) You are curious and open - and limerence won't kill that. :)

Something you may want to rethink is... read more
discussion post on Tue, January 27, 2015 - 4:12 PM
Re: what lies beneath (in Limerence Experienced) I felt like an imposter for a loooong time - being dead on the inside w/ LE and still going through the motions of being part of the land of the living. It felt like a second by second blow to what remained of the integrity of my being, my consci... read more
discussion post on Tue, January 27, 2015 - 12:06 PM
Re: Isn't limerence just love? (in Limerence Experienced) This topic of limerence and love reminded me of an old conversation we had here in 2009. So, I went back to find what I thought back then. Funny, after all this time, after all the hell I went through after I posted this, and now that I am post-LE... read more
discussion post on Mon, January 26, 2015 - 9:57 AM
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"Overdoing leaves insufficient time for savoring." Margaret Roach

"I have always thought that the length of a relationship and it’s ending should not determine how we remember it."

"where you find something out of your control you will always find god." isis

"nonsense draws evil after it" CS Lewis, The Four Loves

Overpowering another person by personality, intensity, argumentation, or any other means is in essence a form of slavery.

"I'd rather clean up after you 1,000 times than find out you were afraid."

"Ravish hope
heedless imperfection
deceptive debridement
empyrean abyss...
radiant Life
my azure Muse."

Character... the willingness to accept responsibility for one's own life... is the source from which self respect springs." Joan Didion

I need your grace to remind me to find my own.

If you never thought you might be bipolar until you got involved with a certain person it is likely the other person who is off, not you.

A friend of mine who is a 12 Stepper recently wrote this: Many drug addicts think "I want to feel the high right now. I can handle the fall out/consequences. I think it will be worth the fun I have right now."
Don't let this describe your limerence. It IS an addiction but you cannot handle the fallout.

"If you make a mistake, note it rationally and logically but not emotionally. Minimize its size, impact, and meaning. Then forget it and go dream about your goals, the exciting things you are now working toward. "

"The inevitable end of a relationship is no reason not to go there in the first place."

It's not about achievement, it's about adventure.

The idea that you can do everything right and avoid a crisis is a myth.

He may think he is sincere about you. And you may be the primary object of his affection. But, he isn't really grown up enough to follow a reasonable script, and it probably isn't advisable to wait around for him to grow up (on the chance that he might want to).

"When you see crazy coming, cross the street."

"Safe upon the solid rock the ugly houses stand:
Come and see my shining palace built upon the sand!"
Edna St. Vincent Millay

"Fear can never be satisfied, it can only get stronger, only desire can be consummated." Kevin Behan

""I guess part of the appeal of the LO is having the space to want them in because they're not there." Notreallysarah

"A person can negotiate for the extras in life... but never negotiate for respect."

Kelsey's First Law of Human Dynamics: Those in pain will choose to stay in pain until it rises to such a level it can no longer be ignored. Change will then emerge.

When people can't push you around anymore their true colors come out.

Men do not like to be on the "outs" with a woman. They just don't. They want to feel like they are a good guy. I think he is happily married but he doesn't want to be on the outs with you. He is trying to feel better about it.

Men are not to be relied upon as emotional crutches. The moment you do that, they poof! So don't expect another man to replace the emotional crutch you just lost. You CAN be your own emotional crutch. You must remember you have your OWN path in life, your OWN purpose to fulfill, and if a man so chooses and YOU so choose he can accompany you on your path, but he cannot substitute for your purpose in life.

It's tough to fall in love with yourself when you are fascinated by someone else.

There is no substitute for peace.

"giving in to love as a prelude to falling in love with life"

Whoever tries to win you over into trying out new things that you have already rejected, is simply trying to control you.

"Be wary of those who enjoy your attentions but who do not place a premium on your society." Celestia

What you want isn't merely what you get. It's where you'll be. It's who you'll be. Better to sprain your sensibilities early than to find your life irrevocably fractured down the road. Speak now or forever sacrifice your peace. (Just Say What You Want, Tien)

I will begin to listen to what my feelings are trying to tell me. I may not always know what to do, but I am willing to experiment with my greatest asset.

No man can ever guarantee you a "happily ever after", and you need to take responsibility for creating a life that you, and only you can live with, right now.

There's no such thing as a 'fun fling' with someone who takes advantage of you.

"I’m compatible with someone who loves, respects, trusts, and cares about me, that has values, shares my values, and isn’t trying to fight being a decent person in a decent relationship. I'm not compatible with bullsh*t." (Baggage Reclaim)

Writing is turning one's worst moments into money.
- J. P. Donleavy

Half my life is an act of revision.
- John Irving

Reading and weeping opens the door to one's heart, but writing and weeping opens the window to one's soul.
- M. K. Simmons
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My church offers no absolutes
She tells me 'worship in the bedroom'
The only heaven I'll be sent to
Is when I'm alone with you
I was born sick, but I love it
Command me to be well
Amen. Amen. Amen

Take me to church
I'll worship like a dog at the shrine of your lies
I'll tell you my sins and you can sharpen your knife
Offer me that deathless death
Good God, let me give you my life

If you are unfamiliar with that song, listen to it here: read more
Wed, December 3, 2014 - 5:31 PM permalink - 0 comments
A quote:

We tend to like those who are generous with us, allowing us to make mistakes and be imperfect without holding it against us. When people are generous, we feel like we can breathe around them. We feel like we can be more authentically who we are. Generosity is a spacious phenomenon.

Yet most of us are pretty stingy. Rather than looking for people’s positive traits, we assess them, instead, through the filter of who we think they should be or shouldn’t be, an... read more
Wed, May 18, 2011 - 7:25 AM permalink - 3 comments
A year ago someone on tribe pointed out this website to me - I haven't checked it out in months... looked today and found this entry. A must read for those of us who are hurting or have been hurt relationally.

She hits a lot of areas that are still sore spots for me. But, gratitude through tears is my new favorite emotion.

Happy Thanksgiving to my American readers! Wherever you are today, sometimes it’s good to reflect on... read more
Thu, December 9, 2010 - 5:58 AM permalink - 7 comments
I was flipping around the radio one morning this week and I heard someone singing:

"Would you dare to believe
that you still have a reason to sing?
Because the pain that you've been feeling
is the hurt before the healing.
Becuase the pain that you've been feeling
is the dark before the morning"

It caught my attention because it put words to my current experience. I am daring to believe... more daring than believing :) I think it's called hope.

I am not a fan of Christian "r... read more
Wed, November 3, 2010 - 11:51 AM permalink - 2 comments
I spent the last week on "vacation". Yeah, I am sooo not rested.

I've written a little bit about this dog trainer, Kevin Behan. I've been following him on his website and decided to drive to his home to get Lou (aka tasmanian devil) trained by him. Lou is aggressive, motivated by fear. If you came to my house he would, given the freedom, grab ahold of your pant leg and tug and maybe (even likely) bite the crap out of you. This is the kind of dog Kevin likes. He lives a long way fro... read more
Tue, August 3, 2010 - 11:12 AM permalink - 7 comments
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