My partner and I visited Honolulu, recently. We had been chatting and trading photos, online, for a few weeks. We met with a couple, who we had met, online. We went to dinner, then a club, then our hotel-room.
Our first experience, sharing our sexuality with others, was a learning experience. Experiencing the 'reality' of sharing our sexuality with others is much different, than our ideas. Developing friendships, and finding chemistry is nescessary, for us; We must share attractions, with each other's partners. Including everyone, if with a couple, is nescessary; Everyone must be enjoying themselves, equally.