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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:16 AMAnyone have a rock with a big hole under it that I can just crawl into?
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:24 AM
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I'm trying really hard not to cry. This is just the topper on my stress cake. |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:38 AM
well 3 suggestions
1st one, sit him down with a carton and make him smoke the whole thing one after another. Supposedly it will make him not want to smoke again. (truthfully it will probally just sink in the addiction even worse so I'd probally not use this one) 2nd suggestion go ahead and cry while beating his ass. Find out which store sold him the cigarettes and have the police issue citations and contact to cigarette distributors. They (the distributors) will actually cut off vendors who sell to under age smokers nowdays. Or so I've heard. 3rd just ask him if he really wants to break your heart? And then let the water works loose. (guilt tatics work on some kids) HUGS!!!! I'm so sorry, wish there was something I could do, having smoked for years I know what a horrible and EXPENSIVE F-ing monkey cigarettes can be. Never mind the medical expenses that may lie in my future after having done that to myself. Greatest thing I may have ever done for myself was quit. |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 11:41 AM
The thing is he's the only in my life I had left to trust and believe in. I don't think he knows or cares how much he's just broken my heart.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:17 PM
I don't suggest making him smoke a ton of cigarettes- then you end up dealing with a sick kid, AND being upset.
I know I'm young, but as someone who started smoking young- ask him why he's smoking, how long he's been smoking, etc. Telling him the dangers of smoking isn't going to do anything- he knows them by now. Turn on the water works and ask him not to smoke. and yes, then find out where he's getting them and kick the legal shit out of that person/establishment. |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:26 PM
::hugs:: Of all the things you didn't need. This probably isn't something he's doing to deliberately try to hurt you. It's probably something he's experimenting with to try to be cool at school. It goes with his clothing image. He needs to know that he has hurt you, and how much, because I don't think that's something he really wants to do. He has a good heart.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 12:58 PM
Honestly and truly out of love... knowing he is breaking your heart will make him feel guilty but it won't make him stop. If he's already REALLY into smoking it won't be enough. Kicking his ass and/or grounding him also won't be enough. The carton being chain smoked would probably work but it would definately make him sick as a dog and he might wind up resenting you. Since he is a pretty sensitive guy... taking him to a cancer ward in a hopital would probalby be a good scare tactic. It is one thing to see picutres it is entirely different to see it first hand. My mom died from lung cancer at the age of 52 after having smoked for over 30 years.... however, at that time I had already been a regular smoker for about 7 - 8 years I was not able to quit... but it was hell to watch my mom deteriorate. I smoked for around 20 years and quit just 2 years ago and it took many many tries and finally it took the medication to stop.
good luck...it is going to be hard to get it through to him that he is hurting and destroying himself because at 15 he is still invincible. |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 2:08 PM
I am so sorry.
Please tell him that they haven't dropped enough for him to buy cigarettes, let alone smoke them. I'll cry at him for you. Give your eyes a break for awhile. |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 4:33 PM
adrienne, I'm so sorry!
dang kids.. I'm so sorry, I thought I could trust mine too.. well, they are all little beasties with their own minds.. and they have no idea what can happen.. they are gonna live forever/nuttin will happen to them.. yadda yadda.. My son didn't start smoking till he was in his middle 20's.. this is after him telling me for YEARS he'd never smoke, hated smokers ect.. he now smokes cigs, cigars and that other funny green stuff too... he reminds me of how you and Mikey are really close..he used to hang with me and my friends when he was mikey's age till he was in his early 20's.. my other son.. well, he smoked a little aound 17-19.. but he found at around 22 that pot and meth was better.... he now lives in Kentucky and is clean!!!!!! I'm VERY happy about it.. I tried for 3 years to get him to stop.. but I couldn't do anything.. my 20 yr old daughter is still clean.. never did anything except tried booze a few times.. she swear she never will smoke either.. we can't totally control our kids.. if they want to do something bad enough they will find a way... I like the idea of the hospital and seeing what damage it can do to him.. guilt, and punishment.. don't think that would change him.. again.. so sorry! |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 4:43 PM
I'm sorry I won't be out next weekend or I'd talk with him for you.... even though I've sworn I won't be one of those a**hole ex-smokers I've always hated... I am willing to share with him my experiences and what I went though with my mother. If it is still an issue come Ft. Mac and you'd like, I will talk to him then... if for no other reason to give him some perspective.
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 7:23 PM
Smoking....I did it when I was in 5th grade. It was mostly stress and wanting to fit in with those I thought were cool. It is an addiction.
Don't preach, you will lose him. Talk to him like an adult. Tell him that you know that what you both have been going through has been hell and that he might be looking for a way to show he is "Grown up" Let him know that this is a habbit that will do nothing but ruin health, lead to death and for the record costs waaaaaaaaaaaay too much to be worth whatever cool factor or high he is acheiving. If he starts to give you the whole "it is no big deal" rag, take him to the City of Hope. Have him look at and talk to cancer patients. My dad died there, I saw too many things to ignore. He will have to make up his mind for himself. If you lecture you will lose him. Let him know it is not accepted in your house period and also let him know that YOU know you can't make him quit, you can only give him information and the choice is ultimately his. And, yeah, if you can find out who sold the cigarettes to him, turn them in! Good luck sweetie |
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Wed, May 7, 2008 - 8:28 PM
Tell him I won't teach him any more lockpicking if he's gonna do that crap.
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Thu, May 8, 2008 - 12:24 AM
BIG hugs...
I had a customer today who kept coughing and she said to me, "It's not catching...I have lung cancer... of course I haven't stopped smoking." she just sighed and looked so defeated. And seriously, what do you say to that? I'm sorry doesn't cut it because honestly, it's self inflicted... of course I'm sorry for her, but... yeah it was awkward and sad. My kids haven't hit this stage yet so I really can't help there.... :( |
