Ok, so scientists have recently discovered that the human brain never stops making neurons! Do you know what this means?!
Fundamental brain wiring can change, even in adults!
THIS IS HUGE and completely at odds with the nihilistic and commonly held belief that whatever the roots are of a person's traits, by adulthood, they are as hard-wired as a computer's motherboard. We've known for a while that the brain is not localized, meaning that the functions of a certain part of one's brain can be damaged and another, seemingly unrelated, section will take on the function of the damaged part...but THIS discovery is all types of different.
Basically, the belief is that our brian circuitry is affected by stimulus. Whether we recieve unconditional love or feel protected and safe when our brains are developing, shape the circuitry that then shapes character traits (altruism, selfishness, tolerance, xenophobia, openness, defensiveness, even extremes like obsessive compulsive disorders). So...this implies that the brain remains a 'work in progress' and that most people, (there will always be exceptions) are capable or "fixing" our childhood or life "damage". I quote, "These discoveries change everything about how we should think of ourselves, who we are and how we get to be that way. We now know that the qualities that define us at one moment in time come from experiences that shape the physical and functional brain, and [they] continue to shape it as long as we live."

Bottomline...CHANGE IS ALWAYS POSSIBLE

ps--the change doesn't come in the form of a pill or the experiences of a single outing to a certain said desert, but from prolonged, dedicated, hard work. Sorry y'all, you knew it couldn't be that easy.

Here's to hope and change