Sexual Appetite, Questions by Lexie and Astarte’s Responses.

“What is a healthy sexual appetite?”

A sexual appetite is different for each person. A sexual appetite is the desire that is created within you to respond to yourself and the external world. Sexual desire is the same as your passion for writing, for singing, for dancing, for walking and for anything you want in the world. Sexual desire is the passion that is created within you to build a momentum of joy for bliss in every moment. Not every person sees Sexual Energy as sexual energy, but reflects it onto other things. The only reason is because they are blocked of their deeper emotions, as most people in the world are. Sexual energy is the same as emotional energy and spiritual energy. It is all the same, as it all comes from the same source; the love of the self, true bliss within!

“Is sex something that a person needs everyday, every week, every month, every year?”

A healthy person would have sex every day, and even several times a day. Most people do not understand the value of allowing their sexual energies to release. Sexual energy is healing energy, and as we allow the sexual energy to clear within ourselves, and let go to the universe we have the utmost potential for creating miracles in the world. As we “release” we can create power, for ourselves and the world. The release of the sexual energy, sexual liquids, that are called Amrita, have the ability to manifest all your desires, as you let go of the old, the negative and allow more love to come in.

However, again, the reason why people do not allow themselves to experience this pleasure, this bliss, is because of the beliefs held in the subconscious mind that tell you “I don’t care,” “I don’t want it,” “I’m not good enough”, “I don’t need it,” “I don’t love him/her”, in other words: “I don’t love myself”, “I’m mad at him/her,” and so on. These are negative conditions that have been trained to us since we were children, and the only way to remove these conditions is to educate yourself as much as possible of what the truth is for you, removing these patterns and controls over your mind through tantric practices and sexual healing rituals, or other forms and tools of emotional processing to get to the root of who you are and why you hold onto beliefs that keep you from allowing yourself to have all the love that is waiting for you, that is limitless in possibilities.


“Our perception of sex in this society is out of balance.”

Yes, society’s perception of sex of completely out of balance, and not many people know the answers. Sex is natural, as much as eating and releasing toxins on the body. Humans are creatures made to have sex, and perform intimacy with the self and others. Without this contact, humans die; from their minds, from their passions, from their hearts desires and emotions stay stagnant and left hidden within. It is natural for the body to perform, and any instance the sexual appetite is awakened, is a perfect opportunity to not only receive pleasure, nurturing and love, but an amazing ability to release old wounds left hidden within the subconscious mind. Sex is an ancient ritual for healing; in all aspects of its dimensions.

“We our gluttons for activities such as eating, drinking, smoking; how do we recover a natural balance?”

The best we can do is try. If you are out of balance, it may not have anything to do with sex, but with the emotional turmoil within your own mind. Sexual activity may be the only tool some know available to heal. When you allow life to flow, you become free. If you have questions of a deeper need of balancing diet, eating, and smoking, the best thing to do is remove yourself from such objects until you see the attachment you have on them. Going through a meditation detox and spiritual awakening can help see more clearly of what is keeping you from your own balance. Finding a Healer or Therapist to target specific issues to address is an excellent way to get to the root of what is keeping you out of balance. And, of course, time can be the greatest teacher.

“How do we know what a healthy sexual appetite is? The media and society would have us believe that it is something that we want all the time, as much as possible, whenever we can get it.”

A healthy sexual appetite is whatever is appropriate for you. When you honor your body, your feelings and your process, then you are living a healthy sexual appetite. Many people are afraid of sex and sexual energy and don’t know what to do with it. They run from it, and push it away. However, allowing the sexual energy to flow through you is exactly what can bring you to the truth of your own blocks and issues that have nothing to do with sex, but with self love.

“How do we really feel inside?”

How do we really feel inside, or how do you really feel inside? Whatever is true for you is your truth, and whatever is true for me is my truth. Everything is temporary and all emotions can be healed when you allow them to. It doesn’t matter what they are, but it does matter that you honor them and love them.

“How much would sex factor into our daily lives if we didn't have this kind of unhealthy exposure and obsession?”

Sex would factor into our lives as much as we desired it to be. Being sexual is having self-love and giving sex or receiving it is allowing that self-love to manifest through you onto yourself and onto others. Having self-love is the greatest gift you can give to yourself and to others. Every moment you experience love is another opportunity to grow into a more powerful, beautiful and amazing person; as you are!

“What does sex mean to you?”

To me, sex is a blessing. Sex is a gift from God, and sex is as natural as eating, sleeping and speaking. Sex is an opportunity to grow into a multi-dimensional being filled with love to heal the self, myself, and the world. Those who suppress sex, are only suppressing their feelings and giving their will away to a hidden reality that does not exist. To become alive, passionate and excited in life, Sex is the strongest tool for creating it. Sex is love, and without love, we become weak, stagnant, stale and cold. Sex is beauty, and a radiant form of igniting passion into all areas of our lives; not just with those we share sexual intimacy with. It gives us the potential for living in bliss, and isn’t that what we all want? To live in bliss every day and every moment we can possible. The world would be a much happier place if we were all living in bliss, rather than living in fear!


“and how often do you really need it?”

I trust my feelings and allow sexual interactions to occur as often as my heart, and body is open for it to be received. My challenge is teaching others to allow themselves to be open, and no longer afraid. I teach others that when they open their hearts, they can become free.

See the book: Sexy Witch, by: LaSara FireFox, Ch. 1; Your Body Is A Temple; Your Body is a Sacred Space
And the book: Desire; The Tantric Path To Awakening, by: Daniel Odier

Love and Blessings,

Astarte Sharananda Deva, Dakini
5-25-06