I do think the book " Whipping Girl" written by Julia Serano does give a refreshing slant to Trans and feminism.
Link to her book/web site
www.juliaserano.com/whippinggirl.html

She does say it well.

Praise To The Women On My Journey ~ By Rev. Melissa M. Bowers



To the women on my journey…

Who showed me the ways to go and ways not to go.



Whose strength and compassion held up a torch of light and beckoned me to follow.

Whose weakness and ignorance darkened the path and encouraged me to turn another way.



To the women on my journey…

Who showed me how to live and how not to live.

Whose grace, success and gratitude lifted me into the fullness of surrender to God.

Whose bitterness, envy and wasted gifts warned me away from the emptiness of self-will.



To the women on my journey…

Who showed me what I am and what I am not.

Whose love, encouragement and confidence held me tenderly and nudged me gently.

Whose judgment, disappointment and lack of faith called me to deeper lever of commitment and resolve.



To the women on my journey who taught me love by means of both darkness and light.



To these women I say… Bless You and Thank You from the depths of my heart for I have been healed and set free through your joy and through your sacrifice.

Hi
I am having a hard time describing my sexuality to self or anyone else.
I am a pre-op and before I started this journey my sexuality was more or less irrelevant. Now I just don’t know how to even describe this feeling or fear.
What do I do now?
My penis used to be a tool (pretty much as would a strap on) to help pleasure my partner. That really is what I considered it and most of the time how I used it. Now I feel it is such a liability. It is a reminder (probably mostly to self) that my journey is incomplete.
I am scared that if I get aroused that it will get erect (even on hormones it may happen) and I will be seen more or less as just a chick with a dick type thing a term used frequently by the porn industry.
I am not, though I am all because I wasn’t born gender true.
So I question my sexuality.
How can I have a relationship intimate or otherwise (which I would love to have) with this indecisiveness about this issue? Even talking about it to others is hard to do, because I am just not sure how to even articulate this inter conflict which has become such an emotional issue to me.
I have gone and go to munches, play parties and other social type events, but have this mental block which has precluded me from do anything more than just gabbing and avoiding just about anything that might lead to my arousal.
I so want to but am scared of myself.

kay