Revolutionary succulence
I received a marriage proposal in the Rachel Brice workshop today
Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:21 PM
Today, California's Supreme Court finally lifted the ban on same-sex marriage www.sfgate.com/cgi-bin/article.cgi It is only right that this happen here, where the precedent was set sixty years ago with the lifting of the ban on interracial marriage. What a beautiful blessing!
When San Francisco Mayor Gavin Newsom said we could finally marry each other on Valentine's Day of 2004, we got up there as fast as we could to get hitched on 19 February. Here's my page of memories from that day members.cox.net/bonnie_mar...mepage.html
You can thank Mayor Newsom for his courageous stance with one click right here act.credoaction.com/campaign...r_newsom/
Exactly six months later, we received the heartbreaking news that our San Francisco marriage had been declared null and void and our marriage license fees were refunded. (I have never been so sad to deposit a check. Money coming into your life is not always the same as prosperity.)
I have been fighting and pushing as hard as I possibly can since then, along with thousands of other people who refuse to tolerate this discrimination against the queer community. You can support the organizations that have been working tirelessly towards this victory for equality by clicking through any of these links
www.hrcactioncenter.org/action...-137168
www.eqca.org/site/pp.asp
gbge.aclu.org/
www.equalityforall.com/
One of the most important things you can possibly do to honor our upcoming union in California is to vote this November. People who hate us for loving each other have collected 1.1 million signatures in order to amend the California constitution to ban same-sex marriage again. We cannot just hope that won't happen, we have to get to the polls and vote our voices. Please urge everyone you know to vote in November, because there is much more than a presidency at stake. Voter apathy is absolutely unacceptable at this historic turning point.
Today is the very first day of my life that I have been granted access to the same rights that the majority of California's citizens have enjoyed in their marriages. Today I finally count as fully human to the beautiful state of California, even if not to this country yet. We have a long way to go yet to gain our federal rights, but this is an exquisite moment right here and now!
I am going to go completely bonkers until my wife gets up here to Sebastopol so I can kiss her and hold her and tell her I do! I do! a zillion times I do!
Should we get married on the fifteenth anniversary of our first date in June (that would be the day this ruling takes effect)? Should we get married the week of Gay Pride? Should we get married on the full moon in August and let our trip to Costa Rica be our honeymoon? Oh my Goddess, we have a wedding to plan!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:39 PM
Congrats to both of you! Great choice for getting married...all of them! I'm sure you will decide the best one! Once again, congrats!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:40 PM
CONGRATULATIONS!!
I'm so glad you hear you have won this huge battle.
Wherever and whenever you decide to get married I wish you all the best! Is the vote just for Californians? If not, I'll make sure to cast my vote in favor of this decision. |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:47 PM
Congratulations!
That is wonderful. My best wishes to you both!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:55 PM
Now...are you gonna wear those fabulous wedding Melos you mentioned a while back?
This all makes my heart very happy to hear :) Despite all the ignorance in this country, there is hope that everybody will get a chance to be happy! You two....of all people...who touch lives and inspire, deserve happiness!! Just having the sort of undeniable and unconditional love that you have with each other is enough, but being able to express it in a union like marriage makes it all the more wonderful!! |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:55 PM
When I saw this news break today, you were the first two people I thought of. I am SO happy for you both!!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 4:59 PM
Congrats...
to you and Laura!! It was great to hear Rachel announce it this morning! :)
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 5:04 PM
Awesome
My fiance and I wish you the best. And we're so happy that you can now legally do what you should have been able to do all along.
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 5:05 PM
OMG!!!! Congratulations to both of you!!! I have tears in my eyes after reading your blog. How wonderful for you!!!!!YAY!!!!!!!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 5:07 PM
It's such an honor to witness your process. Congratulations. You two are soooooo delicious together.
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 5:18 PM
that is sweet sweet news!! Congratulations ladies!!! I'm very happy for you!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 6:10 PM
Oh my god honey, reading this made me cry. This is such good news and I'm so happy for the both of you!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 6:22 PM
Oh my darling beautiful Bonnie. I love you to the stars and back and around again. I am so grateful to have you in my life. I am the luckiest girl in the world every time I get to look into your perfect eyes. I can't wait to kiss you!!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 6:55 PM
YEAH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
That's all I have to say. You two are perfect for one another and it shows every time I see you both together.
Love you both |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 7:12 PM
Bonnie! I promise I will deliver your bride to you as quickly as legally possible. (Or your bride will deliver me...well...coz I drive like an 92 years old) Anyway, I will not let anything get into my way to have Laura in your arms as soon as possible...No bathroom break, no ciggy break, no pit stop...all the way from SFO to your arms!
I am going to be riding with someone who is going to be all smiley, all sentimental...Awwwwwwwwwww I am so happy for you two. This is such a wonderful new! Today is a good day! I love you both very, very much. xoxoxoxoxoxo |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 7:16 PM
congratulations!
That is such a beautiful photograph. So heartwarming . May the two of you be blessed with many many MANY joyful years of wedded bliss!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 7:17 PM
yayyy!!! :D
congratulations!! *huggles* |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 7:20 PM
YAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAAY!!!
Congratulations to the both of you! :D |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 7:57 PM
OMG!
I love you ladies!!!!! I'm so happy for this day and for your exciting news! 'bout damn time the courts catch on!!! |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 8:27 PM
Blessed be dear Bonnie & Laura. Thank you for letting your love be a beacon for so many of us.
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 9:01 PM
So wonderful!!! Congratulations!!
My vote will reflect our voice!!! I looked up the full moon in August (Saturday the 16th, moon in Aquarius) in my We'Moon calandar, and the quote on the page said "Our single purpose Is to Magnify that Light We share between us." by Mimi Foyle, 2005 |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 9:12 PM
sqwee, happy tears for you two amazing, lovely women. good luck deciding. i narrow it down to either anniversary, (kinda my fav idea i think) or the full moon right before your trip. gee hard to decide.
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 9:24 PM
Yeah girls! Congrats! I can't say much that others haven't said, but I'll be thinking of you two when I cast my vote this fall. :-)
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 9:30 PM
Congratulations!!! Love is love, and I hope you are very happy!!!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 9:59 PM
Congratulations! When I heard the news I immediately thought of you two and my heart just welled over with joy for you both. What beautiful news!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 10:06 PM
Congratulations! :*-)
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 10:23 PM
Set the date 1 year from today,,, and have it at Tribal Fest!!!!!!!!
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 11:04 PM
holy CRUD you gals have oodles of friends!!!!
I'll just add my congratulations down here waaaay at the bottom of the list lol! That picture is absolutely gorgeous! Laura, the look on your face.....there aren't any words. **HUGS** to the both of you. My brother and his fiance are also starting to plan a date (they've been engaged for waaaay too long!). You'll have plenty of company in wedded bliss lol ;) |
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 11:38 PM
Yay! Congratulations!
What a wonderful and joyous post!! *hug*
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Thu, May 15, 2008 - 11:43 PM
awww Bonnie...
that was soooooooooooooo wikid to be able to stand right beside you when you told Rachel that happy news...and then she announced it in class... so many congrats to you and Laura!! many happy blessing to you both in whatever decision you make on your details... and thanks for putting a smile on my face... you extreme happiness really made my day!!! |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 12:02 AM
Dammit, youse guys are about to make me cry.
Costa Rica as a honeymoon would be absolutely fabulous. Whatever, it's up to the two of you. All I know is that I would love a bite of that wonderous wedding cake that you two will have. *mmmmm...cake* Here's to many more prosperous and wonderful years for you and your lovely wife. If only we all can experience the remarkable love that exists between the two of you amazing human beings. Thinking of you in Florida, Kaleena |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 12:30 AM
I think you should say your vows to one another everyday. :)
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:01 AM
Congratulations! Now i have to save up and get over there to see this magnificent event.
Well done to the both of you may your life be filled with bliss and love |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:20 AM
Im absolutely over the moon for you both.
Congratulations xxxxxxxxxxx |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:37 AM
Yay! It was so nice to hear that news today. There's a weddin' ta plan! :D
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 6:31 AM
when i heard the news my first thought was of how wonderfully happy yout two would be right at that moment. yay!
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 7:32 AM
Congratulations on the victory!! My hope is that California's sanity on this issue spreads to the rest of the U.S. I so happy for you and your wife.
YEA!! |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 7:48 AM
Congratulations!! What a wonderful day, good news, sunshine, smiling faces! Whenever you decide to have the wedding, may it be filled with joy and love and may you both continue to shine with the light of love for each other!
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 8:08 AM
YEEEEAAAAAAA!!!!!!
Whichever of those dates is first should be the day--I think if I were in your shoes, I would want to do it as soon as possible! The trip to costa rica can STILL be your honeymoon (o: |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 8:35 AM
Congratulations!!! I'm so happy for you both.
Do you know the song "City Hall" by Vienna Teng? It's one of my favorites. Give it a listen: www.myspace.com/viennateng |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 9:02 AM
That is FANTASTIC news! Congratulations to you both. NZ has had civil unions legal for a couple of years now and I hope that people here do pay attention to your message and vote to end discrimination.
Blessings to you both. |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 10:01 AM
YAAAAAAAAAAY!
congratulations! i'm glad there's progress being made SOMEWHERE!! :D i hope you two enjoy a beautiful life together |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 10:31 AM
I am so amazingly happy for you, and I am so glad the supreme court reversed the decision. I'm sure theirs going to be a fight to amend the constitution, but I don't see the opposition to this winning. When I landed from South Carolina yesterday and heard the court's decision, I was very happy.
You guys want a photographer ... ? :) |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 10:45 AM
WOOHOOOOOO!! Congratulations!! You asked: "Should we get married on the fifteenth anniversary of our first date in June (that would be the day this ruling takes effect)? Should we get married the week of Gay Pride? Should we get married on the full moon in August and let our trip to Costa Rica be our honeymoon?"
Why not all three? hmmmm ? |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 11:22 AM
The Beatles said "All You Need Is Love," but I think I should add a vote in November...
Ya know, just in case! ;-) I am so happy for you!!! |
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 11:31 AM
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! MY vote to support equal rights for all human beings will be my wedding gift to both of you. That, and I"ll probably place an order for a bunch more Melos soon ...
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 11:41 AM
that's beautiful!
or really, its just a long overdue relief! but I'm happy for everyone. :)
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:07 PM
Brought tears to my eyes :)
Congratulations and many blessings!
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 1:37 PM
WooHoo!!
Yea! I'm soooooo happy for you guys!!! You were the first ones I thought of when I heard the news. Congratulations and brightest blessings!
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 2:24 PM
I am so full of happiness, and especially for you two! What a sweet story!
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 8:00 PM
Congrats Ladies!!! I can't think of a more deserving or loving couple....Love Ya Both!!!
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Fri, May 16, 2008 - 9:09 PM
Do it NOW! Honeymoon till the end of Aug.! Enjoy Costa Rica, it's a blast!
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Sat, May 17, 2008 - 12:23 AM
So you know... I cried tonight. Congratulations from the bottom of my heart.
**HUGS** |
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Sat, May 17, 2008 - 7:20 AM
YAy Yay YAYYAYAYAYAY
SUCH a great news report--- You guys are so beautiful and make my heart so full of love. I am partial to August as that's when we got married, and full of luna love is always best!!! I wanted to go to Costa Rica too weirdly enough--- we took a road trip and went to Montreal--great place!!! xoxoxoxoxoxoxo!
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Sat, May 17, 2008 - 12:45 PM
Congratsulations to you both and many many years of wedded bliss and blessings to you. I am so happy that the Supreme Court of CA made the decision it did and I hope with all my heart that someday all couples in all the states will be able to also get married.
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Sat, May 17, 2008 - 1:06 PM
My heart sang with joy =D
In all my years, I have not witnessed such love, the energy was so profound that my tears welded up and just started flowing. It had taken much restraint from going up there and hugging you both =D
Thank you so much for sharing your love and such a sacred moment with us. That moment will remain with me for the rest of my time. Much love and blessings. |
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Sun, May 18, 2008 - 3:05 AM
"Today is the very first day of my life that I have been granted access to the same rights that the majority of California's citizens have enjoyed in their marriages. Today I finally count as fully human to the beautiful state of California..."
This sentence says it all. I'm so happy for you! |
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Sun, May 18, 2008 - 9:34 PM
WHEEEEEE!!!!
I got all misty reading this.... ;)
when's the big date, your adoring fans wanna know! |
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Mon, May 19, 2008 - 7:52 AM
magic moment
im so happy for you... it filled my heart with happines to witness laura ask you in front of EVERYONE at tribal fest... im honored to be a witness to your love and commitment to eachother. i told Laura "im glad you asked her cause if you hadnt i would have" lol..... congrats!i wish you both all the best!!!
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Mon, May 19, 2008 - 10:27 AM
Congratulations!!!!!
It's so wonderful that you two will finally be able to be legally married (again)! I absolutely love the picture. You can just SEE how in love you both are with each other! :)
I can't wait for the day when I, too, have the privilege of legally marrying my girlfriend! |
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Mon, May 19, 2008 - 3:57 PM
Congrats :-) got to see the proposal on stage but was unable to track you down in the crowds. My friend Chanda had to have her wedding in Canada for it to be legal which made it impossible for most of her friends and family in California to be there. Wish you many more years of happiness and joy.
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Tue, May 20, 2008 - 8:52 AM
There is still a war going on but I am so glad the battle has been won. It broke my heart as well when the marriages in San Francisco were null and void. It has been a hard long fight and having to constantly defend your love and exsistence is a tragic thing to go through. I was there during Tribal Fest when she proposed to you on stage and one of the things about that night that stood out more than anything for me was the fact Laura said she will continue to propose to you until it is final. 30 days is a long way away and I am praying that this is it and they finally leave you alone.
I would very much like to come to the wedding or at the very least the reception. |
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Tue, May 20, 2008 - 3:21 PM
congratulations!!
I am so happy for the both of you, and yes, you definitely have my support this November.
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Tue, May 20, 2008 - 7:53 PM
Aww look at that picy up there! ;-p I wish I could live in San Fran to vote.....*sigh* Do spirit votes count!? Well, they should darn it!
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 12:31 AM
When I heard the news I thought of you two immediately. Congratulations!!
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Wed, May 21, 2008 - 8:46 PM
I'm so happy, I'm so happy I don't know what to say. My heart is overwhelmed with joy. I could not be happier. Let me know when and I WILL be there if I have to walk to California!!!
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Mon, May 26, 2008 - 4:01 PM
oh my gooses you made my cry, but they were all tears of joy for you two wonderous ladies. your good news just totally made my month. many, many years of wonderous wedded bliss to you both!
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Thu, May 29, 2008 - 1:55 AM
I cried out in victory in our hotel's bkfst room when I saw it on the news. I was happy b/c love is love. I was happy for my sis who while not in love currently, could now feasibly have the same rights I get. I had no idea stoopit Laura would make me cry my eys out at TF with her proposal. Then I read this blog and also learned that you had been married once then had it taken away.
With all this hard work this love will endure eternity! Blessings you silly, sweet girls. |
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Sat, July 19, 2008 - 2:56 PM
Marriage!!!
Love, love, triple love! It's about time this amendment became final!
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