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Love~Truth~Acceptance
Tue, April 18, 2006 - 10:31 AM
Oftentimes we fall in love with the concept of a person... what we think they will be to US or in relationship to US...
It's important to accept the reality of your partner/lover/playmate in a very deep way.
In fact it is one of the greatest gifts you can ever give someone. Permission to be themselves - to speak their truth and encounter only love and understanding from you for it....It can be hard to speak your truth -- So often FEAR leaps up and catches our thoughts in our throat...like a big hand reaching up from our Gut to strangle our truth in our mouths....
Being brave and putting your FULL truth out there to your partner/lover/playmate is IMPERATIVE to a good relationship.
Being open to hearing and processing your partner/lover/playmates truth - no matter what it costs you to be open -
is among the most wonderful things you can ever do for someone...
Listen - Listen - Listen - ---- The world is giving you clues all the time...
It's a great big puzzle and most of us are lost in various portions of our own maze... It can be so hard to understand the WHY of hard or painful things...So easy to get stuck in the hard places of our own hopes and dreams not manifesting exactly as we had wished...
Being real and true with each other - Listening to the truth and accepting someone for who they are...That's good stuff...
So if you have something going on right now- and you might be afraid that talking about it would cause your relationship to have ruination --- trust me trust me.. be brave.. open up and communicate.
COMMUNICATION IS THE LUBRICATION OF LIFE!!!
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Today I had a person who is not a very old friend give me an amazing gift...
I was discussing some challenges I have been going through....This man was simply incredible..he reached over and placed his hand on my heart and said... You are Perfect --- You can let it go...Then he just said "let it go" so softly over and over while I cried and let out some of my emotions...
It can cost dearly to be with someone's truth... It can require processing and have impact and need your energy and attention in ways you did not realize... It ALSO gives you a strength to be working with REALITY as opposed to a construct in your own mind...
There is a clarity that comes from really diving deep into ones own emotions...From opening opening..
I have been opening and opening... my heart is sooooo wide right now... Like it has never before been...
In this time of exquisite self awareness - of honoring how deeply I feel - It was sooooooooooooooooooo wonderful to have a relatively new friend just BE loving and supportive out of the blue...to have his hand, just simply placed on my heart...so simple yet so so so powerful...
We are not alone in the world - Don't be afraid to open yourself up-- The universe is watching and while things might not always work out as you had hoped/planned/dreamed - along the way you will discover your own sense of grace and tap into a larger divinity in your own experience here on earth....
THUS -
~ Open up and share your whole self and whole truth
~ Be open to hearing and processing your partner/lover/playmates truth
~ Do not be afraid to reach out and touch the heart of someone you do not know that well.. sometimes that can be way better than your best of friends doing it...
~ As much as we can - let's love each other out here in our day to day interactions in the world... I mean really, after all is said and done - The love you take IS equal to the love you make....
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 10:45 AM
perfect
Capt'n E-
today has been a marvelous day, starting with discovering you on Tribe, and blasting off from there (and it's only 11:30 in the morning!). here's a little offering of my own to resonate with this post: after a very long, initially very beautiful but ultimately very hurtful relationship, I was in relationship with another man who was primarily "everything my ex wasn't." In other words, a rebound relationship. The relationship didn't last long, but it lasted long enough for us to come up with a maxim that has become one of the guiding forces in my life, not to mention relationships: "Never fear being fearless." |
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 11:09 AM
Beautiful and Timely
Your words touched MY heart - thank you.
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 11:20 AM
No Such Thing as "Relationship", a rant of sorts
What does it mean, "to relate"? If we do things for another, are we relating to them ? No; they don't have to be present for us to do things for them. When we feel something for another, are we relating to them yet ? No, not unless they are feeling our feelings. When we think of someone, are we relating to them ? Only in our minds.
To the extent we assume that any of these mides means we are relating to another person, we begin fabricating something we label a "relationship", even when no actual relating happens! We then use the word "relationship" as a symbol of convenience to represent an attachment to someone near and dear or to a need structure -- a simulation of relating -- expressing more self-involvement than any process of relating with another person. There is no such thing as a "relationship". We are either relating with each other or we are not. Relating comes easier for some than others. Some of us find difficulty in bearing the manifestation of others, while others find difficulty in remembering themselves and get lost in the other. Either way, we relate through our behavior and by the way we treat each other. Consider the doomed romance where both lovers profess powerful feelings for the other, can't stop thinking of the other and doing all kinds of things for each other, while treating each other poorly or badly. Relating expresses a function of any behavior that recognizes the presence of another person and responds to that presence in present time, when present together. When one lover or friend leaves the room, the relating ends. Though we may start missing them or start fantasizing about them, the actual relating has ended, despite all of our thoughts and feelings to the contrary. |
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 11:22 AM
typo
the word "mides", firs sentence of the second paragraph, should read "modes'
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 12:49 PM
Joyful
That's all I feel every time I read your words Captain. Thank you so much for being a part of the world.
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 12:56 PM
This weekend, I had a very powerful and deep hand-on-heart connection similar to the one described here. Really amazing to read this so close in time.
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Unsu...
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 1:21 PM
I've just discovered... that speaking the absolute truth is the most radical, audacious and liberating act on earth.
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 2:57 PM
It's interesting how you so frequently come up with blog entries that are so...timely. Thank you.
I've been struggling lately with the concept of being emotionally naked in front of someone. It's not an easy thing for me to grasp. Literally five minutes before I read this newest entry, we had a discussion on the topic. And the wierd thing is, that's the third time our thoughts have run parallel. Girl |
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 5:28 PM
Synchronicity and Courage!
Ah, Captain...your post is as beautiful and bright as your Rainbow Heart (quilt /pic!)
Yesterday, when i wrote to you re; your pops and your uncle...speaking words of experience,herbs and Love. (hope they were helpful!) As i closed my 'letter' I wanted to write / quote...'Remember'..."the love you take is equal to the Love you make!"..I heard / felt these words/this song....and felt It wouild be comforting (and True) for you to hear /receive.....but then i felt shy...how can i write this thought / lyric ; albeit beautiful ...in regards to his situation..it could be too corny/sappy...ot ...maybe he doesn't wanna hear that right now...but it Wasn't too corny...and you Did hear it...and You Gave it (courageously) to Us....as the 'not very old friend ' Gave it to you! Giving...taking...Making Love! Yes, Thank-you...I am reminded that an offering of Love is Always a Good Gift...and am thusly inspired to not hesitate to share what my heart Sings to me to Share...even with a 'not very old friend!' In Love~ Namaste~ SuZ Silverstream~~ |
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Tue, April 18, 2006 - 10:33 PM
Thank You
Your words and advice touched me and made me think about my relationship and the turth that needs to be there. Thank you
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Wed, April 19, 2006 - 11:13 AM
Wonderful and Beautiful
thanks you have made my day to have a great outlook. I try to do that anyway, but somedays are harder. So thank you for sharing with us.
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Wed, April 19, 2006 - 3:12 PM
Love life and it will love you back!
I enjoy reading your blogs Captain. In my work, I have found that most people do not love themselves which makes it difficult to love anyone else. Sure we can love anyone on a physical level, we are all sexual beings but we carry so much anger, hurt , hate that we are unable to step outside our shelves and love. These people cannot foster true and meaningful relationships.
In class today, I asked my students to love themselves, to have a love affair today with themselves. Internalizing the word love resonates deeply, it's my favorite mantra. This is said without judgement - if you look at how a person carries the spine this will generally tell you how open they are. Your body says a lot about you. I see it all the time in my classes, shoulders rolling forward, heading dropping forward, faces frowning, the spine so out of alignment. These people are like closed flowers unable to blossom. The heart center must be opened in order to truly live a meaningful and loving existence. B.K.S Inyengar says," To close the heart center is to close out the world, love the world and it will love you back". |
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Unsu...
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Wed, April 19, 2006 - 8:06 PM
the first comment says it all...
thank you
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Unsu...
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Fri, July 27, 2007 - 8:34 PM
I am having a really reallyhard time right now and your words made me cry. thank you!
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Sat, February 2, 2008 - 12:50 PM
the answer is LOVE
i love you my friend. thanks for opening your heart and all those other hearts you touch and all the inspiration and confirmation i always get from you. you're a true hero in my beautiful world and i look forward to catch up with you one of these days. when are you coming to visit hawaii? people.tribe.net/sprocketr...e5da289dea
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