The Art of Presence

In any erotic situation the most beautiful gift of all that you can offer, the core of what you are sharing with the other person, ultimately is not all the things you can do or activities that you are experienced at, but your SELF.

YOU – that slice of the universe that is uniquely represented and personified by your presence in the world. The greatest gift that we can offer to another person is the true, focused, present self.

This is increasingly valuable when considered against the distraction rich, mediastormed, attention deficit ridden culture of America in the last 20 years. We live in a world where Andy Warhol’s 15 minutes of fame have been digitally compressed into a 15 second mpg shown to the wide world on YouTube.

I use the word ART to make the idea of Presence ACTIVE in nature. Taking any activity as Artistry informs it with a richness of intention and allows you to treat it with the energy and respect it deserves.

How can we treat presence in erotic adventures as an Artform one might ask?

Here are two few simple things that may assist you in this Endeavour:

1-Prepare for your Erotic Adventure – Taking time before you enter into an erotic adventure to prepare yourself for the upcoming experience is something that is extremely helpful towards being present.. I will go over preparation in greater detail in a sec here but suffice to say for now that ANY form of preparation prior to an erotic encounter, from a big deep breath before you lick someone’s genitals to a lengthy scripting of an elaborate role play, has major value in helping you offer Genuine Presence to the experience.

2-Practice Mental Focus – Captain Erotica of course feels that it is totally fun and perfectly cool to let your mind wander during an erotic experience or to just let go into the undefined realms of pure pleasure. However that is merely one end of the spectrum, albeit one that is perhaps the easier for many people to inhabit.

The other side of this mental coin is the concept of FOCUSING the mind. With focus, one may blend the inner experience and outer experience together in a harmonious fashion. Any given moment of consciousness has an infinite points of focus to offer any being. Allowing oneself to be in the present moment during an erotic experience offers up innumerable ways to connect to the person(s) with whom you are playing.

Presence is something that Captain Erotica feels is practically guaranteed to enhance most erotic experiences. Try practicing a few of these exercises and see how it might heighten your experience.

Presence Exercises: There are infinite paths to the present …these are just a few

~Notice the light play upon your partners/lovers/playmates hair…

~Match the breathing rhythms of your partners/lovers/playmates.

~Eye Gazing - no matter what the activity... gazing into each others eyes is a surefire way to get into the moment

~Be extremely present and focused on the moment in a roaming fashion, letting your attention flow from point to point but never digressing into the past or future.

Try THINKING about what you are doing:

“I am now licking her fingers, slowing down I move to the little cleft between her index and middle fingers, she shudders, I lick slower”

Or thinking about EXACTLY what they are doing to you

“He is fondling my inner thighs, his hand brushes my cock, it moved away… I want it to move back” *(Editorializing is of course ok as long as you remain in the present)

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Presence is a Artful GIft which is greatly apreciated by others....

Note the utter focus on Jupiters face in the photo above.
Even though the Activity itself, having her hands bound, does not require her to look at Captain Erotica, she is utterly and totally focused upon him while he works upon her beautiful form...