living in eventful times

Unveiling

   Tue, May 5, 2009 - 7:36 PM
Just got back from my dad's "unveiling" in Toronto - that's a Jewish thing, a year after someone's death, the unveiling of their gravestone.

Family stuff, you know - surreal and wacky and painful and aggravating as shit -- are everyone's relatives as fucked up and crazy as mine?! (rhetorical question). Family stuff.

Death is all around me, it's all around all of us, as much as life is. I just keep getting caught up in these dumbstruck awestruck moments, and all I can do is cry (like publicly and embarrasingly) with joy. It's all so beautiful and fleeting, dying as fast as it can be born.

:)



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Wed, May 6, 2009 - 1:22 PM
I like his epitaph, it's very sweet.
Wed, May 6, 2009 - 11:01 PM
thanks, i did write that one. but i don't have a clue who wrote my mother's. She wasn't a grandmother, for one thing. And as for "never selfish always kind"...well, really, can anyone claim that? Mysterious...
Wed, May 6, 2009 - 11:23 PM
it all depends on your perspective,
but definitely from a large chunk of perspective --

life is quick.

like, blink-of-an-eye quick.

life, death, life, death. i've only forgotten about death for the first half of my life. you know, like postponed the thought.

but of course there were my teenage years of death perspective. skulls everywhere and not just cuz they were cool. death speaks thru time. death looks our DEEPEST challenges and goes "P'SHAW!!!" challenge has nothing over death, know what i'm saying?

so i say, cry with joy carmen! cry as much as you possibly want until the whole world SIZZLES with embarrassment!
life is surely worth a few massive sobs that -- in fact -- transcend emotional definition.

peace upon your father, love for your family.
Wed, May 6, 2009 - 11:37 PM
and Tibby too.