Spring cleaning

I was talking to a friend today and the question came up "why is it that rather than just do nice things that make the world better, people tend to do nasty ill-thought things that only make trouble?"

My take, cause we are all human. Rather than think and act with intent, often we let our emotions get the better of us and react to outside stimulus rather than initiate actions that are in keeping with our desires and morals.

But the line between logical and calculating can be a very thin one, I think of 'calculating' as being when we come up with reasons to justify an action, where as being logical is being truthful both about what we desire to be the case and what the real outcome of our actions will be.

Believing this, I also am always aware that I can and often are - wrong. Disconcerting, usually is it a combination of correct partly, but having an assumption in there that is false and so messing up the whole thing.

Here is an old example, a friend lets me down. She does it in a way that is in keeping with let us say, her more obvious faults. In this case; agreeing to do something in exchange for something else, and then when her turn comes, not keeping her part of the bargain. Not such a good friend, but the problem comes when trying to understand the 'why' of it. Knowing someone else's perspective is difficult at best, but I do know that no one ever casts themselves in the role of 'bad guy' everyone thinks (at least at the time) that they are right.

So, where does one go from here? Do you try to seek out the person and give them the other cheek to strike? Or perhaps better to take the lesson and move on? The sad thing in this case is I had been warned not to trust this person, by many people in my community, and I had seen her behave badly, but wanted her to be the nice person I hoped she was, in this case, a person of advanced years that many people warned me off . . . well perhaps I ought to listened to the majority.

It was a lesson in letting people be who they are, and not doing them the disservice to want them otherwise no matter how much one may think they are lacking . . . if you expect someone to act as they do, well they don't disappoint do they?

In taking this lesson and acting accordingly, I have not gone to the same old events - that were by all reports rather limp, and have instead spent my time and money on new events and had a MUCH better time than I have had in years. In fact I have spent more time getting PAID and less PAYING for my fun!
So, spring cleaning, keep that which pleases, and throw out the old worn-out stuff!

Saturday night at the SW Burlesque shoecase

I loved this long black wig the hubby gave me for xmas . . . .

Friday Night at the SW Burlesque

It was major fun to get to dance on the Kimo stage all by my lonesome, got to be in the big girls dressing room, had the time of my life. Danced with wings and veil, very pleasing! Now I have worn this costume three times and can sell it.

Selling my Rose pink costume

cgi.ebay.com/ws/eBayISAPI.dll
I just listed it on ePay, hope it goes to a good home

2nd Annual Southwest Burlesque Showcase

I am so excited, I get to do two different numbers over the two nights. I will be doing strait belly dance with a good dose of camp . . . . to dance solo at the Kimo was a big dream of mine. Tickets at the Kimo or evil empire (ticket master)

Costume, done, worn and well . . . .

I have to say I fail to love it on me . . . what ya'll think I should sell it for? There is a bra, belt, skirt, and gauntlets.

Sanity happens

Every once in a while, I realize just how crazy I can be. Usually it happens in a moment of pure sanity, tonight sitting with friends in a great restaurant, everyone jolly, no one whining or being a bore. Then it hit me, how many times this past year I could have had just that sort of evening, but did not because of silliness. The year before, double that . . .

I think we loose track of what matters, who are ideal selves are, and if you aren't your ideal self, who are you? Easy, someone you don't want to be. So whatever it was that was so upsetting (probably because it was totally your own fault) let it go, let the past be over, a swell time is waiting around the corer if only you would let it.

Happy New Year

Christine's Birthday is Saturday!

So we are having a little party for her, pot luck with some dancing in
the studio. All who know Christine (or are just curious as to what we
did to Teri's old house and studio) are welcome. 6-10pm.
Write me personally if you don't know where the house/studio is. This
will be a very casual affair so feel most welcome to just drop by.

Celine

My lastest work in progress

This is my 80"s bedlah, the colors I think speak for the name. I have already made a stretch velvet (black) draped shirt that has glitter in the same colors as the bedlah, as well as some gauntlets. I hope to wear it at the Post-holiday hafla in a couple a of weeks, this is two days (one working hard one not) work.

The Holidays are over time to dance!

This is from the Bellydance New Mexico group:
groups.yahoo.com/group/BellydanceNM/

But as Nicole is part of it I knew you would all want to know about it and support:

The after the Holidays Hafla and pot luck

A Night for Fun, Music, and Dance

January 19th 2008 from 7-9 At the 3rd Street Arts Space 711 3rd SW

Due to the intimacy of the venue attendance will be limited to 75 ticket holders including Performers.

Performers do not have to purchase tickets for themselves.

Tickets are $2.00
Performers who would like to perform contact Felecia@ f_Schreier@yahoo.com

For ticket(s)/Pot Luck information contact Nisaa @ nisaa_nm@yahoo.com

Brought to you by; Ted, Felecia & Nisaa