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My Request to Masculine Men.
Thu, February 7, 2008 - 12:41 AM
Femininity storms. Masculinity is fueled and driven by this, so do not blame us, tame us.
Stand up when we storm, and don’t blow over. Think of a mountain.
Expect a rainbow overhead when it clears.
Hold our hand while we affect the world around us, but do not carry the weight of our world on your shoulders.
We still have a little girl inside so hold us closely when we cry and let us get in touch with her. We will do the same and see the adorable little boy who became such a man.
Let us battle you, and imagine it as “cute” if it helps you to remove some of the emotion brewing over. If every chapter in the story of your love life were titled “Every Thing Is Just Fine”, no one would ever read that book.
Open up and be vulnerable. We will nurture because it is in our nature.
If you lead, we will follow. If you just stand there, we will walk all over you. We must be creating something in order to feel whole.
Masculinity helps femininity feel safe. Always walk us to our cars when it is dark. Provide and support us the best you can.
Dominate us but only be a chauvinist if you want to drive us a way, tear us down, and cut yourself off from a vital energy that gives life meaning beyond our wildest dreams. Tie us up if you must, but only because it makes you feel more masculine and helps you physically demonstrate your commitment. Never cause us pain.
We want your attention all the time. Allow me to repeat that. We want your attention all the time. We feed off it. Think of sex. Femininity needs to be filled! Masculinity fills.
Make sure we spend time apart. When we are away from you it gives us a chance to empty - to give all you have given us and leave us hungry for more.
Put us in our place rather than placate us. If you need time to yourself, do not retreat, simply announce it, and enjoy it. Feel how soft we are and imagine us as a warm place to return.
Please express your admiration for us often. Each little thing means more than you know.
Finally, this is your challenge:
Find out what makes us feel feminine. Cultivate our femininity with what ever that is. It could be pink, it could be cuddly, it could be soft and silky. It could be sensual and sweet, it could be rough and rugged. It could be riding a horse. It could be singing out loud!
Cultivate your masculinity as well. Find out what makes you feel driven and strong. Do more of those activities and feed that flame. Go fast, shoot things, get physical, exercise. Ride a horse, ride your lover!
Femininity storms. Masculinity is fueled and driven by this, so do not blame us, tame us.
-Sonya Ziegler
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Thu, February 7, 2008 - 12:48 AM
It was easy then for me to say “cool, you two go at it, I am done”, because I knew it was not a misunderstanding and a communication issue with you and him at that point but a matter of her (at this time in her life) not choosing to let someone in. She also has major issues with allowing him the space to be a masculine person. I could also see that she may need someone who, if they choose to accept the mission, would let her storm, and fucking rock her world with steadfastness. She is super femme; however, this lends great despair to a man who is unable to see her mood swings as “storms that are testing to see if her man will run” rather than “personal attacks” on his character.
Femininity storms! It is all over the place, and creative and beautiful and contagious and spontaneous. It has highs and lows and in its purest from almost looks like little girly silliness drawn directly from love. Untamed it can turn into controlling, whining, complaining, snide behavior. When harnessed however, it is without a doubt the most addictive and pure from of energy that is fulfilling and empowering beyond anything ever felt. A feminine woman behind a masculine steadfast man, will give drive and support, challenge and bring the yang to the yin, the heaven to the earth, the serpent to the phoenix, the light to the dark, we get it! It just is. |
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Thu, February 7, 2008 - 1:11 AM
Oh, and I thought I'd also point out that we are all a little of each as one can see in the Tai Chi symbol "yin yang" that reflects the inescapably intertwined duality of all things in nature, a common theme in Taoism, and the theories of modern quantum physics are remarkably similar.
No quality is independent of its opposite, nor so pure that it does not contain its opposite in a diminished form: these concepts are depicted by the vague division between black and white, the flowing boundary between the two, and the smaller circles within the large regions. Ah... so true for femininity and masculinity as I am reminded when I cringe at the thought of being a stay at home mom. |
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Thu, February 7, 2008 - 2:02 AM
Nothing vague about the yin-yang concept, of of your verse. I love it!
Thanx for sharing. |
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Thu, February 7, 2008 - 8:11 AM
dropped it like it was hot
insightful and honest. Lessons long in the learning. I thank you for this...
To see ones self is to see all in metta, awno |
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Thu, February 7, 2008 - 11:28 AM
love it
this is put beautifully...... if they only knew, and now they do!
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Tue, February 12, 2008 - 7:19 AM
About that book everything is just fine, I would read it.
Only a Mother would read that book titled "every thing is just fine" Because that is what Mothers want to hear. Maybe it is like putting your head in the sand attitude, maybe it is like, if you don't hear about it, everything is all right. Like a bird chirping in the meadow. No Mother wants to hear that their child is suffering, hurt, unhappy, or crying. When the child hurts, the mother hurts. I am so glad tthat you are the strong woman you have grown up to be. Love Always, MOMLET
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Tue, July 1, 2008 - 3:23 AM
Wow! Sonya, as much a gift as a request, and such an eloquent one! Thank you!
Oh, the dance we dance! |
