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When asked to describe myself, I half jokingly would describe myself as rigid and inflexible. But when it comes down to it, I think of myself as a simple guy, no frills, a no bullshit kind of guy. I like the simple things in life and don’t ask for much from those around me. Those who don’t know me well might think I am self-centered, and for the most part they would be right. That being said I am generous to a fault with those I care about. I work hard and expect the same kind of work ethic from those around me.

My upbringing probably has more to do with me being me than I want to accept. Growing up in an ultra-conservative family, I tend to find it hard to break free of this way of thinking. Living in a liberal town in northern California has opened my eyes to other ways of thinking, not all of which I embrace or accept.

Though I am gay, I find I don’t identify with most gay men that I meet. I guess I am unique in that way, or perhaps I just haven’t found others like me. I know they must exist, and slowly I am finding them here on Tribe. My partner of 10+ years is the exact opposite of me, and together we bring a balance to our relationship.

There is a lot of truth to opposites attracting. Those who meet us in person are surprised as to how different we really are, but find that after spending any time with us that we compliment each other very well. This isn’t to say that we only function as a couple, actually we do fine as individuals, we are two people and have our own interests and hobbies, and are comfortable pursuing and participating in them apart from one another. We have yet to start dressing or looking alike, like so many couples do, and if I were a praying type, I would pray that we never do.

If you were to ask me what I do for fun, I would have hesitate and then rattle of a list, in no apparent order; Spend time working on the house and property with my partner, running my dogs, flying my birds, eating good food, drinking martinis on the front porch with close friends, camping, target shooting and playing on the internet.

I have been away from tribe for a while, but am now back. Ihope to be able to still meet like minded people. If what you read sounds like you or someone you would like to get to know, email me, I always enjoy chatting with new folks…

Peace,

Dan