OK, so I'm a 40-something Danish national living in the small historic town of Port Townsend, WA. Although I still call myself Danish, I have actually lived in Texas longer than anywhere else; from 1981-2006. On some level, I find that kind of sad that I spent so many years in a place where I never quite felt "at home," but I love where I live now, and choose to focus on that. Let's just say that it was high time for me to move to a "blue" state.

I have already had what some people called my mid-life crisis, although I prefer to think of it more as a "mid-life epiphany." It seems that society likes to label anyone who "reinvents" themselves as "a person with a crisis." Society also thinks it's a "crisis" when someone's primary focus shifts from one of "living to please the world" to one of "living to please ourselves." At the same time, the world tells us it's "bad" to be stuck in a rut and that we must "follow the dream." Well, WHICH IS IT?

I have tried being married, and I am not convinced that it's an ideal state for human beings-- and certainly not the end "goal" everyone should strive for in relationships. I guess it's OK, if you're in the business of reproducing. I have experienced interpersonal dysfunctionality-- up close, as well as from a distance. Dysfuctional strikes me a a very relative concept-- I think it's just more important to find someone who finds your quirks endearing, rather than annoying, rather than being "not dysfunctional." I have tried working in the mainstream of life, but just didn't do well with it.

Had I been young today, I'd probably have been one of those kids school psychologists freak out over after finding condoms, a dead piranha and a CD with bomb-making instructions in his backpack. What those "experts" wouldn't have realized is that I wouldn't have been BUILDING a bomb, but learning how to disarm one, just in case. I abhor violence, and go to great lengths to not hurt anyone or anything.

I have tried being in business and I have tried being broke. I didn't really like either. These days I'm a writer, business coach and consultant, psychographic trend observer, psychologist and student of-- and commentator on-- the human condition. I also sell "stuff" on eBay, and more often than not, it pays the rent. Special interests include the psychology of marketing and economics, adult giftedness, the enneagram, personality types, human relationships, synchronicity, highly sensitive people, as well as general weirdness. I make ends meet by peddling words, unsolicited advice, friendship, collectibles and other odds'n'ends. In general, I find it easy to find work I can't make a living at, and very hard to find work that affords me even basic survival.

On a daily basis, I continue to struggle with the idea that natural talent doesn't have a damn thing to do with being able to make a living. Someone once said: "Do what you love, the money will follow." I have been watching the rear-view mirror for many years, but usually the only thing I find there are friends and relatives asking for help and handouts; people wanter their personal drama and chaos sorted out. Perhaps they find me because I'm a helper, empath and healer by nature, providing calm and rest to people in anguish and distress. Technically speaking, I'm not broke, I don't "mooch" off others, and I don't give a rat's patootie about "keeping up with the Joneses." That was also true when I was making six figures. I eat red meat, but have never met the Sasquatch. I love autumn leaves, quiet rain, the ocean, mountains, mist, soft skin, making out and strong coffee. I don't like "group think," unless the group happened to arrive at the same juncture through independent thought and reasoning. I like cats. They like me. I have four of them, which essentially relegates me to the category of "hopeless case," in the guise of the male equivalent of a "cat lady." We have a symbiotic relationship that involves hairballs, litter boxes, photography and relaxation.

For those who like nifty little "boxes" to help them categorize people, I am an introvert, an INFJ according to Myers-Briggs, a Nine according to the enneagram, and an HSP. My spiritual leanings are towards nonduality/Zen Buddhism.

Thought for the day: "Money can buy an expensive dog, but only love can make him wag his tail."