Male

27

If my thinking about something isn't outside the box it probably means I haven't spent enough time thinking about it. I've been told again and again by friends that I'm extremely emotionally honest and sincere, that I'm a good communicator, that I'm both deep and playful.

Sharing the simple pleasures of life makes me happiest of all. My perfect day. I wake up next to someone I love and it's a gorgeous day. We hang out at the park or maybe go exploring in the woods. We visit a bookshop and talk about all the interesting books we see. Maybe we'd ride our bikes together, or go swimming, or canoeing. We'd be affectionately silly and playful with each other and sometimes just quietly enjoy each other's company. There would be many opportunities to cuddle scattered throughout the day. We'd talk about our hopes and dreams and what's beautiful to us. We'd learn things about each other that we never knew before. We'd read to each other. We'd watch the sunset at the end of the day. Maybe we'd get some ice cream. Then we'd watch a movie, read some more, or just fall asleep into each other's arms. There are a lot of perfect days that come to mind but this is the one that I think about most often!

I miss spending time with people who are comfortable just enjoying quiet company together -- reading, sewing, lying in the park, sitting by a bonfire, cuddling, having ponderous deep discussions -- and I think silence can be some of the most rewarding time I spend with a person. On the other hand I also enjoy being silly, playful, and absurd on occasion, and it's nice to be with people who can embrace my dorkiness and excitement about life. Unfortunately I don't feel comfortable opening up and being dorky around everyone. Not everyone gets the point of weirdness for weirdness sake and sometimes "for no reason" is the best reason of all.

I'd give the world for my friends and I'd rather be lonely than stuck with relationships that aren't deep and real. I'm honestly pretty tired of putting time into nurturing friendships and getting so little in return, and it would be nice to meet others with the same problem! I take friendship seriously and will go out of my way to be a good friend. I love taking an interest in the things my friends are passionate about, and one of the best things in the world is when they get into my interests as well: I can't think of many things that create a bond or express caring better than participating in each other's lives in this way. I want to be involved in your life, not just someone you talk to about it. I'm afraid so many people have forgotten what good friendship looks like and I'd like to find the few who still get it. I did one of my most interesting papers in college on the philosophy of friendship, so it's something I think about, something that's important to me. :)

I don't like asking people to change, or telling people how they should be (how should I know how you should be?) but I will ask: are you being yourself? Are you following your bliss? These are the questions that matter to me. Everyone has such amazing potential. What matters to me most is not where you are at the moment but the glimmer you have of your own potential and what you do with that.

Getting stuck in the rain on my bicycle is a cause for great joy for me. If I'm stuck in the rain I'll just jump in puddles. So many things that frustrate others, I try to appreciate: I didn't mind sleeping on the platform of Berlin's Zoologische Garten Bahnhof to the sound of screeching train parts and my headphones blaring "in the company of strangers, in the quiet of the railway station running scared." I let songs become the soundtracks of my travels and my life. I want to see so many places, and revel in the culture and the people and the intimate and remote gems scattered about this earth -- my mind always opens when I travel, I always gain so much insight into myself and what matters to me -- but mostly I just want to find a place I can call home.

Nature can be such an inspiring and mystical experience for me and I love sensing the change of the seasons. To me there's something especially sublime about the winds and rains and crisp air and blessed unrest of autumn. I love traveling around New England and exploring all the little places, the creeks and streams and waterfalls and woods and hills and rustic life of this part of the country (and even in my own town I am as a traveler, curious and exploring, as though for the first time.) I'd love to meet good friends and companions to share all these precious moments of life with.

I love learning. There's so much out there that intrigues and inspires me. Whatever I learn, I tend to think in terms of, "How can this make the world a better place?" or "How can this make my own life deeper and more meaningful?" I also love learning how to DO things. I saw a hammock the other day (I love hammocks!) and I started thinking how interesting it would be to learn how to make one.

I like anime, fantasy, role playing games, renaissance festivals, and lots of geeky stuff.