3-D
3rd-Dimensional Relationships
The way relationships normally work
with us here in our 3rd dimension.

SEPARATION
Separation is only an illusion.
Separation from the God Source.
Separation from each other.
And separation from aspects of our self.

SECRECY
Witholding information from my partner & from myself.
With secrecy, my partner never gets to know who I truly am. Keeps me separated from the greater portion of myself.

FEAR-BASED MONOGAMY
Through my monogamous relationship, I am "separated" from the vulnerability of having to deal with any other relationships.
Therefore, I feel "safe" (separate and safe).

CONDITIONAL LOVE
I will love you, only so long as you fulfill my needs and expectations. I will withdraw my love, if you do not satisfy me.

COMMITTMENT
I need commitment, in order to avoid my fear of having to deal with other relationships. Commitment is a 3rd-dimensional illusion. Commitment never insures my security. Commitment only makes me think or feel that I am secure.

EXPECTATION
I want, expect, and try to get my partner to fulfill my expectations and needs. I use my partner to satisfy my needs.

MANIPULATION
I use obvious or hidden manipulation so that my needs will be met, and so that I can remain protected from my own fears. I only see my partner as who I need them to be, not who they really are.

THE NEED TO CONTROL
I do not trust that everything that occurs is for my highest good. Therefore, I need to control and shape the relationship, so that it will take the form I wish it to be. I feel like I "own" my partner.

RELATIONSHIP takes Precedence
to PERSONAL GROWTH

DEPENDENCY
I depend on and need someone
outside of myself in order to be happy.

A PERSON CAN NOT FULLY LOVE MORE THAN ONE PERSON.
3-D emphasizes Duality.
If my partner begins to also love another person, that means he/she will have
less love for me.
(This is an illusion.)

My partner spending
LESS TIME with me
is not good.

PAIN
There is always pain when I function from
the 3-D relationships "mind-set".

ENDING A RELATIONSHIP
creates PAIN & LOSS.

FEAR or PAIN of LONELINESS

Loneliness, like separation, is a 3-D illusion.

ANGER AT ANOTHER
(Externalized anger)
I am angry at my partner for not meeting my needs!

VICTIMHOOD
"Hurters" & "Victims"
I sometimes hurt others.
I am sometimes hurt by the comments or actions of others.
"Hurters" & "Victims" is an illusion.
There is no victim hood, since each one creates their own reality.

FEELING RESPONSIBLE for
the NEEDS of my PARTNER
My partner is seeking to have their needs met externally by me, but a person's needs
can never really be met by anyone else,
so they are bound to eventually get angry
at me, for not fulfilling their needs.
4-D
4th-Dimensional Relationships
The way relationships normally work
on the 4th dimension.

INTEGRATION + REINTEGRATION
Everything and everyone are really all connected.

HONESTY + OPENNESS
Total honesty with my partner.
With honesty, my partner gets to know who I truly am. Honesty means being 100% who I truly am.
I do not withold a comment or information just to avoid hurting my partner, or to control the relationship.
I can never really know or predict what will hurt another or how they will react to my honesty.
Therefore, I should stop assuming responsibility for the other person's emotions, growth, & reactions to my honest non-manipulative communications.

RELATIONSHIPS BY CHOICE
Monogamy-by-choice or
Polygamy-by-choice or
Poly-Fidelity-by-choice.
There is no inherent "right" or "wrong" to any type of relationship: They are all inherently neutral. Any type of relationship is "okay". If I choose monogamy, this does not mean that I expect or need my partner to also choose monogamy.

UNCONDITIONAL LOVE
Even if you don't fulfill my needs and expectations,
I will still love you. I love you for who you are without trying to change you.

BEING IN THE PRESENT
Commitment would take me out of the present. I stay in the present, and I do not need a commitment, because I trust that the future will take care of itself.

NO EXPECTATIONS
I trust and have no expectations from my partner.
I enjoy my partner, but without expectations.

ALLOWINGNESS
I allow my partner to be who they need to be. Only then can I see who they truly are.

ABSOLUTE TRUST
I trust that everything that occurs is for my highest good. Therefore, I have no desire or need to control my partner.

PERSONAL GROWTH takes Precedence
to RELATIONSHIP.

SELF-SUFFICIENCY
I recognize that I, and only I, am the creator of my own reality. Therefore, only I, am the generator of my own Happiness.

A PERSON CAN FULLY LOVE
MORE THAN ONE PERSON.
4-D emphasizes Multiplicity.
No matter how many other people my partner loves, this does not diminish at all, in any way, how much love he/she has for me. No matter how many other people I love, this does not diminish at all, in any way, how much love I have for my partner.

My partner spending
LESS TIME with me
is fine.
If I truly love myself unconditionally, then the time spent with myself is equal in value to the time spent with my partner.
I love myself as much as I love my partner.
Therefore, the time I spend alone is just as enjoyable as the time spent with my partner. Therefore, it's okay if I spend less time with my partner.

HAPPINESS, PLEASURE, & ECSTACY
There is never any pain, only happiness, pleasure, and ecstasy, when I function from
the 4-D relationships "mind-set".

ENDING A RELATIONSHIP
does not create PAIN & LOSS.
In realizing that this relationship is no longer serving us, we choose to harmoniously end it. We recognize that the relationship is going in different directions, and so we allow it to end, without any hard feelings. Only with love.

FEELING CONNECTED
to SIGNIFICANT OTHERS.
Even if my partner is far away (in space),
or even if
I haven't seen my partner for a long time (in time),
I still feel very connected to them. Whereas separation is an illusion, being actually connected-together is the reality.

ANGER AT MYSELF
(Internalized anger)
I am angry at myself for creating a reality that I do not prefer.

I CREATE MY OWN REALITY.
Self-Responsibility
Self-Empowerment
I create my own reality, and this even includes other people's reactions to my actions. I can never be hurt by another person. I can never hurt another person. Only I am responsible for my reactions to other people's comments or actions.

BEING RESPONSIBLE for
what I would like to GIVE to
My PARTNER & our RELATIONSHIP
I am pure in my intention in my relationship.
I am 100% who I truly am with my partner.
I am responsible for what, in my integrity,
I would like to give to our relationship.


~I actually found this on someone else's blog and copied it. It was so powerful I couldn't walk away from it.

For now my precious relationship, as I knew it, is over. We are just friends. I've come to a point where I just have to deal with a heart that is utterly and completely heartbroken. I also have to deal with the fact that so much of what is said about a 3rd dimensional relationship is true for me. I hate looking at it. I hate seeing this part of myself. I want to be angry and I want to blame and I want to scream and ultimately really all I want to do is let go. I would like to stop causing my own pain. I'd like to be able to love freely from my own great strength, and be able to accept fully, not only my ex-lover, but everyone without criticism or judgement. I want to be able to have compassion and acceptance for myself. I know this takes time but I'm completely engulfed by all of these emotions and days like today it just seems like it's too much to bear. In the next moment I could be fine, it could be a distant memory. For now, in this present moment, I am neither squelching the pain nor am I pushing it away. I'm letting it flow for me breathing through each wave. It's all I can do. ~