Rants, Raves, and Ridiculous Ramblings

Action for Compassion: Rally in Support of Medical Marijuana

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Fri, 28 Mar 2008 02:26:21 GMT

Action for Compassion! Saturday, April 26 * 2:00 PM LA Federal Building, 11000 Wilshire Blvd. Join us for a peaceful rally in support of medical cannabis patients & providers in Southern California who are facing increasing attacks from the DEA! More than 50 DEA raids in 2007 * Patients & Caregivers indicted 100+ facing federal prosecution * Property owners intimidated into evicting patients' groups It is time to stand up to federal interference & intimidation in our communities! Download, copy, and distribute the rally flyer here! ____________________________________________________________ Email for more information. Attend the next LA-ASA meeting to get involved. Hosted by the Greater Los Angeles Caregivers Alliance (GLACA) and Los Angeles American for Safe Access (ASA) Click this link for map of location: http://www.mapquest.com/maps/11000+Wilshire+Blvd+Los+Angeles+CA+90024-3602/? Click this link for a PDF of Recent Escalations of DEA Intervention in medical marijuana states: http://www.asaaction.org/files/dea_escalation.pdf Click here to download copies of flier: http://www.asaaction.org/files/april26.pdf Click this link to get involved with helping plan, organize, and promote the event: http://www.asaaction.org/index.html Click this link for GLACA website: http://www.caregiversalliance.org/ Click this link for ASA website: http://www.americansforsafeaccess.org/ On Saturday 04/26/08 at 2:00 pm there will be a rally and an act of civil disobediance (planting of seedlings) at the federal building in Westwood. Our goal is to turn up the heat on the DEA to stop interferring with California Law and the busines thereof. This rally is also to remind our Govenator that it is time that he stand behind us. While the building will be closed we intend on having the press there and to do that we need a spectacular turn out that is why we are planning for a Saturday. There is alot going on politically with MMJ right now and we really need to raise awareness to our cause so please support this event so that we get the press needed. Americans for Safe Access * 1322 Webster St., Suite 402, Oakland, CA 94612 * (888) 929-4367 * www.AmericansForSafeAccess.org Los Angeles Chapter - 7211 Santa Monica Blvd., Suite 800, West Hollywood, CA 90046 * www.ASAaction.org ======================================= Los Angeles ASA Meeting Saturday, April 19, 2008 at 1:00 PM Patient ID Center *470 S. San Vicente Blvd., LA Click here for public transit information. This will be our regular monthly meeting and the planning meeting for the "Action for Compassion" rally at the Los Angeles federal building on Saturday, April 26. Please join us and invite your friends! This month, we will be talking about how to talk to elected officials and the media to dispel bias and overcome indifference. Read the ASA Media Manual and ABC's of Citizen Advocacy online. For more information or media inquiries email Don Duncan

LA Film Production Meetup Group meeting #2: The Pitch

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Mon, 28 Jan 2008 23:08:00 GMT

Announcing a new event for The Los Angeles Film Production Meetup Group! What: The Pitch When: Sunday, February 10, 5:00 PM Where: (A location for this event hasn't been chosen yet) Who should come: Everyone with a passion for film making! Event Description: For those of you just joining us, our last meeting was a glowing success! We had a really diverse and talented group of twenty five filmmakers show up. We saw videos of each others work, met a couple former OnTheLot'ers and discussed the general direction of the group. This next meeting is an opportunity to pitch your script ideas! Bring anything you have to help illustrate and promote your vision. Everyone involved in the club needs to be at this meeting as we will be voting on which ideas to develop further and eventually shoot. I think it would be best if we did a silent vote either during the meetup or afterwards. The location for this meeting is TBD. Also keep an eye out for a form that will be passed around to collect what resources each member has... Learn more here: http://filmind.meetup.com/324/calendar/7215223/

You’re invited to a CHIC-Retreat FOR WOMEN ONLY

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Thu, 27 Sep 2007 15:09:18 GMT

You’re invited to a CHIC-Retreat ***FOR WOMEN ONLY*** Hey ladies, I'm going to be attending this event. It happens to land on my Birthday and I was hoping some of you would join me to celebrate not only my birthday but to celebrate being wonderful women. See details below. ###### Experience an exceptional afternoon of discovery, filled with fun, laughter and well-being. Join us and connect with other like-minded women for engaging conversation, interactive workshops and informative presentations by noted professionals in the fields of yoga, nutrition, holistic therapy, self empowerment and more. These insightful workshops will provide effective tools to help you incorporate balanced fitness, health, well-being and prosperity into your life. Journey to the shores of Malibu, to a private residence featured on the June cover of Yogi-Times magazine. This Zen-modernist seaside abode is set high in the hills with panoramic canyon and ocean views; creating the ideal natural environment. Restore your spirit with an afternoon getaway to relax and rejuvenate, while you nurture your mind, body and soul. FEATURED workshops and presentations: Learn how our behaviors are formed and how those behaviors can quickly be changed to Improve Your Life. -Sheryl Bard, Behavioral Hypnotherapist and Co-Founder of the Spirituality Spa 1 & 3PM Are you getting enough Laughter in your life? Gain health benefits through Laughter. -Kim Selbert Certified Laughter Yoga Leader 1 & 2:30PM The Power of the Present: Techniques for Cultivating the Now for busy people. -Tracy James, MA, CPCC, Founder of the WomenInProsperity.com prosperity coaching community 1:30 & 3:30PM Discover the benefits of fruits and vegetables for a Healthy Mind & Body. -Lisa Guerrero, Juice Plus Certified Nutritionist 1:30 & 2:30PM Applying scientific research & Energy Techniques to live your Optimal Health Potential. -Alexis Spratt, D.C., CSCS Chiropractor, Certified Strength & Conditioning Specialist 2 & 3:30PM How you can do more in less time and Achieve Success with less stress. -Deborah Deras Co-Author of Confessions of an Adrenalin Addict and Co-Founder Synergy Unlimited 2 & 3PM When Mama’s happy, everybody’s happy-Guiding you home to who you truly are…A Sensual Woman. -Alana Pratt, Sexy Mom Expert and Life Coach FINALE 4PM ***Arrive at noon to take in the views, enjoy light and healthy foods and lively conversation. Presentations begin at 1PM. All attendees will be eligible to win prizes and special rewards from CHIC-life.com, Merri-Mail.com and other sponsors associated with this event. Simply go to www.CHIC-life.com and fill in your information on the MAILING LIST/SUBSCRIBE link and you will be eligible to win one of three Grand Prizes!!! $28 for registration before October 5th. $35 after and up to Oct 20th. This is an exclusive event; early registration is encouraged as space is limited. To register for this unique and worthwhile experience please click the following link: https://www.paypal.com/cgi-bin/webscr?cmd=_xclick&business=denisel%40chic-life%2ecom&item_name=Chic%2dretreat&buyer_credit_promo_code=&buyer_credit_product_category=&buyer_credit_shipping_method=&buyer_credit_user_address_change=&amount=28%2e00&no_shipping=0&no_note=1&currency_code=USD&lc=US&bn=PP%2dBuyNowBF&charset=UTF%2d8 To find out more information about this event and our panel of presenters go to www.CHIC-life.com and click on STYLE DIARY. EVENT LOCATION: The Zelman-Goldfarb home. 20650 Whitecap Way Malibu, CA 90265 **For additional information please contact event organizers Denise LeMons denisel@CHIC-life.com (323) 397-9817 Sheryl Bard sheryl@spiritualityspa.com (310) 266-8514 **Feel free to forward this invitation to women you feel will benefit from this event. Associated Sponsors

laughter yoga for beginners in Santa Monica

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 08 Aug 2007 23:28:23 GMT

WHAT IS LAUGHTER YOGA? Laughter Yoga mixes healing laughter with moderately-light movement, and invigorating breathing exercises. Well, what is laugher? “Laughter is a virtue, a soul-expanding delight that shortens time. Every laugh you manage cuts short the miles and hours and days of drudgery. You can ascend the physical body on laughter. Let [laughter] give you balance, perspective, poise and patience.” Miriams-Well Then, what is yoga? “Yoga is a system of exercises which help your control of the body and mind. It also improves your breathing and focuses the alignment of your body, [mind, and spirit].” BBC Or “A Hindu series of mental, spiritual and physical exercises designed to aid in enlightenment. The exercise component of Yoga is often practiced in the West as an aid to healthy living.” Religious Tolerance Laughter Yoga is a revolutionary form of body-mind exercise that combines yoga breathing and laughter exercises to improve your health and vitality, to decrease everyday stress and to promote a more positive mental attitude. It’s easy, fun and is a method that works for everyone! What are the scientific benefits of Laughter Yoga? - Reduces pain. - Strengthens the immune system stimulating the production of T-cells and NK cells which help to fight cancerous cells and tumors. - Improves circulation and strengthens the heart. - Reduces anger and anxiety. - Reduces stress. - Burns calories and keeps you looking young. - Improves stamina. - Alleviates respiratory problems. and - Improves self-confidence and social skills. Is Laughter Yoga similar to the (more popularly known) Western practice of yoga for healthy living? Laughter Yoga is similar to the popular-Western practice of yoga in as much as both are practices toward unity of mind, body, and spirit through a series of exercises. However, laughter yoga does not involve the physical yoga positions. Laughter Yoga consists of light-impact movement, with uplifting laughter, and beneficial breathing exercises. Do I have to do YOGA POSITIONS at Laughter Yoga? No, Laughter Yoga does not require traditional yoga positions. However, anyone interested in doing some yoga stretches during Laughter Yoga can do them during free-movement exercises. What can I expect at Laughter Yoga? You can expect a series of low-impact group exercises that involve modest movement, enriching laughter, and yoga breathing. This video is a good indicator of what to expect: http://www.youtube.com/laughteryoga For Laughter Yoga, do I need a sense of humor? Do I need to be in a good mood? Do I need reasons to laugh? No, you do not need to have a sense of humor, be in a good mood or even have a reason to laugh to do Laughter Yoga. Who can participate in Laugher Yoga? Absolutely everyone is welcome at Laughter Yoga, especially beginners. Accommodations are made for those with special needs. Laughter Yoga crosses all barriers: age, gender, language, culture, physical abilities, race, religion, political beliefs, etc. Laughter is part of the universal human vocabulary. All members of the human species understand it. Is the laughter in Laughter Yoga fake or real? Most laughter exercises start out with simulated laughter to stimulate real laughter. In time fake laughter becomes genuine and flows out like a fountain. Are there any hidden agendas involved with Laughter Yoga? No, hidden agenda involved in Laugher Yoga: * Non-Political * Non-Religious * Non-Exploitive * Non-Competitive * Non-Perfectionistic * Non-Threatening Where can I find out more about Laugher Yoga? Call today for more information: 310-471-5773 or check out http://www.laughteryoga.org/about-laughter-yoga2.php Is there a Laughter Yoga group in Santa Monica? Yes, Laughter Yoga meets Wednesdays from 6:30 to 7:30pm and is led by Kim Selbert, OTR/L and Certified Laughter Yoga Leader. Where does Laughter Yoga meet in Santa Monica? Location: Chance to Dance Studio at 323 Santa Monica Place Mall. The mall is between Broadway & Colorado and 2nd and 4th Street. Chance to Dance is located at the top of the escalator on the third floor. Where should I park? How much is parking? Park in the Broadway Street Parking structure. Parking is free for 3 hours. Drive to the 5th floor of the parking structure, then take the first exit towards 4H North parking area, enter the mall near the elevators on 4H North, this is the 3rd level of the mall. Chance to Dance is near the top of the escalators. How much does Laughter Yoga cost? First class is free. Donations are accepted for individual classes from continuing students through August. Attend a class for more information on package deals through the remainder of the year.

Law of Attraction: LA Fellowship Group

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Tue, 24 Jul 2007 08:14:18 GMT

I met with this small group on Sunday and we all will be meeting again. Join us. Here's the original info: Hello to all. This post is to inform everyone, everywhere in the Los Angeles area that we are starting a fellowship group of sorts for individuals who are interested in practically applying the Law of Attraction to their lives, and could use a little (or a lot of) support from like minded individuals. We will meet to share experiences, knowledge, helpful tips, and to offer and receive encouragement to and from one another. If you are reading this post right now, it's because you've attracted it, whether you believe it or not, so perhaps now is the time for you to act! :) We will be holding our very next meeting at 7:00 p.m. on Tuesday, July 31st at the Bourgeouis Pig on Franklin between Bronson Ave and Tamarind Ave. So, if you've been trying to consciously implement the Law of Attraction into your life (it's always working, whether you're conscious of it or not), and you seem to be hitting some road blocks, or it seems too difficult, or unrealistic, or the people around you just don't seem to get it, or if you're having any other kind of difficulty with it at all, please do yourself the favor of checking this group out. You may just find the answers you seek. Naturally, if you've been applying the Law of Attraction, and everything is coming up roses (as everything is wont to do, once you've got the principals down pat), then your wisdom and encouragement would be most helpful as well. So, no matter what results you are currently observing in the moment, if you are making use, or trying to make use of the Law of Attraction on a conscious level, you are most welcome to come hang out with the rest of us in the area. If you have any questions, or are interested in checking it all out, please do not hesitate to email me. If you don't get the chance to do so before the meeting though, don't let that stop you from coming. We're going to give this a shot, and see what happens. I look forward to meeting you, and having the chance to help and learn from you as well. Thank you for taking the time to read this far, and remember, you wouldn't be reading it at all if you hadn't attracted it for some reason. So, take the next step. Your new reality is waiting. To all Los Angeleans who are interested in the practical application of the Law of Attraction in their lives, we have started a group of like minded individuals for inspiration/support/etc. We will be meeting every Tuesday at 7:00 p.m. at The Bourgeois Pig in Hollywood. The address is 5931 Franklin Ave. L.A. 90028. (On Franklin just east of Bronson, and west of Gower) This group is for anyone and everyone who has decided to live with intention, and implement the conscious utilization of the Law of Attraction in the creation of their own reality. Here, you will find others on the same path, who will be able to share with each other inspiration, tips, experiences, etc. This is free, not business oriented in any way, just simply a gathering of people for the purpose of fellowship, discussion, and support. If you, or anyone you know, is purposefully applying the benefits of the Law of Attraction in life, this is definitely worth checking out! Feel free to email me, or just show up on Tuesday nights, starting July 31st, and continuing indefinitely. Remember, you wouldn't be reading this right now if you hadn't attracted it, so, in the words of Joe Vitale, "Don't delay, don't second guess, don't doubt. When the opportunity is there, when the impulse is there, when the intuitive nudge from within is there, ...act. That's your job, and that's all you have to do." See you there! BE WELL, and FEEL GOOD!!

Smiles are contagious; This made me smile: I hope you smile too!

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 21:41:30 GMT

Announcing Astronaughty's Operation Joygasm: A Mobile Costumed Biking & Boozing Excursion Along West Hollywood's Grand Gay Blvd. Dust off your bike, trick it out with lights, throw on an eye-grabbing outfit, and prepare to bring waves of orgasmic joy to hundreds of homos just waiting for something different and exciting to perk up their Saturday night. That's right, it's Operation Joygasm, and I'm seeking able-bodied recruits! THE DATE: Saturday, July 21 THE TIME: 7 PM at my WeHo pod for cocktails, snacks, bike prep, changing into costumes, photos and giddy anticipation. THE MISSION: At 8 PM I’ll sound the alarm and lead the charge as our mobile costume party rolls out to the first of FIVE GAY BARS that we'll invade along Santa Monica Blvd. THE GOAL: To illicit orgasms of joy, multiple ones if possible. Use your prodigious playa powers to conjure up ways to achieve this through creative gifting: outrageous outfits, neck rubs, card tricks, cookies, condoms, Polaroid portraits, brownies, naughty giveaways, skin jobs - the possibilities are limited only by your imagination (and a few City of West Hollywood laws, but even those are mere suggestions.) THE ITINERARY: First stop: the legendary Gold Coast near Crescent Heights. Then we head west down Santa Monica Boulevard's dedicated bike lane to trendy O-Bar, then on to the classic hustler-and-daddy joint Numbers, continuing to the very new and very now 11 on Larabee, and ending up around 10:30 at the sprawling homo haven known as The Abbey. For you marathoners, we'll then mosey on over to either Rage or Mickey's for some dance floor booty shakin'. ALL INTERESTED RECRUITS: respond thru Tribe or send an e-mail to groovepod@aol.com. I'll hit you back with my address, parking information, tips, and other pertinent info. THE BIGGER THE GROUP THE BETTER THE JOYGASM! LOCK IN THE DATE! JULY 21! ASTRONAUGHTY'S OPERATION JOYGASM! BE THERE! xo Astro

The Law of Atrraction LA group first meeting

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 18 Jul 2007 18:22:19 GMT

Hello to all. This post is to inform everyone, everywhere in the Los Angeles area that we are starting a fellowship group of sorts for individuals who are interested in practically applying the Law of Attraction to their lives, and could use a little (or a lot of) support from like minded individuals. We will meet to share experiences, knowledge, helpful tips, and to offer and receive encouragment to and from one another. If you are reading this post right now, it's because you've attracted it, whether you believe it or not, so perhaps now is the time for you to act! :) We will be holding our very first meeting at 4:30 p.m. on Sunday, July 22nd at the Coffee Bean on Sunset between Fairfax and Hayworth, across from the Director's Guild. The street address, for mapquesters, is 7915 Sunset Blvd. 90046. At this meeting we will decide how we want to proceed in terms of times/places/structure (if any), etc. These will all be group decisions, and, hopefully, will work out to be as useful as possible to each individual involved. That is the point. So, if you've been trying to consciously implement the Law of Attraction into your life (it's always working, whether you're conscious of it or not), and you seem to be hitting some road blocks, or it seems too difficult, or unrealistic, or the people around you just don't seem to get it, or if you're having any other kind of difficulty with it at all, please do yourself the favor of checking this group out. You may just find the answers you seek. Naturally, if you've been applying the Law of Attraction, and everything's coming up roses (as everything is wont to do, once you've got the principals down pat), then your wisdom and encouragment would be most helpful as well. So, no matter what results you are currently observing in the moment, if you are making use, or trying to make use of the Law of Attraction on a conscious level, you are most welcome to come hang out with the rest of us in the area. If you have any questions, or are interested in checking it all out, please do not hesitate to email me. If you don't get the chance to do so before Sunday, though, don't let that stop you from coming by the Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf On Sunset @ Fairfax around 4:30. We're going to give this a shot, and see what happens. I look forward to meeting you, and having the chance to help and learn from you as well. Thank you for taking the time to read this far, and remember, you wouldn't be reading it at all if you hadn't attracted it for some reason. So, take the next step. Your new reality is waiting.

BurningMan documentary screening: Journey to the Flames in LA 7/28 7pm

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Tue, 17 Jul 2007 12:41:52 GMT

Journey to the Flames - 8 Years of Burning Man Screening Date & Time: Saturday, July 28, 2007 more on this date 7:00 PM Fine Arts Theater - 8556 Wilshire Blvd @ La Cienega, Beverly Hills call 310-360-0455 or go to: www.journeytotheflames.com DVD release party for shizzle. Join a group of friends as they head to one of the largest social experiments in the world. 40,000 people meet out in the desert to create a city out of empty desert. The rules are simple: No commerce, bring what you need to survive, leave no trace, participants only, no spectators. Experience 8 years of amazing Burning Man art. Take a journey into a world of art, music, sexuality and fire. Lot's of fire.

Check out the "Dump the Couch!" article in Forbes

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Fri, 27 Apr 2007 02:43:44 GMT

http://cttoday.org/?p=198 I know I mentioned this previously, somewhere; I only read newspapers and magazines while I'm waiting, usually in a doctor's office lobby. Fortunate for me (or unfortunate, depending on how you look at it) that I've been doing a lot of waiting in a lot of doctor's offices during a majority of the last two years. Most the time, what I read is diabolically devoid of all density; such publications with Britney or Paris on the cover or other such tarts, covered or uncovered, within the publication. Occasionally, I’ll stumble upon a political piece; but most of the times, at least in recent times, the pages are filed with similar scandals of those starring Lindsey or Nicole. But on the rarest of occasions I have the honor of having something truly enlightening to read while waiting in those dreadful waiting rooms. Today, I had the pleasure of happening upon a Forbes. Imagine my delight. I can not honestly remember the last time I read through a Forbes. For some odd reason, stemming from strange developmental experiences; I have a fixation for quality magazines. I used to read Time magazine, when I was a kid, every time I went over to baby sit the neighbor’s kids. After I put the kids to bed I would pour through stacks of Time Magazines. I loved it. Time magazine represented something very special to me as adolescent. Time magazines are a little easier to find at Doctor’s offices, although not as easy as finding exclusive dirt on Christina or someone related to Anna Nicole. The cover of Forbes caught my eye and I read through most of the article about Cognitive Behavioral Therapy. As some of you may recall, I have been working on self-improvement since I moved to Los Angeles, about 7 months ago. What many of you probably don’t know is that I have been participating in cogitative behavioral therapy groups and learning about difference aspects of it, for my own benefit (not to go into it as a profession). I am really enjoying it and I feel like I am slowly (but steadily) progressing well. I would definitely recommend it to any of my friend and anyone looking for a better way to handle life’s difficulties. Students and others on medical insurance should ask their provider if any CBT services are available to you.

INVITE to go Thrift shopping saturday in LA; I got my grades; I know what I want to be when I grow up

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 04 Apr 2007 18:36:46 GMT

I don't have a lot of time right now because I really should be studying right now but I wanted to get the word out before it was too late. INVITE I want to go thrift shopping on Melrose this Saturday at 3pm, I'm inviting all my LA friends to join me. I have 5 pairs of pants that no longer fit me (I'm sort of amazed they ever fit me actually) and I want to buy cheap second-hand stuff. So join me, invite your friends and lets have some fun. I'll make a really invite when I have more time, ok? GRADES I got an A+, and B-, and B- last quarter that's a 3.1 according to the school website. My overall GPA is 3.127 (or something insane like that). I would love to be a 4.0 student but I'm struggling just to keep my grades as they are. Better luck next time, right? RHETORIAN I want to be a rhetorian when I grow up. Thank you. Stay tuned for more randomness.

Parallels in Seduction and Advertising regarding Evolutionary Arms Race

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Fri, 16 Mar 2007 21:21:47 GMT

I. Introduction This project explores the parallels in the evolutionary arms races of advertising and the seduction community. The seduction community is defined as: A loosely connected world-wide subculture of (mostly) men who strive for consistent success with attracting and seducing women. This overriding intention is facilitated with improvements of self (inner game), skills, and lifestyle. “It's about developing your self. Your skillset. Your social intelligence. Your 'alpha qualities'. Your lifestyle. Your natural attractiveness to women.” (Roman_be, 2006). This collection of attributes and abilities is what is sometimes referred to as one’s “game”. In addition, members of this community seek greater understanding of male, female, and social psychology and dynamics. Within this community, there are individuals, businesses, and organizations with varying fundamentals, strategies, and philosophies, that offer advice, products, and services that help assist their diverging objectives. This community is networked “together through internet forums and groups, as well as over a hundred local clubs, called ‘lairs’” (Wikipedia, 2007) and other similar local groups and gatherings. The seduction community is often referred to by its members as “the community”. Pseudonyms are often used in the seduction community to protect the identification of members and targets. Pseudonyms are used throughout this project for the same reasons. Except in the case of the author, Neil Strauss; he uses the pseudonym Style in the seduction community. His real name and pseudonym are well known and used in the community and mainstream media coverage. This project refers to him as Neil Strauss in all instances. The members of this community are often referred to as pick-up artists (PUA). A pick-up artist is someone skilled in the arts and non-exact sciences of seduction. For the sake of this project, seduction will refer to the following definition: “Seduction is the use of temptation and enticement, often sexual in nature, to attract or influence the behavior of another. Traditionally, the word implied leading someone astray, as when a man lures a woman into a sexual relationship without the need to resort to force. In contemporary usage, however, seduction is used more broadly as a synonym for the act of charming someone.” (Wikipedia, 2007) This project aims for an objective comparison of two separate but similar groups. The project will not attempt to address the morality or integrity of advertisers or pick-up artists. I do not believe that either the advertisement industry or the seduction communities are innately corrupt or dishonest. As in most groups within given societies, there are varying degrees of ethical practices with both seducers and advertisers. It would be an injustice to label all advertisers and pick-up artists as fraudulent. “Being a PUA doesn't make one inherently manipulative or dirty.” (Illpapinyc, 2006) In regards to whether or not this community really exists, Neil Strauss, author of The Game and renowned pick-up artist, said it this way, “It really happen[s]. Men will deny it, women will doubt it. But I present it to you here, naked, vulnerable and disturbingly real. I beg you for your forgiveness in advance.”(2005) Theoretical Frame Work of this Project This project appears to be the first scholarly attempt to look at the seduction community, let alone to compare the seduction community practices with procedures from the advertising industry. Other sources referencing this community comes from media reviews of individuals, products, and services from the community, or from members of the community, none of which are academic in nature. This is due, in part, to the seduction community’s attempts to remain somewhat covert from mainstream media and audiences. There is a rampant fear in the community of being exposed. The reasons for which, tie directly into the topic of this paper, evolutionary arms race. Members of the seduction community fear, probably rightfully so, that wide-spread exposure would cause insurmountable competition and resistance from targets. Their schemes would have to radically evolve to continue their current status. Both the seduction community and advertisers rely on psychology and sociology. This project works within in these related fields as it applies to its scope.“Some of the concepts in the [Seduction] community are borrowed from other disciplines, such as the concept of social proof from the psychology of influence, and various concepts from sociobiology and evolutionary psychology (such as the term 'alpha male').” (Wikipedia, 2007) This project explores the evolutionary arms race that takes place in the seduction community by exploring tactics utilized by pick-up artists to stay ahead of competition, strategies to minimize opposition from targets, evolutionary and biological mating research, and techniques called peacocking and social proof. In addition, this project will briefly explore one reputable company utilizing these concepts in its program, The Mystery Method. Competition is fierce in the dating world and pick-up artists take this competition against other men to its highest level. Once opponents are disarmed, members of the seduction community focus on their targets, usually highly sought-after women, and they use their knowledge to minimize any refusal to go along with the seduction. Seduction is accomplished in various ways. Knowledge of mating research is used by seducers to create and maintain attraction with women. Social proof and peacocking are methods employed to increase the desirability of the pick-up artists in the eyes of women. The Mystery Method is a highly respected company that has created the M3 Model which incorporates the strategies outlined in this project along with other proven practices. These strategies are just a few of many ways the seduction community takes advantage of the evolutionary arms race of love (and sex). Due to the fact that there is no academic research on the seduction community, there is vast array of possibilities for further investigation that could be done. Both the advertising industry and the seduction community could learn a great deal from each other. The seduction community already uses advertising and sales techniques to their advantage. However, it is highly unlikely that advertisers pay any attention to pick-up artists. Though, if they did, they might learn important concepts that could be utilized within the advertising field. Correspondingly, there are some very powerful concepts within the seduction community that could ultimately be beneficial to the advertising industry. One of the most powerful of which is a seduction community concept called “framing” or “frame control”. This concept is fundamentally different than the communication theory, and sociology, process of selective control over media content. (Wikipedia, 2007) It resembles more of George Lakoff’s political framing concepts. (Lakoff, 2006) It would be interesting to see research on the parallels between both pick-up artist and political framing theories. This project was originally going to include comparisons of parallels with Ries and Trout’s positioning concepts and the seduction community. Positioning is a key concept that would ideally fall under the evolutionary arms race topic of this paper. However, due to the limited scope of this research project and time restraints, that comparison was not included. Further investigation into these comparisons could be beneficial to both the advertising industry and pick-up artists. In addition, this project was going to have sections on “concealing the hook” and “staged surrenders”. However, proper sources were not secured in time to appropriately detail the seduction community used of these concepts. Abstract When concepts in the advertising industry are compared to similar concepts in the seduction community there may be parallels. The author of this project has researched numerous publications, books, articles, message boards, blogs, and other resources to collect the data that is presented within this project. The data shows evidence that members of the seduction community are aware of biological and evolutionary theories that effect seduction. This evidence further shows how that information is put into practice by pick-up artists. This project’s focus is on the less-studied seduction community as opposed to the exceedingly investigated advertising industry. Members of the seduction community exploit concepts that are also used in advertisement, to get women into bed. Hypothesis The dynamics of the seduction community is that of an evolutionary arms race that shares features of advertising evolutionary arms race. II. Methods I have done a painstaking content analysis of various websites, blogs, articles, books, message board forums, and other relevant resources to locate the information presented. Resources were selected based on their significance to the over all topic of evolutionary arms race in the seduction community. Complications arose when the scope of the project was being considered to include positioning, concealing the hook, and staged surrenders. Although, it seems apparent that there are parallels in positioning, concealing the hook, and staged surrenders in advertising and seduction it was difficult to pin point specific data from the seduction community regarding these concepts. This difficulty is probably due in part to the deviations in terminology in both groups regarding these theories. Such comparisons could be their own research project because of the amount of data that could be presented and the time it would take to gather the data. Additional complication occurred when attempting to find graphics to add to this project. Some of the concepts presented in this project, such as peacocking and social proof, are not easily transferable into visual representations. III. Results and Discussion Evolutionary Arms Race in Advertisement and Seduction The purpose in both advertisement and the seduction community is to, “learn to adapt and evolve faster than anybody else.” (Hysteria, 2006) Hysteria’s statements get at the core of what an evolution arms race is and the open-ended goals of the advertisement industry and the seduction community. “Stay two steps ahead at all times.”(Hysteria, 2006) But what is an evolutionary arms race? The biological definition is as follows: "An evolutionary arms race is an evolutionary struggle between to competing sets of co-evolving genes that develop adaptations and counter-adaptations against each other, resembling an arms race." (Wikipedia, 2007) Metaphorically speaking, this is what happens amongst humans in both advertising and seducing. This struggle to stay ahead of competitors’ advances and prospects’ defenses is symbolically an evolutionary arms race. However, staying ahead has no specific end points or conclusive destinations. "Arms race is also used to describe any competition where there is no absolute goal, only relative goals of staying ahead of the other competitors [and prospects]." (Wikipedia, 2007) Advertisers and seducers have to continually evolve their strategies because the tactics that they develop quickly lose efficiency when their targets develop resistances to those strategies. "There is an arms race between advertisers and their potential customers." (Steen, 2007) As advertisers’ prospects develop opposition to ad tactics, the advertisers upgrade and innovate strategies to counter those resistances. "In a co-evolutionary arms race, audiences gradually learn to resist advertisers' techniques." (Steen, 2007) Professor Steen is currently researching and developing further work regarding the evolutionary arms race in advertising. This project takes a focused look at the evolutionary arms race in the seduction community. "Sex is an evolutionary puzzle." (Wikipedia, 2007) “The male’s goal is seduction: He is trying to manipulate the female into falling for his charms, to get inside her head and steer her mind his way. The evolutionary pressure is on him to perfect displays that make her well disposed toward him and sexually aroused so that he can be certain of mating.” (Ridley, 2003, p. 161) The seduction community is aware of evolution and its effect on the seduction process. The community aims to stay ahead of competitors (other single men) and targets (desirable women). “Fact is, being successful with girls (or at least better than the average Joe) is about adapting your own [behavior],” (Borris, 2006) Pick-up artists seek out resources, such as existing research, that will aid their over-all seduction efforts. "Books such as The Red Queen by Matt Ridley, Sperm Wars by Robin Baker, and The Mating Mind by Geoffrey Miller are frequently cited in the community.” (Wikipedia, 2007) As demonstrated in the following quote: “For the aspiring pick-up artist, The Red Queen is an invaluable text that provides useful information on how our social interaction has evolved over thousands of years. And how it continues to evolve. The Red Queen not only tells you how we got here, but provides solid scientific evidence that you need to constantly improve your game.” (Strauss, 2006, p.2) “Game” is a term used to reference pick-up artists’ attributes and abilities. The seduction community works towards advancing its skills and strategies to stay ahead of their competition. “The struggle for seduction never gets easier. However well a pick-up artist may adapt his game, he can never relax, because the hard bodies and alpha-males [competitors] are also adapting their tactics. Seduction is a zero-sum game.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 2) The pick-up artists take into account other economically-desirable (available) males and adopt strategies to make themselves just as valuable. “The technologies of seduction have been developed to help even the playing field.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 5) However, other men are not the solitary concern of members of the community. Pick-up artists also are anxious with the evolutionary advances of their targets, attractive ladies. As stated below: “You must constantly refine your game. Seek to grow beyond just spitting out canned routines and pick-up techniques you’ve memorized. Always be learning, and then challenge yourself to grow beyond what you’ve learned. Become your own guru. Because you can bet that whatever technique you’re memorizing, someone else is working on the antidote.” (Strauss, 2006, p.2) The evolutionary arms race defenses that women adapt in response to the pick-up artist‘s routines are a worry many in the seduction community are concerned with. “If women start to get bombarded with "the game" [pick-up artist’s routines] then you had better believe they will adapt defenses against it.” (Merlin, 2006) Some of these men are worried that they will not be able to develop co-adaptations to the oppositions women form. They realize the divergent goals of the genders. Male and female aspirations in seduction are evolutionarily different. Female intuitively seek a solitary-quality mate, whereas males viscerally try to find multiple partners, as discussed in this passage: “Ridley explains that the instinctual goal for every female animal is to find a mate with the genetic makeup necessary to be a good husband, a good father, or a good sire. Male animals, on the other hand, have a goal of locating as many wives and mothers as possible.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 3) “While it’s easy to think every human being is idiosyncratic and unique, the book [The Red Queen] explains how our mating choices are the result of evolutionary and biological pressures over thousands of years.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 7) There are natural reasons for the discrepancies between the genders’ pairing-off preferences. “In 1972, Robert Trivers explained why the genders have such disparate goals. The gender that invest[s] the most in children (such as the way women carry a fetus for nine months) is the one that has the least to gain from an extra mating. The gender that invest[s] the least has extra time to spend searching for other mates.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 3) “Therefore, broadly speaking, males invest less and seek quantity of mates, while females invest more and seek quality of mates.” (Ridley, 2003, p. 133) These diverse objectives create very interesting sexual dynamics. “Because of those different goals, scientists define a reality that every man who has ever entered a singles club immediately learns.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 3) “Males compete for the attention of females.” (Ridley, 2003, p. 133) Women therefore choose and men do the best they can to be chosen. Leaving the men to figure out what choices women prefer to make. In other words, what women find attractive. The seduction community has a large arsenal of knowledge regarding attractive traits women are drawn to. “In a monogamous society a woman often chooses a mate long before he has had a chance to become a ‘chief’, and she must look for clues to his future potential rather than rely only on past achievements. Poise, self assurance, optimism, efficiency, perseverance, courage, decisiveness, intelligence, ambition--these are the things that cause men to rise to the top of their professions. And not coincidentally, these are the things women find attractive.” (Ridley, 2003, p. 298) Women have to be perceptive when evaluating the possible successes of would-be suitors. A man’s previous triumphs (or lack of) are not always a clear indication of imminent value. So women often look for characteristics within budding beaus. “If you [the pick-up artist] exhibit the right traits, then women will take a bet on you. They’ll give you the benefit of the doubt, even though you may not have the corner office just yet. They’re guessing that, based on your personality, you will some day.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 6) This evolutionary knowledge is used by men in the seduction community to their advantage in various ways. Two such ways are strategies called peacocking and social proof. "In addition, males and females must spend resources to attract and compete for mates." (Wikipedia, 2007) The usage of these assets is onerous to both the sexes. “Females choose; their choosiness is inherited; they prefer exaggerated ornaments; exaggerated ornaments are a burden to males. That much is now uncontroversial.” (Ridley, 2003, p. 138) The pick-up artists have a term and technique for using “exaggerated ornaments” and the intrinsic burden of these ornaments. The strategy is called peacocking. “Peacocking means dressing for attention” (Urban Dictionary, 2007) “The term is derived from the courting rituals of the peacock. The male peacock grows an exceptionally long and colorful tail to attract a mate. The long and colorful tail is at best useless and at worst a hindrance (it gets in the way and attracts predators). What a male peacock with a great tail is communicating is ‘I am so good at surviving and protecting myself that I can afford the disadvantage of this tail‘. Female peacocks are attracted to the underlying strength of this kind of male peacock.” (Savoy, 2005) The seduction community uses “peacocking” as one of many weapons in its armoires to stay ahead of their competition and to advance in the seduction of their target. “Inherently, peacocking, like all pick-up techniques, isn’t meant to be easy.” (Strauss, 2006, p.3) “We tend to think it’s the woman’s place to be uncomfortable. High-heels, push-up bras, tight shirts, and waxed eyebrows (and other body parts!) are just part of being a fashionable, attractive woman. But to be a successful pick-up artist, you have to be willing to carry some of that burden yourself.” (Strauss, 2006, p.3) Pick-up artists take on these extra obligations to appeal to female evolutionary desires and to separate themselves from other men. They do this as an act of poise, control, and uniqueness. “It may feel uncomfortable or not cool sometimes, but it conveys confidence and leadership and individuality when you’re wearing those clothes (as opposed to letting them wear you). And though we [pick-up artists] weren’t born with antlers or colorful tail feathers, fortunately we can purchase and adorn the equivalent.” (Strauss, 2006, p.3) Peacocking is a delicate art that takes a lot of self-awareness and skill to master. And it is not the only item in the seduction community’s cannon of evolutionary-seduction knowledge. Another instrument that is influenced by evolution and used in the seduction community is “social proof”. “The concept that when you [the pick-up artists] are seen with other women your social status is raised in the eyes of Hbs [hot babes] in the near vicinity.” (Fast Seduction, 2007) This concept has been proven in guppy fish. “In guppy fish, females that have been allowed to see two males, one of which is already courting a female, subsequently prefer that [already attached] male to the other even if the female that was being courted is longer present.” (Ridley, 2003, p. 146) “Obviously, social proof is effective, even in the animal kingdom.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 4) “Social proof is basically a synonym for being ‘popular‘; if a lot of other people like me, you will probably like me too.” (Steve, 2006) “If you're with a good-looking and charming person, it raises your esteem in the eyes of others.” (Dolly, 2006) Social Proof can be further explained with the following quote: “Social value of unfamiliar people is ambiguous and requires a lot of effort to assess accurately. Given limited time and motivation, other people will often evaluate others based on how surrounding people behave towards them. For example, if a man is perceived to be in a company of attractive women, or is associated with them, then his perceived social value and attractiveness will be perceived to be greater. The implied cognition in this case would be ‘All those girls seem to really like him, there must be something about him that's high value‘. If he is seen to be rejected by many women, his social value will be judged negatively. The implied cognition is then ‘I just saw him being rejected by many women, there is probably a good reason why they don't like him‘.” (Wikipedia, 2007) In the above example, a man does not have to be rejected by “many women” to suffer the consequences of negative social proof; it only takes one female to reject a man to taint the surrounding women’s social impression of that man. A similar cognition to the latter one made in the above quote still applies. Beautiful women are not always readily available when needed in social situations. So, “some men use photos of themselves surrounded by attractive women to enhance their perceived social value.” (Wikipedia, 2007) This social value can be aided with the help of a digital camera, which some pick-up artists carry with them to show photos to women they meet. In addition, social proof can be achieved without a camera or beautiful women on one’s arms, by using storytelling to sub-communicate that desirable women are already apart of the storytellers life. “Storytelling is a crucial tool in your [pick-up artist] arsenal.” (Savoy, 2005) “Seduction techniques such as peacocking, social proof, and projecting confidence work in the animal kingdom as well as among humans.” (Strauss, 2006, p. 7) In addition, members of the seduction community use the evolutionary methods to stand out from the competition and seduce the target. The Mystery Method Corporation is a well thought-of company in the seduction community that offers products and services that make the most of the evolutionary arms race concepts discussed in the project, as well as many other field proven fundamentals and strategies. The M3 model takes trends normally found in sexual relationships and creates an easy to follow method for successfully achieving seduction consistently. “It normally takes 4 to 10 hours of time with her to build enough comfort, connection, and trust in order to have sex.” (The Mystery Method, 2005) This model suggests superior ways to progress through to the final stages of seduction and outlines important concepts for over coming resistance. There is even a stage within the model that addresses the targets’ refusal to go along the seduction, called last minute resistance. The Mystery Method has evolved their M3 model to stay ahead of competition’s developments and targets’ opposition. Unfortunately, the new model’s release corresponds closely to the completion of this project and was not made available to be added in time. Nonetheless, it includes important advances in transitions, relationship management, and other conceptual areas. Finally the hypothesis of this project is proven with the data presented above. More reliable resources would have been helpful to explain further the concept of social proof. However, the information detailed in the project is significant for the purposes of this research paper. The implication of these parallels could be exploited by both the advertising industry and the seduction community to further progress their strategies. Further parallels between the two groups could prove even more beneficial. IV. Conclusion Both the advertising industry and the seduction community participate in evolutionary arms races. Pick-up artists bring into play evolutionary arms race strategies to seduce women and out perform competitors. These men make themselves more sought-after with techniques such as peacocking and social proof which have basis in evolutionary research. They also display confidence. “Body language matters for male sexiness.” (Ridley, 2003) To generate and sustain desirability in women, members of the seduction community use research on mating information to their benefit. The main defined goals of the seduction community are to stay ahead of competitors’ progress and targets’ defiance. The validity of these findings relies heavily on the integrity of sources. Many of the pick-up artists techniques have grounding in proven theories and all of them have been field tested and retested by hundreds (if not thousands) of pick-up artists world wide. Since there are no scientific studies being conducted on the seduction community’s techniques, proven field testing will have to suffice. If these strategies were not valid or did not work, the seduction community would find, develop, or impose strategies that did. With that stated some of the quotations within this project are purely opinion and should be regarded as such. It should be noted that the sources obtained from wikipedia, especially regarding the seduction community, may be under dispute and their validity may be under discussion. For further details on specific disputes and discussions, www.wikipedia.com should be consulted. There are plenty of other fundamentals from the seduction community that could be linked to the evolutionary arms race theory, however, the scope of this project has been met and it would be difficult to catalog all such strategies. The other unanswered aspect of this project relates to the evolutionary arms race in the advertising industry. This theory is currently being handled by Professor Francis Steen. In general, it can be said that men and women natural have an evolutionary arms race struggle against each other, however, the pick-up artist bring a wide array of categorical and effective weaponry tactics to this ageless battle. Which leaves the question; what, if any, defenses have the modern woman develop against these seduction community techniques and strategies? References ~Pseudonyms are used in the seduction community by pick-up artists (PUA). Pseudonyms are listed within this project and its reference list. Pseudonyms are followed by a comma and the abbreviation PUA on the list below. * Appendix could not be made available in the format of this blog. Appendix sources are only available in their original format and locations. Merlin, PUA (2006, January 27) The Game: the movie thread. Retrieved March 1, 2007. http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4691&page=3&highlight=attraction+switches Borris, PUA (2006, February 24) The Game: the movie thread Retrieved March 1, 2007 http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4691&page=5&highlight=attraction+switches Hysteria, PUA (2006, February 24) The Game: the movie thread Retrieved March 1, 2007 http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4691&page=7&highlight=attraction+switches Illpapinyc, PUA (2006, February 27) The Game: the movie thread Retrieved March 1, 2007 http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=4691&page=12&highlight=attraction+switches Hysteria, PUA (2006, July 17) The Game is up (the sky is falling chicken little) Retrieved March 1, 2006 http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=7983&page=4&highlight=evolve Roman_be, PUA (2007, January 27) The Game is up (the sky is falling chicken little) Retrieved March 1, 2006 http://www.themysterymethod.com/forum/showthread.php?t=7983&page=5&highlight=evolve Strauss, N. (2006, July) The red queen: study guide Stylelife. Retrieved February 27, 2007 (see appendix)* Exact of location of this source is not public. Strauss, N. (2005) The game New York, ReganBooks. Ridley, M (2003) The red queen New York, Harper Perennial. Wikipedia, “Evolutionary arms race” Retrieved March 3, 2007 from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolutionary_arms_race Wikipedia, “Arms race” Retrieved March 3, 2007 from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Arms_race Wikipedia, “Red queen” Retrieved March 3, 2007 from http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Red_Queen Wikpedia, “Seduction Community” Retrieved March 7, 2007 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction_community Wikipedia, “Seduction” Retrieved March 8, 2007 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Seduction Wikipedia, “Social proof” Retrieved March 10, 2007 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_proof Wikipedia, “Framing” Retrieved March 10, 2007 http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Framing_(telecommunication) Steen, F. “Class Lecture Notes” (2007) (see appendix) * Exact location of this source is not public Urban Dictionary “Peacocking” Retrieved March 8, 2007 http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=peacocking Savoy, PUA (2005)“Fashion & lifestyle -- OAP issue 7” (see appendix)* Enrollment in OAP is require. Enrollment can be done through this blog or on www.themysterymethod.com Savoy, PUA (2005) “Attraction OAP issue 3” (see appendix) * Enrollment in OAP is require. Enrollment can be done through this blog or on http://www.themysterymethod.com/ Steve, PUA (2006) “Games are for children: be happy, be yourself” Retrieved March 10, 2007 http://www.gamesareforchildren.com/archives/396-Social-Proof.html Dolly, female PUA advocate (2006) “Bf ‘social proof’ David” Retrieved March 10, 2007 http://cocksanddolls.blogspot.com/2006/06/bf-social-proof-david.html Lakoff, G. (February 14, 2006) “Simple framing: an introduction to framing and its use in politics” Retrieved March 10, 2007 http://www.rockridgeinstitute.org/projects/strategic/simple_framing Fast Seduction “Common acronyms/slang used on alt.seduction.fast” Retrieved March 10, 2007 http://www.fastseduction.com/acronyms.shtml The Mystery Method “The M3 model” Retrieved March 14, 2007 http://www.themysterymethod.com/downloads/M3Model.ppt Schizo, PUA "Blog Post Comment" (March 9, 2007) https://www2.blogger.com/comment.g?blogID=4965447022861164429&postID=8900391898894468701

I am guilty (with my own comments added in)

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Tue, 20 Feb 2007 09:57:34 GMT

Women who can’t commit?! By Elina Furman For years, it was the men who had the monopoly on commitment-phobia. But what about commitment-phobic women? Yes, women! Raised to believe that men are the commitment-shy gender, many women coast through life completely oblivious about their own commitment anxiety—believing they want a relationship yet systematically pushing away one perfectly suitable candidate after another. Isn’t it high time we looked at ourselves and admit that maybe, just maybe, we are the ones who have become commitment-challenged? If you’re ready to finally face the truth, go down the list of these common symptoms and see if any apply. <I'd say that coasting "through life completely oblivious" is a very accurate description of my relationship patterns over the last few years. Before moving to L.A. I didn't really "want" a serious relationship because I knew I was going to be going away to a University. But even under those circumstances, I've recently noticed myself "systematically pushing away" every guy who has enter into my life. It alarmed me recently when I pushed an important person out of my life for no apparent reason, other than I was scared. I've really been focusing on self-improvement lately and wanted to understand my strange behavior and bad habit. I never really thought it had anything to do with commitment. After reading this article, it makes a lot more sense now.> * Once the excitement of first romance has passed, you get bored in most of your relationships. <I, personally, don't get "bored" easily in any situation. Usually what happens is after the initial "excitement" wears off, I get freaked. I have no idea what to do and I start to act out in strange ways. Usually this behavior leads to the end of a perfectly suitable relationship.> * You have a habit of dating unavailable men (married, involved with someone else, geographically or emotionally distant, etc.). <I've never dated a married man, well actually I have, but he was getting a divorce (aren't they all?). I avoid men that are involved in committed relationships because I don't want to be the cause of pain for another women, it's just not my style. I avoid men who are "geographically distant", it's one of the items on my "long and elaborate list of requirements" (see below). But "emotionally distant" men have been my specialty.> * You have a long and elaborate list of requirements for your ideal mate. <It's so long and hard you'd think it was a euphemism for something else.> * You consider your married friends’ relationships boring and feel that many of them have settled for too little. <I actually don't. I know very few people around my age that are actually married. And the one couple that springs to mind, seem to be a great couple and I was honored to be invited to their wedding and they now have a little daughter. I couldn't be happier for them because they seem truly happy. And I think I am being very objective about this.> * You cultivate larger networks of friends and acquaintances at the expense of romantic relationships. <I may know a lot of people but the number of people I consider "close" friends is relatively small (probably because I am afraid to commit to even friendships that seem to be serious). I never really thought I allowed my friendships to get in the way of my romances (I'm usually pretty good at sabotaging my own romances) but I did notice that I allowed people's opinions to cloud my perception of my most recent relationship.> * You date more than one man at a time to prevent becoming dependent. <I am totally guilty of this. I've told myself more than once that "It's easier to date more than one guy at a time because my emotions can be shared amongst multiple men". However, as of late, I am finding it very difficult to date more than one guy at a time because it's energy and time consuming. Not to mention, it's very difficult on my emotions and people can get hurt.> * You have a difficult time getting over past boyfriends. <Again, I am very guilty of this. I'm still in love with the first guy I ever had a serious relationship/had sex with. I never realized this was a symptom of my fear of commitment.> By now, you probably have a better idea of where you stand on the commitment meter. If you’re now thinking: “Yep, that’s me,” now what? Is there any hope for getting over these issues? The answer to that is a resounding yes! Here’s how: Accept your uncertainty One of the biggest mistakes many of you make is thinking that any uncertainty, however slight, is a sign that your relationship is doomed to failure. You think, “If I’m so confused, that must mean something is wrong with my relationship. Shouldn’t I just know if it’s right?” But indecision and anxiety are a very normal part of making a commitment to someone. If you weren’t a little uncertain, then you’d have something to worry about! Face the fact that there’s never going to be a time when you’re 100 percent certain of anything. So if you’re 80 percent sure that the person you’re with will make a good partner, then that’s all the certainty you’re ever going to get. <This is good advice. It makes sense. And I can put it to use right away. Dating advice should always be this logical, clear, and useful>. Just do it Once you’ve determined whether you’re 80 percent confident, it may be time to take some good-old fashioned action. Be conscious, be circumspect, and be careful, but take the leap. As with any phobia, we often have to face what scares us the most in order to conquer our fears. So it should come as no surprise that one of the best cures for commitment anxiety is just to make a commitment. And if you make a mistake? Well, so be it. After all, one of the ways we learn to trust our instincts is through hindsight. In the end, following the 80 percent rule will help you take calculated risks, not reckless ones. <See above note. I need to trust my instincts and learn from hindsight more.> Avoid the crystal ball If you’re on the brink of becoming exclusive, cohabiting, or getting married to someone, it’s all too easy to panic and wonder, “But how will I feel one year, five years, or ten years from now?” After all, people change, right? How do you know you will feel exactly the same way five years from now? The answer is: You don’t! No matter how tempting it is to worry about the future of your relationship, you have to accept that there is absolutely no guarantee that things will work out. Worrying about the future is one way to avoid making a decision. No matter how many psychics or astrologers you visit, no one can tell you what to do with your life or what the future holds. In the end, the best thing you can do is focus on the present. Ask yourself: “Am I getting what I want out of the relationship at exactly this moment?” If the answer is yes (or 80 percent yes), rest assured the prognosis is as good as it’s going to get. <This is one of my biggest problems. I preemptively end all romances as soon as I think the future isn't going to be perfect (see my next notice for further info).> Quit nitpicking Okay, so men can sometimes act like dominating control freaks, but it’s important to note how often we’re guilty of the same offense. Picking fights, acting moody, and making your partner feel like he’s always doing something wrong is a great way to get someone to break up with you. In fact, that’s exactly what many of you do so you can get out of the relationship or avoid commitment. Many of us commitment-phobes have a perfectionist streak that makes us try to control every aspect of the relationship. Unless our partner fits some preconceived mold, we feel we can’t possibly commit to him. Whether it’s his sloppy ways or inability to dress himself, it can be all too tempting to want to change him or control the relationship. Of course, if you’re not ready to commit, no one will ever be good enough for you. So either accept your partner for who he is or leave the relationship altogether. <I am starting to realize that I can be a "dominating control freak" when it comes to romantic relationships. I have an ideal ("preconceived mold") in my head and I do everything possible to make each relationship fit that ideal. I'm notorious for "picking fights, acting moody, and making my partner feel like he's always doing something wrong." and it usually end the relationship. I have "a perfectionist streak", in which I want each relationship to fit. The problem I am noticing with trying to make relationships fit this mold is I am missing out on real life opportunities to experience unique and unscripted situations with great men. I usually avoid trying to change a man and just opt for moving on when it's clear he doesn't match my unrealistic ideal.> Make room While it’s important to have a full life, many women overdo it. It may be impressive that you have a gazillion friends and unique hobbies, but if you don’t make room in your life for a committed relationship, don’t be surprised if it keeps eluding you. Think of it like this: Once you make room on a table and clear all the stuff away, something new is bound to appear on it. This rule applies to everything. If you’re obsessed with your pet, work 24/7, are absorbed with your children, or are a clutter bug who’s embarrassed to bring people home, you probably don’t have as much time or space for a committed relationship as you think. So if you fit any of these categories, it may just be time to clean up your act and make some physical, emotional, and psychological room in your life. <Another good piece of advice. My friend put this article on her blog and I thought it was very insightful and had solid advice. It's rare I come across advice that is useful regarding women and dating. I am reposting it with my comments in hopes someone else benefits from it too. Another friend asked me for my opinion on it, so here it is. >

I'm guilty

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sun, 18 Feb 2007 20:55:01 GMT

I need your quick opinion

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 14 Feb 2007 05:53:33 GMT

MY OPENER I can't stay long because I have a midterm to study for. But I need your opinion on something: What do you think of The Mystery Method's(TMM) Venusian Arts Handbook (VAH)? http://www.themysterymethod.com/vah.html The reason I am asking is because my Communication Studies project/paper proposal is due on Friday. I have to outline what I plan to do in my paper and I am considering using this as a reference. Your opinion is greatly needed. MY PAPER My Communication Studies project is focused on comparing advertising and entertainment concepts with similar concepts in the seduction community. Some parallels I am considering discussing are: Branding, Positioning, Evolutionary-Arms race, Frames, Psychological Triggers, etc. MY REQUEST If you do NOT own it, please visit the link and list 3-5 things you like about the VAH webpage & 3-5 things you think could be improved on the page. Also list your likelihood of purchasing the VAH on a scale 0-10 (0= would NEVER buy it; 10=I'm ordering it now). You can leave this info as a comment. If you own the TMM VHA, please leave a review as a comment. Let me know what you think of it. 3-5 things you like and 3-5 things you think could be improved in future editions. Also please include in your comment: your age, location, sex, and if you consider yourself a PUA or not. Your feedback is very important to me and my project. It should take anywhere from 5-20 minutes to complete this task (depending on how thorough you want to be). I really appreciate you taking the time to assist me with my project.

Today's lesson...don't forget to endorse your checks

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sat, 13 Jan 2007 19:53:24 GMT

I forgot to sign the back from my financial aid check earlier this week before depositing it into the ATM and now the bank has removed the funds from my account and supposedly the check in being mailed back to me. Now I have to wait for the check to arrive. What a waste of time. And I have no money...ugh.

Who knows how to make a video game?

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sun, 31 Dec 2006 22:17:41 GMT

I'd like to write a video game script....does anyone know how to create the graphics and what not? I am thinking of an role playing game with interaction and dialogue...(think Tex Murphy). I guess I am also wondering about video game programming too.

Grades are in!!!

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sat, 30 Dec 2006 01:14:56 GMT

And I got 2 B's & 1 A....yay me! And I didn't have to bribe the teachers, pay for the work to be done, or cheat in any way. And I actually learned something of value. I think I am going to like this place called UCLA. Aint life grand?

I was going to write a blog about honesty

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sun, 24 Dec 2006 22:00:59 GMT

I recently read an e-book that upset me because the author claimed to have "THE" answer to dating without drama but she states in the book that she wouldn't tell her "girlfriends" the mistakes they were making in their dating lives. She she figured out how to date without drama but thought her friends would hate her if she told them, they would hate her. This concept seemed really lame to me. It seems like when it comes to dating, I try to help my most closest girlfriends when it comes to dating. But I have to admit that I find it very difficult to be totally honest with everyone all the time (especially those I am dating). Why is it so difficult to be honest? (that's a rhetorical questions). Please allow me to be honest with you all for just a moment. I truly believe that the concept of honesty is a social device created to control individuals within a given society. Like other invented social controls, honesty works best when guilt, shame, and other negative emotions. Sure we're told as young children that honesty is the best policy. We are fed false fairytales about boys crying wolf and boys speaking truths about the emperor's new clothes. But from the time we are little children, we're are bombarded with dishonesty via live examples from our parents, friends, and even our government. but I lost all my brilliant ramblings due to some electronic technical error. So instead I leave you with this...until I have time to reformulate what I've written. =============================================================================================================== As a rule, we go about with masks, we go about looking honest, and we are able to conceal ourselves all through the day. - speech 1902, Mark Twain Speaks for Himself ============================================================================================================== Here is wikipedia's definition of honesty: Honesty is the human quality of communicating and acting truthful and with fairness, as best one is able. It is related to truth as a value. This includes listening, reasoning and any action in the human repertoire — as well as speaking. Superficially, honesty means simply, stating facts and views as best one truly believes them to be. It includes both honesty to others, and to oneself (see: self-deception) and about ones own motives and inner reality. to be continued.... ============================================================================================================

Dating without Drama

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sun, 24 Dec 2006 18:56:04 GMT

"I LOVE my girlfriends. They are beautiful, intelligent, hilarious, accomplished, fascinating women. Did I mention most of them are single? " "But I strongly feel that it is my responsibility to dispel the all-too-commonly believed myth that one person can actually complete another. It's just not humanly possible. The only way to become a whole person is to complete yourself" ============================================================================================================ I've just finished reading the e-book, "Dating without Drama". The above quotes were very interesting, however, it don't think the e-book was worth the paper it was printed on. Oh wait it wasn't printed on any paper. It was very difficult for me to swallow the "sex" advice but what was more difficult was the fact that the author admits that she can't openly and freely express her advice with her "girlfriends' because they would end up hating her. I think that is bullshit and if someone you are considering your friend is doing something that concerns you, you should tell them out of kindness and caring. No one's going to hate you or stop being your friend because you're concerned for their well being. However, I understand that they may get pissed at you if you deliver you message in a less than flattering way.

Boyfriend Material

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Sun, 24 Dec 2006 18:09:13 GMT

I've been single for the majority of the last 5 years and I have had relationships with some amazing men. I stayed single for many reasons. One reason was I was expecting to leave the area. I was actually supposed to have my transfer requirements taken care of an entire year before I actually finished them. I really wasn't interested in getting emotionally attached to a guy I was eventually going to be leaving. I thought it would be too heartbreaking. And that's one of the main reasons I've avoided being someone's girlfriend. I was very afraid of being heartbroken. I've only had one serious relationship, which began in high school and last for over 4 years. After that break up I was extremely heartbroken (even if I pretended I was not). It took me nearly 2 years to feel emotionally stable about the breakup. And still to this day I can be brought to tears just thinking about the relationship, its ending, and how much I still love him. My ex-boyfriend is currently married with at least one son. And I hope he's happy. I remember one reason I wasn't enjoying the relationship towards the end was because I felt unhappy and I didn't think I could truly make him happy. I've always wanted happiness and I've always wished everyone happiness. But this blog isn't about happiness (so, I'll leave it for a different blog). This blog is about boyfriend material. I am guilty of dating my fair share of guys that weren't boyfriend material over the last several years. I figured it didn't matter much because I wasn't really ready to be girlfriend material. And the guys that I did date that were considered boyfriend material just seemed to agree to keep things casual, which made the whole dating thing a lot easier for me, at the time. Now, I am in a new place in my life (literally). Living in a large new city where I know very few people and attending a new school that consumes most of my time and energy. I feel like I am a great girl with a lot to offer in more than just a sexual way. Any guy I choose to spend my limited time and energy with should consider himself privileged. I will be the first to admit that I have a lot to learn about myself and how to interact in a serious relationship. But I know what I want in a man, a partner, and a relationship and I can't see myself dating anyone who isn't considered boyfriend material. Since I can no longer date the amount of men I have in the past I am looking for men that are boyfriend material. Now you may be asking yourself, what is boyfriend material? Here's a list of things that make a guy boyfriend material: ~Stable career or education: If he isn't working towards or if he doesn't have a stable career or education he may not be capable of working on and maintaining a serious relationship. ~Passion: If he doesn't have passion in his life, how is he going to have passion with someone special? ~ Good health & habits: If he doesn't take care of himself, he may not care enough about the future (with or with a significant other). ~Balanced emotional state: Too much or too little of any emotions is sign of imbalance and could be a sign of deeper issues. ~ Selfishness: If he can't think of anything besides himself, he can't think of anyone else. This is my list of boyfriend material qualities. It could probably be said for girlfriend material (but since I date almost exclusively men I wouldn't know). If a guy declares he's not boyfriend material, it shouldn't be taken likely. A guy (especially the older he gets) has a very clear idea of what a boyfriend is and what he himself is capable of. It's been my experience that if a guy indicates that he's not boyfriend material he's probably being perfectly honest or he's looking for a way out of doing what it takes to make a serious relationship work. "I'm not boyfriend material" (INBM) is the female equivalent to the male's "Let's just be friends" (LJBF). None of us want to hear these words uttered from the lips of those we adore. A girl will tell a guy "LJBF" when she doesn't want a sexual relationship with him. A guy will tell a girl "INBM" when he wants nothing more than a sexual relationship with her.

Susan Slept Here

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 06:10:11 GMT

Was another very good 1950's movie. But this was a comedy and it was very enjoyable. Here's some notes I took: Stop acting lika a woman. Use your brain. ~ Smell me. I borrowed some of your deodorant. It smell better on you. ~ A girl that has that much character isn't going to jump into bed with.... ~ Characters she's got. ~ It's easier to fall in love in 7 hours than it is in 7 months. ~ It's kinda past my bed time. you know? Well you are a crazy girl. I could do this all night. ~ Are you all through? Yes. No.... ~ Wouldn't want you to leave on an empty stomach. ~ That's a bad impression of a good girl. I can be a good girl too. ~ I don't think I should take another woman's man but I will. ~ Now your the perfect woman for any man. Beauty with in and beauty with out. ~ Would you like me to kiss you? Why? Because you gave me a _____________. I wasn't that kind of _____________. ~ She's broad minded isn't she? I mean you bringing another woman along. ~ Convince a girl you're not the marrying type. ~ That's the way I want it. ~ Well your a man aren't you? There a nasty rumor to that effect. ~ All the men I've ever met have been phonies. ~ I don't believe in sex without love. ~ But then most women are beautiful in some way. ~ I despise all gorgeous women with gorgeous figures especially when they're gorgeous. ~ We want to make sure she's comfortable. ~ You liar. You double crosser. ~ Are you the boss here? My name is on the lease if that's what you're asking? ~ Now you be a good girl. Blow the sirens. Le me go you big bully. ~ Oh grow up & stop dramatizing yourself. You ought to be an actress, tinkerbell.

In a lonely place

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Wed, 20 Dec 2006 05:36:40 GMT

Old Hollywood movies have great dialogue and usually clever stories, even if they don't have all the technological advances that modern movies do. I was hoping that my weekend at my Grandfather's house would have been more family friendly but at least I was inspired greatly by a book a read (more on that in a future blog) and two clever 1950's movies. One drama, In A Lonely Place; and one comedy, Susan Slept here (more on this in another blog also later). I am currently working on writing a romantic comedy (even more about that in yet another later blog) and I'm finding it very difficult to write. Dialogue and narrative (or action) in screenplays are hard. It's hard to tell a good story in the format of a screenplay. Screen writing is probably the most difficult disciplines of that exists. Maybe I am wrong but I seem to be very hard for me. I was hoping to return back to L.A. a week before classes begin so that I could work my screenplay further. It seems like the story itself has changed so drastically in my head over the last several months. It's hard for me to keep track of all ideas I am getting. And even if I could remember every idea I've had, it's proving difficult to figure out how to integrate all the ideas into a coherent story. Oh well, so I am inspired and I feel like I've made so good progress. And the old movie "In a Lonely Place" gave me some great ideas for dialogue. Here are some quotes from the movie: Memorable Quotes from In a Lonely Place (1950) ~ Mildred Atkinson: Before I started to go to work at Paul's, I used to think that actors made up their own lines. Dixon Steele: When they get to be big stars, they usually do. ~ Sylvia Nicolai: Well, he's exciting because he isn't quite normal. Brub Nicolai: Maybe us cops could use some of that brand of abnormality. I learned more about this case in five minutes from him than I did from all of our photographs, tire prints and investigations. ~ Dixon Steele: Nobody can call me the things he did. Laurel Gray: A blind, knuckle-headed squirrel. That's REAL bad. ~ Dixon Steele: There's no sacrifice too great for a chance at immortality. Dixon Steele: I was born when she kissed me. I died when she left me. I lived a few weeks while she loved me. ~ Frances Randolph: Remember how I used to read to you? Dixon Steele: Uh huh. Since then, I've learned to read by myself. ~ Dixon Steele: Go ahead and get some sleep and we'll have dinner together tonight. Laurel Gray: We'll have dinner tonight. But not together. ~ Dixon Steele: It was his story against mine, but of course, I told my story better. Mel Lippmann: What does it matter what I think? I'm the guy who tried to talk Selznick out of doing "Gone with the Wind"! ~ Actress in Convertible: Dix Steele ! How are you? Don't you remember me? Dixon Steele: Sorry, can't say that I do. Actress in Convertible: You wrote the last picture I did... at Columbia Dixon Steele: Oh, I make it a point to never see pictures I write. ~ [referring to the book Dixon is supposed to adapt into a screenplay] Mildred Atkinson: Oh I think it'll make a dreamy picture, Mr. Steele. What I call an epic. Dixon Steele: And what do you call an epic? Mildred Atkinson: Well, you know - a picture that's REAL long and has lots of things going on. ~ Capt. Lochner: Why didn't you call for a cab? Isn't that what a gentleman usually does under the circumstances? Dixon Steele: Oh I didn't say I was a gentleman. I said I was tired. Here are some additional notes I took: I said I liked your face, not that I wanted to kiss it. ~ I know there was something different about you. You're not coy, ~ I heard you the first time ~ You annoy me. If I do it's not intentional. ~ Did you thing about it twice? ~ I'm a doll & you know it? ~ I wish you'd say what you mean. ~ You know you're not making this any easier. I don't see how I could. ~ Go ahead & say it: "I told you so" ~ anything you want to make you happy. ~ I've never been happier in my life. ~ How I've ever went for her i'D NEVER KNOW. ~ You're a poor liar. ~ You've been lying to me. ~ It's only lately that you want to know everything about me. ~ No "of course", or "but". A Simple "yes" or "no" will do. ~ I tried, I want it to work. ~ Why can't he be like other people? Other people? You knew he was dynamite. You he hat explode at some point. ~ He has a tremendous ego. ~ Why are you always in a hurry? Are you going to come or do I have to drag you? ~ You forgot to change your costume. This not a costume it's an attire of a ____________. ~ Sound fascinating Prince. Ah, the princess shouldn't pick at the polish on her nails. ~ I am sorry. I always put my foot in my mouth. I always say the wrong thing. ~ I'm sorry about tonight. It won't happen again. ~ Please don't order me around. I don't like it. ~ I've been looking for a girl for sometime. I don't know her name. ~ Where are your manners? ~ What do you use witchcraft? Only as a last resort. ~ You'll leave when I tell you to and not a moment sooner. ~ (shakes another guy's hand) What a grip that's from counting money. ~ He's so sweet & so kind but I fell guilty for what I think of him. ~ It's not because they're not telling each other their in love. I always knew I'd get stuck with you eventually. all I needed was a little push. ~ Stop it. I can't take any more of this. ~ Yesterday this would have meant so much to me but now it's doesn't matter at all.

I just came up with a great idea for my writing/art.

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Thu, 30 Nov 2006 22:41:26 GMT

My new camera helped to inspire me. I'm excited & can't wait to do something with it. Stay tune for more.....

I stole this from Rae (PS, I stole her picture too and I love it)

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Tue, 28 Nov 2006 20:14:14 GMT

Stolen from Leslie's blog: Then stolen from Rae's blog: 1. When you looked at yourself in the mirror today, what was the first thing you thought? Where's my tooth paste. 2. How much cash do you have on you? Do I have to count it? 3. What's a word that rhymes with "DOOR?"? core. 4. Favorite planet? um, earth??? (I'm keeping Rae's response) 5. Who is the 4th person on your missed call list on your cell phone? My sister. She's called me a bit more recently and it seems like each time she has to go 'cause her kids are getting into trouble in the background. 6. What is your favorite ring tone on your phone? Girls just wanna have fun. 7. What shirt are you wearing? I am wearing a black New York tank top that I altered by adding more length to it. And a long sleeved black & purple striped ribbed shirt. Plus a sweater jacket. (I'm cold). 8. Do you "label" yourself? Nope, I haven't found a label that fits perfectly yet. 9. Name the brand of your shoes you're currently wearing? socks...but I usually wear sketchers. 10. Bright or Dark Room depends. How about a well lit room...regardless of the brightness. My room is bright but it's not well lit. 11. What do you think about the person who took this survey before you? i want to know her better 12. What does your watch look like? my cell phone. 13. What were you doing at midnight last night? sleeping. 14. What did your last text message you received on your cell say? I can't read it for some reason...but it was from my mom...she was wondering when we could talk about holiday travel. 15. Where is your nearest 7-11? I have no idea... 16. What's a word that you say a lot? a 17. Who told you he/she loved you last? My mom...god bless her soul. 18. Last furry thing you touched? Does my muff count? 19. How many drugs have you done in the last three days? I smoke my meds daily. 20. How many rolls of film do you need developed? What's a roll of film? I have a digital camera. 21. Favorite age you have been so far? This age is turning out to be very exciting but I haven't been it for very long. I think I was on top of my game when I was 24 (23 sucked) 22. Your worst enemy? I avoid those. 23. What is your current desktop picture? my mom and my two nephews...too cute. 24. What was the last thing you said to someone? "Have a good day" 25. If you had to choose between a million bucks or to be able to fly what would it be? A million bucks. Or charge people to see me fly but then I'd need flight insurance. 26. Do you like someone? Yes, yes I do. And I think he likes me too...Actually I know he likes me 'cause he has shown me he does. 27. The last song you listened to? Blue eyes by some brothers, it's on a mixed c.d. and I love it but I forget the brothers' name... 28. What time of day were you born? 1ish. 29. What's your favorite number? 21 the day I was born. 30. Where did you live in 1987? Vancouver, Washington 31. Are you jealous of anyone? I tried to avoid jealousy. Unless it's that song "Hey Jealousy" 32. Is anyone jealous of you? I hope not jealousy sucks. 33. Where were you when 9/11 happened? in bed sleeping, my first love called me to tell me that a bomb went off at the Pentagon. We had just broken up and I thought he was crazy. 34. What do you do when vending machines steal your money? Try to get my money back. 35. Do you consider yourself kind? Usually, yes. Except to bugs that come into my room...then I am not kind at all and I squish them. 36. If you had to get a tattoo, where would it be? I have one on the back of my neck now...If I had to get another one, I'd probably go with the back, the wrist, or behind the ear. 37. If you could be fluent in any other language, what would it be? Does the language of love count? 38. Would you move for the person you loved? probably, can't say for sure until the opportunity comes. 39. Are you touchy feely? yeah, especially when something feels so good when you touch it. 40. What's your life motto? Power of attraction starts with your thoughts 41. Name three things that you have on you at all times? Well most of the time I have my Peace/Balance necklace pendent on. When I'm dressed I usually always have underwear on and clothes too. But those come off for showers and sex. As far as items, I usually have my medicine bag with me, my new digi camera, and my keys. 42. What's your favorite town/city? Probably Berkeley but I like Rae's answer too: San Francisco, but I suspect that certain places like London, or Praque, or Milan might win out once I get there... 43. What was the last thing you paid for with cash? dinner last night on campus...it sucked I threw most of it away...ugh 44. When was the last time you wrote a letter to someone on paper and mailed it? I've written a bunch of cards and sent them to those I miss in Northern California. 45. Can you change the oil on a car? ha...I can't even check the oil in my car on a regular basis. Cars should change their own oil. 46. Your first love: what is the last thing you heard about him/her? married with a son 47. How far back do you know about your ancestry? My mother is tracing our linage. I'm hungarian, german, and austrian 48. The last time you dressed fancy, what did you wear and why did you dress fancy? Sex party, a black velvet gown 49. Does anything hurt on your body right now? Yes, always. Right now my right shoulder, back and knee aches 50. Have you been burned by love? Yes, and it was over 5 years ago and I still get tender thinking about it

I need a hug & a back rub...

Dismalqueen_is_in_LA — Tue, 28 Nov 2006 00:06:17 GMT

'nuff said