did i say that out loud?

How to make your own Declaration of Independence (without starting a War)

   Sat, July 4, 2009 - 8:05 AM
1. Think of a person (like King George) or an institution (like England) or a way of thinking (like Monarchy) that used to have practical power over you but now only has power over you in your own memory. Memories are extremely powerful, and if they're not so good, their power is not so benevolent. This is power you'd rather not give over to that person or thing any longer. Power they have no right to have over you.

2. Sit down with a piece of paper and write your one Declaration of Independence. He, she, or it is not the boss of you anymore, why should he she or it still have any sway over you?! It can be as long as the whole list of grievances under which you have suffered, and all the reasons why you are resolved not to bear them any longer. It can be as brief as "Dear [insert name here], you're not the boss of me any more, get lost!" Say whatever you feel, it's YOUR declaration.

3. Sign it. In ink. If you wrote it on a computer, print a copy and sign it. In ink. There is power in the physical act, and in the physical object.

4. Even if it's possible, don't send it to him, her, it, or them. They're not the boss of you anymore, who cares what they think?! Save it for your Archives.

5. Whenever thoughts of that person or thing come up and try to give you trouble, go to your Archives, take out your Declaration, and reread it. Remember how it was when the memory of him, her, or it was a dominant force in your life, and notice how much better it feels NOT to feel that way. Congratulate yourself on having chosen Independence. That force may still be in the world with you, but you do not belong to it. You belong to yourself. Live free, it's your right.

And a very Happy Fourth!


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Sat, July 4, 2009 - 10:07 AM
Nice! Thanks for that
Sat, July 4, 2009 - 7:51 PM
So true, so very, very true.

And, thank you. I needed that right now.
Sun, July 5, 2009 - 11:50 AM