Would you like to read YOUR personal Love story in a book???? R U Into Astrology??

we’re writing a book and want to include a real life story to show compatibility between each sign. here’s a basic questionairre on info to include, but please try to put it in story form, not just answer the questions.

any stories would be awesome! thank you! :)

please send them in a message to our page rather than a post on here or e-mail them to astrochicks7@yahoo.com.

Questionnaire: These are some things you should include in your story.

Background info:

1. Your age
2. Your birth date and time if you know it
3. Your name (or just put anonymous)
4. Your sex
5. Partners age
6. Partners birth date and time if you know it
7. Partners name (or just put anonymous)
8. Partner’s sex


Relationship info:
9. Is this a current or past relationship? If it’s a past relationship, why did it end?
10. How long did it last, or have you been in it?
11. What was the chemistry? Was it love at first sight or did you grown on each other?
12. What were some things that stuck out about your partner, or that your partner brought out in you?
13. How was the sex? Hot and steamy? Passionate? Lousy? Clumsy? In-sync?
14. What were the challenges you faced? What areas seemed to come together easily?

Story:
15. Please pick one, or a few specific occasions when you feel your and your partners astrological qualities were prominent, or when they seemed opposite.
16. Use detail in describing the situation, emotions, and events.
17. Don’t feel like you’re using too much detail. The more the better!


Thanks, Whitney and Brittney

Empathic Abilities.

Empath: One who can use the talent of empathy.
Empath - Controlled: Someone who uses psychometry and/or empathy and/or absorption, occasionally to the point of draining others of their psychic energy.
Empath - Total: One who has trouble controlling their empathic and/or other passive psychic talents, and subsequently gets “overloaded” with data and power.
Empathy: A type of telepathic reception limited to the perception of emotions; obviously this talent would tie in nicely with absorption.

Empathy and Sympathy sound the same, but have two different meanings. Sympathy is when you show sympthy to someone, and are saddened by what they are going through. Let's say a friend's brother died. Empathy is when you feel their pain as if you were the one who lost your own brother. Some people have this part of this ESP (extra sensatory perception).

The feeling of Empathy can be good and can be scary. Feelings of happiness can be good, but dark feelings from another and you pick them up can be scary. To have your own feelings pushed aside and have someone else's take over is a sense of no control over yourself.

How do you control empathy? Well, in terms, you can't. However, there are ways you can protect yourself from getting "bad waves" or "bad vibrations". For example, an amethyst stone can help cut back on the vibrations so they are not too strong. A protection spell for your empathy and good "mental health" can be done once in a while. Be creative and think of one on your own, once you have the idea - the trick of magic shall come easy.

You can be right next to the person or miles and miles and miles away, only connected by Internet or telephone you can feel their emotion. Emotions are powerful, emotions can have a life of their own. Sometimes as people we must control our emotions and not let them control us.

Counselors help people make and implement life decisions. There's always an emotional dimension to decision making. The better we can understand our own inner reactions, our memories, hopes, fears, dreams, the better "insight" we have, the better the decisions we can make. This interior realm is often called the person's "inscape."

Empathy is intimate participation in the inscape of another. The word "empathy" is actually a poor and misleading translation of the German word "einfuhlung." A more direct and correct translation would be "in feeling" or "feeling into something." So, empathy is not something we have, not just passive receptivity to the client's inscape, but something we do. Empathy is the active practice of feeling into the inscape of another. By the classic definition, this is an act of magic.

A counseling session is another kind of set-apart time, devoted to people, during which, by the person's permission, and by our own focused will, we change our consciousness. For that time, as best we can, we set aside our own inscape to enter theirs, hoping to help them explore it more fully. Allowing another into our inscape is an act of great trust. Entering the inscape of another is an awesome privilege and responsibility. No one is ever perfectly "ready" for such deep contact. Still, if you are serving as a priest/ess, someday, somebody will nervously ask you if you have a few minutes to talk. Then, ready or not, you are acting as a counselor. The work itself will be your best teacher.

This is the Goddess' on-the-job training program: You do the best you can. You keep working on your own growth in insight. You stretch your skills, but do not go beyond them. You find an elder to talk things over with. And, above all, you acknowledge your mistakes so you may learn from them. The first challenge is to listen as openly as possible, without expectation or judgment. Always remember: this person is not you. No matter how similar they may seem, they came through a substantially different set of formative experiences. Race, class, gender, culture, region, specific family history, specific personal history, all have their influences. You will hear them better, and they will feel safer to speak, if you can set your theories aside and just listen. You may be uncomfortable in the presence of grief, pain, anger or confusion. Bear with it. Don't rush to shut them up with slick answers or cheap comfort. That only cuts off their process. The person needs somebody to just be there, listen, and accept what they are saying. They haven't always had that. Being free to speak even the most hurtful things, feeling heard, understood and accepted, this is what it means to feel safe. All their experience, from earliest childhood to the way you respond to them today, builds or destroys that sense of safety.

Some people's message is verbal, some is non-verbal (tone of voice, facial expression, posture, and very much more). Some of the message is consciously chosen, some comes from the unconscious. You will receive some of it consciously, some of it subliminally. What you have received subliminally will also shape your reactions. If you really listen, and really care, you will inevitably have emotional responses to what you hear.

The second challenge is to listen as openly as possible to yourself. This will allow you to distinguish emotions you are picking up from others, and likely sharing with them, from those that are entirely your own. For example, confronted with a very angry persont, an empathic counselor would feel into that person's anger. But, if the counselor had previous painful experiences with anger, s/he might also be feeling some fear. It's important to be clear about where each feeling comes from. So, the person has shared as much as s/he could in this moment. Don't press or pry. That person knows how much s/he can face right now, and how safe s/he feels far better than you can. You opened yourself as far as you could, to both the verbal and the non-verbal parts of the message. Since non-verbal communication is often also unconsciously sent, you may be aware of some things that are still not consciously available that person.

The third challenge is responding with acceptance and encouragement, so the person may feel safe to explore further. Most often, you'll simply reflect back to the person what you have heard. This is called reflective, or passive, or "resonant" empathy,. A model commonly given to counseling students is "_________, I hear you saying you are feeling _______ about _________." (Don't worry, you'll find more natural wordings.) Such easy and comforting responses belong in the early phases of the exploration, while the person is getting used to working with you, and possibly to the whole idea of exploring their inscape.

You'll also use reflective responses whenever the client is assimilating some new inner discovery, or if you sense that the person is getting stressed or upset. Gentle pacing helps maintain the person's sense of safety, without which no real work can take place. As the person becomes more comfortable with you and with the exploration process, you may occasionally want to use a more active form of empathy, sometimes called "additive" or "imaginative" empathy. In these responses, you will be describing your perceptions of that person's non-verbal communication. The model is "_________, I hear you saying you are feeling _______ about _________. I am also sensing _____."

Additive empathy does not mean adding to the person's feelings; it means adding to their conscious knowledge of feelings they were already having inside. Always remember that you might be mistaken. You are still likely to be viewing their inscape through the lens of your own, and that might dull or distort that person's message. No one can perfectly distinguish perceptions from inferences from projections. Be sure to present any additive empathy responses very, very tentatively, If you insist that you know better about their life than they do, you will erode their sense of safety. They may shut down. Worse yet, they may start telling you what you want to hear. Worst of all, especially if they have come to see their priest/ess as an authority figure, they might believe that you know better than they do about their own experiences, perceptions and feelings.

If things deteriorate that far, their inscape becomes less accessible not only to you, but to them. Then you haven't just failed to help, you've actively done harm. Instead, realize that, for this work, you are a helper, not a leader. Make your suggestions, but let them control the process.

Please, as you do this, have reasonable expectations of yourself. It's important to understand that empathy is not an inborn talent but a trained skill. It's also an ideal, a model, a goal we work toward but never completely achieve. For one thing, our capacity varies with what's happening in our own lives. It's harder to open to the other when you are tired, scared, hurting. Also, even at our best moments, our own inscapes still shape and color our perceptions. The practice of empathy, then, requires us to explore our own inscapes, develop our own insights, create the inner clarity that makes real listening possible. This deep self-exploration will bring us to our own hard, frightening, and painful moments. Sometimes we will recall ugly memories, or face, name and integrate the parts of our own hearts and minds that we were taught by example to reject. Neither is it easy to identify and take responsibility for our strengths.

Be careful not to push yourself too hard too fast. Be as gentle and respectful - and as thorough - with yourself as you would be with one of your coveners. Remember, this process is not altogether new to you, and you already have some good tools. Much of Wiccan practice supports self-exploration. Awareness meditation helps, as does journal work. And you may want to get some individual help from someone you trust who has preceded you on this Path.

Empathy is an intellectual, emotional, and, ultimately, a spiritual discipline. Like all others, it requires consistent and patient practice. Practice helps us to listen openly at the times when it isn't easy. Insight helps us distinguish our "stuff" from theirs. Be patient with yourself. Give yourself room and time to grow.

from www.angelfire.com (I tried to catch all the spelling errors before reposting...)


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wren: As a person who has this ability, I can tell you it is both a blessing and a curse. Until one learns how to shield, you can literally take on the pain of everyone in your life, along with the joy.

Shielding is a skill that takes time to learn. For me, I visualize a screen like the kind on your windows. This lets through a little bit, enough for me to truly sense what the other person is feeling, while blocking a great deal of the emotions as well.

It helps to find someone who you can easily sense and ask them to help you. When they are feeling strong emotions, have them work with you to help you sense the emotion without taking it all on yourself. It is actually possible to take another's pain (physical or emotional) away but the danger lies in taking this into your own body with no way to release it. Soul retrieval work is done in this way, taking away the emotional pain of another and helping to restore the soul to wholeness. But, no shaman would be effective for long if s/he did not first learn how to keep from absorbing all the emotions being worked with.

One place I struggle with empathic abilities is with my kids. Screening them or blocking them is a great deal more difficult.