... i copy pasted this to blog from my response in this thread: tribes.tribe.net/psytrance...01c500f294

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this really boils down to a complicated issue of individual and group taste.

one thing that i always want to remember when i think of people and their music is that it's what speaks to them in a way that nothing else does and that they relate to it in some way that is very special to them. also, there are people that don't care much and will dance to whatever is available and or other people are getting into. i'm not speaking of these people because they usually are not the ones on the music forums genre bashing or making snide remarks etc.
for me, it's not just music or the focus of the event. it's a special language and tool.

it's hard, even for me, to keep away from making fun of music that i feel is mocking, in some sense, the true spirit of which people are looking for in the tunes. (i say 'even for me' because i'm usually a very passive person).
i know that the music that really gets me off is something very special to me and i don't want to have to defend that! i want it to be nurtured and thought of as just that, something very special and empowering for me because of the way that i connect with it. likewise i wouldn't want to take away from other people's power source and create a negative energy flow that takes momentum away from the overall point which i would hope is progression.
at some points i feel like i'm on a mission of sorts and the music i love plays a very important part in me being successful with reaching my goal. it makes sense to me to assume other's are in the same boat with me on that. so, i understand peoples strong emotion around the subject.

something i've come to terms with is that there will always be music and a 'scene' of which i think is lame or overkill and defeats the purpose of what it's seems to be working at accomplishing. but the key word there is purpose. so, instead of taking away from others flow, i have compassion and understanding. where i want to rant about this or that, i just internalize and create understanding for myself. this is what works for me. i recommend it to people who always seem to be in the middle of some type of genre debate.

in short, be considerate of other's opinions and think before you post/speak.
there a millions of way's to speak positively of what you like without taking away from what you consider crappy, cheesy, lame, noisy, negative, or whatever, that someone else you share space with really digs.

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