Nisha -the dancer formerly known as nina
divorce brings out the worst in me
Sun, April 13, 2008 - 11:01 AM
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 11:43 AM
Subconsious
It is only because he still has access to your emotions still that he can do it. Divorce is not easy. I still cried and wondered if I was doing the wrong thing when I left Alex to be with David who loved me and worshipped the ground I walked on. You will just have to learn to put your shields up with Sean. You are a strong person anyway. It will just take time.
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 12:23 PM
thanks tamamma!!!
you always seem to have the right words...miss you woman!!
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 12:35 PM
Wise Sage--- that's me!
Yeah, but I had to go through a world of hurt to learn these lessons. And I miss the crap out of you. I will see you soon. pretty much counting days.
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 12:42 PM
teeheee!!!! me too... we are staying in santa rosa sooooooooooooooo close to you!!! pijama party anyone?
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 1:08 PM
sounds good to me. I might try and take the 18th off so that I can hang with ya'll that whole time.
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Sun, April 13, 2008 - 1:17 PM
Tamima hit it RIGHT on the head...
"It is only because he still has access to your emotions still that he can do it." This holds true for ANYONE who we are trying to get away from too. People who can hurt us, and take us down in one shot, have that power because they still have access to our emotions, and they take advantage of that. I just wrote about something like this in my blog here... even though I loathe blogging here on Tribe, because the people I am trying to stay away from, who still have access to my emotions, are all here, and watching my every move. **HUG**LOVE**HUG* We should talk some night. |
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Mon, April 14, 2008 - 2:23 AM
Divorce ain't fun and doesn't bring out the best in anyone! There are so many things that I wish I'd said or done, not given in to, etc, but some times you just have to choose which battle is more important and let some things go. You are stronger and you will keep getting stronger.
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Mon, April 14, 2008 - 9:31 AM
hmmmm divorce brings out with worst in most people.. but it also usually brings out the best.. it's a real roller coaster ride. hugs, time will make things easier.
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Mon, April 14, 2008 - 9:37 AM
thanks guys!!! i just guess i feel like im the only one feeling this way.. maybe i should go to a divorce support group...
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Mon, April 14, 2008 - 8:03 PM
having been through the Big D twice in my life, I have seen both sides... my first one I left her, and the next one, she left me....
Both sides suck. You have to be strong to get past it. Personally I believe that unless there is a child involved, there is no reason to have any contact with the other half at all.... Don't let the other person make your life terrible, don't let them have the power over you. If need be, get a lawyer and do everything through them, you'll never have to talk to them again. Remember how strong you are and stick to your guns. You know that you are not the only one to feel that way, you are not alone and you have a support group right here. And I am betting that I am not the only one here who has gone through it. But seek out those who will be there for you and who will be honest with you and who will tell you what's up, not just tell you what they think you want to hear. Support is great, hugs are outstanding, but you need honesty in your life. Not only from your friends, but you have to be honest with yourself also. If you know that you need to cut the rope, stop messing around and just do it. I know that it is hard and I hope that you can once again be happy and complete in your life. And if for some wild ass reason, you have a question from a guys viewpoint, let me know. Okay, back in my box now.............. |
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Tue, April 15, 2008 - 5:38 AM
thanks chuck... i appreciate that a lot! :) i must hug you at TF
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