Nisha -the dancer formerly known as nina
why cant you take no for an answer?
Sun, April 27, 2008 - 8:48 AM
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 9:03 AM
I've had this happen more than once to me. though, not with divorce, but had it happen when I met my hubby, my ex (daughters bio father) kept wantingme back, to come live with me, and be with me... and I flat out told him that I would not put myself through that emotional pain again. That I would now allow him to have control over me like that.
I am quite happy that I did it. Said no. and walked away. You have already said that you dont have the feelings that you had before. I wonder what happened to his ex girlfriend that he seemed to be so in love with? (I'm not up to date in this stuff)... I say, stick to your guns... =) say no! |
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 9:13 AM
What she said...
I agree with Ange, The Wise Old Sage says that you have moved on. You gave him a chance to make it work with you, to grow from BOTH of your mistakes and make something better. He professed his feeling were still there for the EX, soooo are you just supose to let that pass and get back together. My Ex did that to me, right when I had met David. It was hard BUT! You deserve to be happy and with someone who will love you for who you are and make you happy (don't get me wrong, you have to return the happy feelings so that he will know that he is loved) You are a strong and beautiful woman Nisha, feelings can be a really hard thing to sort though. You know which way you have to go. Stick to your guns and stand your ground, it won't be easy but you have friends to hold your hands and brace you up when you start to fall. We love ya baby.
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 9:25 AM
Men want what they cannot have. I also agree with the above statements. He just dosen't want someone else to have you. It's a typical guy thing. Even my hubby would agree. Move on don't second guess, go with your gut feelings. And don't let him guilt you, that will never work out.
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 9:26 AM
he wants his cake & eat it too... & he sure doesnt know how to talk to begain with... He has realize you can only push someone away for so long, before they walk away...it sucks & its hard to turn away when you know a person so well but you held your head high & took the first steps in making a better & healthy dission for you & you have grown in this process soo very much... & in that growing, you found someone that cares for you, wants you to grow, and wants you to be happy... hold on to it... you have done nothing wrong in this dission... Love you
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 9:30 AM
He's just feeling jealous. REVEL in it!!! Bwahahahha. sorry...that's my evil side.
Seriously, don't let him guilt trip you. |
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 10:23 AM
Why? Bc that's part of the game. It should all sound very familiar to you. Deju vu.
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 10:23 AM
The usual drill...
Sorry to say, but men always know how to make us happy, and WANT TO make us happy when the bags are packed and were moving towards the door. I've been proposed to with one foot outside already. And I see it with my friends too. When they say they're leaving their guys suddenly seem to take notion of all that's been up in the relationship as flaws. Why they didn't bother before, they never say.
My advice is to see to what they did when it was about your needs and respecting them, and not what they promise suddenly when they realize THEY are losing something. In my not so humble opinion many men are selfish and won't take notice of your needs until you're leaving. And then it's no longer about your feelings or needs, but their egos and struggles to not get dumped. Not really too much to build a relationship on, frankly. |
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 11:47 AM
"why cant you take no for an answer?"
Um... cause you're totally hot. Duh. |
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 11:59 AM
He only wants you because someone else has you. Embrace your new love and make it work. You have moved on so continue to move on.
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 12:09 PM
I second Laura's statement
I've been telling you that for years. And still I got no play. =(
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 12:10 PM
hahahaha... im not easy to catch..just ask sean...took him 3 yrs
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 12:10 PM
Wait there is a bright spot
I did get to feel up your boobs ALOT! =)
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 12:11 PM
"Men want what they cannot have"... Amen, Darkdove! No truer words have ever been said.
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 12:50 PM
teeheee.... got i cant wait to see you... two short weeks my love!!
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 1:50 PM
*bitter tone*
Don't even get me started. Men despise me until I'm gone...then I'm suddenly the frickin' love of their lives. Don't feel guilty, love...and don't let his fear prevent your happiness. |
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 4:31 PM
Why do they play this "i don't want you but i don't want anyone else to have you" game? Was he honestly so foolish to think that you would not or could not find someone to replace him (and then some!)? My ex (Old Boy) is doing something similar now that I've met New Boy. Stand your ground, and don't feel a drop of guilt for doing what makes YOU happy, whatever that might be. You deserve it.
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Sun, April 27, 2008 - 8:55 PM
boys are dumb
throw rocks at them!
How manipulative of him! Feh! |
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Mon, April 28, 2008 - 2:14 AM
Hey baby...
I'm sorry that you're still stuck with all this crap. I love you, and I'm here for you anytime. *hugs* |
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Mon, April 28, 2008 - 11:00 AM
yep...so true! I have a family member going through this exact thing. You must be strong and look out for you. Life is too damn short to be in a shitty relationship.
Cheers to the good ones out there!!! :0) xoxoxo to you. |
