Tired of the Game
**************************************Sun, August 26, 2007 - 1:23 AM
I really don't want to do all that other stuff and would not have sought it out on my own, what I want to do is drum. I am a muscian. And so I think I need to quit this this game which would disappoint my friend (who asked me to join) extremely. If I'm doing this for him and to get to drum out a little bit, then I'm doing it for the wrong reasons. Then I thought maybe I just wanted to be part of a group, but I've learned that I seem actually happier spending time alone and don't need to be with people very much. I'm trying to make this game and people fit me and they don't fit. But here's the catch, I've met someone who is a sweetheart of a guy and actually seems attracted to me too. He's so heavily involved in the game that a relationship with mundane girlfriend probably would not work for him. But again if that's the reason I'm staying involved with the game and I'm not happy, it's wrong.
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I feel your dissappointment Mary and I have felt similar when folks don't have the same zeal as I do about things I'm interested in. I think you're right to re-evaluate your reasons for joining a group as they are usually formed to fill OUR wants and needs. You are a good drummer and I enjoy jamming with you so hang in there girl. Let there be drums!
I hope to be able to come to another one of your drum jams soon.
|I feel for you. I would rethink things and do what ever is bestfor you. Follow your bliss, not someone elses. You are the only on that can make you happy. Go be happy!|
You've got to do what is right for you. Good luck with whatever you decide.
Don't let anyone tell you that drumming isn't a" proper" skill--especially the way you do it! You are a musician,
and a very good one!
Mary, you are a special wonderful woman with so much talent.....games are only games if they are fun..I hope YOU find a way to make it fun for YOU...OK you have heard it many times...BE THE CHANGE YOU WANT TO SEE IN THE WORLD.....maybe the game needs some new rules???
Someone sent this to me the other day.....when I needed it so I will pass it along to you
"And where might you be headed?
To a place of UNDERSTANDING.
To a knowingness
of your importance, INFINITE;
of your reach, IMMEASURABLE;
of your power, UNLIMITED;
of your worth, INCALCULABLE.
Only when pressed with darkness, can you begin to seek the light. And how could you understand your authority… if you had not first relinquished it? How could you find your way, if you had not first strayed. Now, your experiments with darkness, limits, and fear have long outgrown their use. It's time to wake up… to remember… to know… that
YOU ARE FAR MORE
than the role you've been playing.YOU ARE
I KNOW YOUR PAIN ALL TOO WELL!
Mary I was in this same group and I too left for similar reasons. Only to me rapier was the secondary skill and drums came first. The difference you and I had is that I did love these people and the game. But you are right to them the drummer is just another quark to the game they could easily do with out. I chose to leave for different reasons. But know this if you know anything, when the lights go down and the fires are lit all the meals have been served you are the highlight. They think drummers are not important because this reenactment group spends little time doing over night events. So they forget the value of entertainment. This is a huge problem in Adria.
Look you have a decision to make there is a guy you are interested in. You feel that if you are not in the game you may loose him. You think you need to leave but you have not participated in an overnight event yet. One is going on soon. You must test this man for his love of the game versus you and you must test the kingdoms need for you to the over night event. I say test the kingdom. Over night events often lead to newly formed relationships. If you like what happens there great stay with it longer. If you do not like what happens there get out before you become too involved with this guy or with friends in the game.
Or just come to my party. LOL
Look the point of a game is to have fun when that is gone you have nothing. Why pay the dues, why give up your Wednesdays and Saturdays? There are groups worth joining that better suit your needs as a performer. Dont worry they wear funny clothes too.
What they said.
Do what feels best for you. After all, it is just a game. If you're not having fun, don't play it anymore. Your true friends will understand. The game will go on for them with or without you. And there's no reason you have to be as involved as much as they are.
As far as being an entertainer, it seems the "group" has really overlooked an important aspect of the middle ages, and long, long before. It was the entertainers, musicians, bards and poets that got everyone through the hard winters, or through the dark nights during a long battle. It was those artists who kept morale up, who gave people imagination when they would have had cabin fever or would have succumbed to boredom and despair. Without those, we wouldn't have had the collected oral traditions that led to the Odyssey and the Iliad, the Canterbury Tales, 1001 Nights. If you're interested in staying with the game, you definitely have an argument to add to the validity of your art, and you should demand recognition. If they're too shortsided to see it, well, it's their loss.
You are so very talented Mary! If these game players don't appreciate what you do then screw um! You deserve to be happy and feeling good when it comes to your art. Otherwise what is the point! It's nice to be part of a group, I feel your pain, but I also understand the peace with solitude. Sometimes if you can't feel "right" with a group, it's best to go on your own for a while, until you find the group you can vibe better with, or perhaps start your own. Either way, it's important that you're happy and following your bliss. Only you hold the key to that bliss!