Psychology Today just published an article (www.psychologytoday.com/articl...dex.php on what real connection in an intimate relationship means, debunking the myth that we should be totally independent of our partners and never need anything from them - or never show them we need anything from them. On the contrary, the article says, we seek intimate partners in order to get certain totally normal emotional needs met - the need for emotional and phy... read more

I remember that first date – a blind date – after 20-something e-mails and a 2-hour phone conversation. He drove up to my house in a green convertible, the top down, the dog in the back seat. He got out of the car, smiled behind dark glasses. A good-looking guy, not my usual type, but chivalrous, confident, and all smiles. He opened the door for me. I felt nervous. We talked nervously on the drive to Napa, the wind in our hair, it was hot, even on the freeway with the top down. We talked, and... read more

* New colored pens!

*putting together a new outfit that totally works, man.

*getting off the phone with an author after having a really good, professional, confident conversation about publishing contracts.

*Seeing new roots growing on the plant cutting in my window.

*when my step-dog sees me and greets me running and jumping.And when we lie together in the sun and he puts his head on my arm.

*Getting invitations, even when I can't go.

*Having people write sweet/supportive/i... read more

Just got me and the sweetie tix for BM...never thought I'd go again, but, here I come.....