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   Mon, January 12, 2009 - 10:39 AM

Today I’m struck by how weird this time of year seems. It makes me really want to take a long hard look at myself, and assess my situations. All of them. Try to find out exactly what I’m thinking. Why I do things.
One of my biggest problems (at least right now) is my emotional eating. Why am I doing it?
I have these self-destructive habits and tendencies. I see myself in them over and over. But I have no idea WHY. What is my reasoning? How can I break out of these harmful patterns? And by harmful, I don’t mean only harmful to myself. I have a family to think about. It’s so frustrating. I’m a frustrating person, I guess.
So here I have a few goals for myself….

When I am tempted to eat, ask myself: Am I actually hungry? Or do I have something bothering me? Do I really want this? How will it make my body feel later?

I can’t figure out how to stop some of my obsessive behaviors, though. Such as….becoming addicted to people. Or certain feelings.

Where do I even frickin’ start?

Well, if admitting you have a problem is half of the battle, I guess I’m off to a pretty good start.


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Mon, January 12, 2009 - 12:08 PM
Darlin'… "frickin' start" with one and ONLY one problem at a time. If assessing one problem points to or is associated with another problem, THEN you deal with a secondary problem.

I'm a list person… I do everything from lists. If that doesn't work for you, find what does. I would list out everything that I think is a problem I need to tackle or deal with. Starting now. Not something that I think is over, not something that I think will come up. What is right now? From that list, I would figure out which ones are probably associated with each other. Does there appear to be one big problem at the center of everything else? Or are there many scattered and disassociated problems?

Then I would pick one of the disassociated problems, whatever I deem to be the easiest one to handle, and "handle". Once that's handled, you'll have a rush of positive feelings and pride that you can throw behind tackling a larger problem. And then take a larger problem next.

Or if you can visualize little steps on the way to dealing with a "big" problem, start taking those little steps – so you can make the big problem appear smaller and "handleable." Like, if eating is an issue, instead of jumping full-force behind "don't eat that," take 3 weeks, or even a month and write out a food journal.

There's a special issue of Shape magazine available now that has a lot of tips in it, recipes, meal plan, exercises, etc. They have 2-3 pages on food journals. It would be a good investment for you. Write down the time, what you ate (honestly), 1-5 scale of how hungry you were, and how you felt.

If you journal for several weeks, you'll have a really good view of what is going on with your eating, moreso than just stopping yourself. If you're honest, even recording a binge, it may help you pinpoint WHY you're bingeing. If you have a camera, you could "shoot" your plate to give yourself an idea of portion sizes, too.

I'm worried about you. Let me know if I can help you keep track of your steps, goals, or if you just need to vent.
Mon, January 12, 2009 - 1:13 PM
Thanks. This is really good advice.
I tend to need to write stuff down to sort it out. So a list would be good. I've tried food journaling before, but one of the problems that keeps popping up is self-discipline. Even when writing....
Mon, January 12, 2009 - 1:59 PM
I don't know how to help you with that one… except that maybe if it's important enough to find out, you can remind yourself it's important enough to do? I don't know.
Mon, January 12, 2009 - 2:01 PM
I am having very similar thoughts. Everybody here at the office is doing a dieting is involved! I HATE that. I have to sit here and hear people weighing themselves!!!!

Well, I found the following site by accident and joined:

By doing this, I admitted I needed help. And I'm already getting it!!!
Tue, January 13, 2009 - 8:11 AM
Here are my thoughts - I have no credentials or sources to back them up with, just my own intuition and reasoning:

I think we eat when we're emotional because we associate food with being nurtured. For instance, when we're babies and we cry, our mothers lovingly bring us into their arms and to their breasts (or a bottle) and give us a warm, nourishing meal. When we're stressed, we seek that same comfort. It is not a bad thing, we just need to be aware of what choices we're making.

Eating is a sensual experience. We forget that when we're wolfing down a Snickers bar to get us by. If we commit to stop and enjoy what we eat, we will not need as much and will really get what we want from the experience.

I've also found the 100 Calorie packs to be a wonderful tool for me. A lot of times, my sweet craving is curbed by just a packet of oreo candy bites. Are they wonderful for you health-wise? Probably not, but they are better than an entire bag of Oreos, which is what I'd probably do otherwise. :) So it is a middle ground.

One last thought, I think our bodies naturally want to eat more and fattier foods during winter because we still have the evolutionary make-up to store fat for winter. I think it's o.k. to gain a pound or two over winter without freaking out about it. Stay active, even just moderately, and love your beautiful self.
Fri, February 13, 2009 - 8:39 AM
I know that this is an old post... BUT...
I have the same problems. I've been having severe issues even having self control to not eat everything sitting arround at my house. I keep telling myself that I dont need it, that its way too much food, and end up eating till I hurt, and then feel horrible about it, and want to hide it. (thus starting the whole cycle over...)
I have been drinking allot of warm (not hot) splenda sweetened herbal teas. Something with TONS of flavor (my favorite right now is Fireside Chai) Its organic and fair trade!
Celestial seasonings is also a favorite. They have mint, and spice and orange and this and that...
It helps me not feel hungry, it helps me to get in my fluid requirement every day, and it makes me feel good. I know that after I drink a quart of tea (I use quart talk about backwoods) and I am still hungry, or even a half, then its time to eat.
I struggle every day with this.
so yes, Admiting it is half the battle. Finding support and people who understand will help you fight it.