Aloha Lovelies!

it's been aaaaaaages since i've made any discussion here on tribe. life has been busy, AND i haven't lived with a computer for months now. however, tonight, after perusing through some old tribe invites, i felt inspired to write a bit about my experience with honesty.

in this beautiful thing called "tribe", we're dedicated to upping the frequency on this globe by doing what we love, and serving our community with what people NEED through what we (as individuals) have to offer using our special gifts.

and so, of course, this world would be a perfect place to be IF we could all EXPRESS our needs, which means we must KNOW what our needs are, and then follow route to fulfillment. if my needs are met, i can serve other people's needs, and the dominoes fall accordingly.

emotional support. so many people, (and many in this tribe!) do NOT ask for the emotional support they need. most of us get the fact that it's conditioning. don't cry. deal with it. blah blah blah. whatever. but really. if i had a nickel for all the times i've witnessed people in this family who see something they need to work on/release, they almost immediately try to throw it out the window without spending any real Time with it. i do it, too.

it's some weird new age crap that i see happening here. "oh my god, that feels AWFUL! ok. i RELEASE "that", and i call in only that "which serves my highest self"... blah blah blah, etc etc." how many times have we all done that? how many times can we all say that it has WORKED every time? i bet not ONE person.

patterns take time to dissolve. old triggers need to be examined. tears must be shed. anger needs to be addressed. anger REALLY needs some attention. i'd like to remind people that it is a GOOD thing to express anger as long as it is not projected ONTO someone (like blame) or yourself. it's one of those things most of us don't like to do, but, little frustrations that are not communicated turn into explosive situations. those can be extremely healing as well, but only because the build up was everlasting and painful. better to be out with it soon rather than suffocate for days or weeks (or years).

we can remember that it is PERFECTLY OK to talk openly about something that is troubling our heart/psyche, even if it seems small. if it's some small thing that keeps choking you up every so slightly, or tightens your stomach, or clogs up your brain, you need to get to the root of it. and, if dismissing it every time as something you KNOW shouldn't be an issue but STILL IS, you gotta dig in and dish out. TALK about it. talk about the DETAILS. step up and allow and TRUST your fellow human beings to see what REALLY ails you. forget all that bull that might be in there somewhere about the fact that we are the conscious few, and surely, that ugly little thing should have been taken care of ages ago. if it's still there, it's still tHere, and it needs care. and hey, we are here to help each other smooth out the rough spots. how many here are SOOOOOOO willing and able to help each other out with their "shit" but when it comes to your own "shit", you don't wanna "burden" other people? how many times have we read about/talked about the wounded healer? we all KNOW what this is. we ARE that wounded healer. who isn't?? when we all take steps to share those hidden aspects of our individual nature that seem prickly, we are giving others the opportunity to be a loving witness. when we are present with what really needs attention in order to evolve within, we are, in effect, acting as a teacher on how to eradicate the shame that people feel when when they are "weak".

and what does it mean to feel weak anyway? we only suffer when we are not strong enough to allow our emotional body to move freely. if it is constantly being constricted or "corrected" or ignored, we become disoriented and disconnected. we lack presence with our own inner workings and inner guidance, and then we cannot be present with anyone else.

let down the barriers. be honest with yourself. be honest with others. have COMPASSION. being honest does not give you the right to be a total a-hole in your authenticity practice. i read somewhere that honesty without compassion is brutality. i've been chewing on that one ever since. yes, let's be honest with each other, but lose the charge, the arrogance, the blame, the snobbery....the whatever that gives the ego some selfish little kicks for being "right". oh, yes, i'm the truthteller. this person just flat out lied, so i'm going to punish them. there is no lesson in that. we are not punishers. we all make mistakes. let's serve each other by being able to act in a loving way towards someone who clearly needs some guidance. we can be solid and genuine and stern. we DON'T hold onto false pretenses. we don't act indignant. we look at the things we need to work out with the intention to understand it, not condemn it. then it can be cleared, and we can all move on.


ah...i feel like i have so much more i could write about this, but i think i'll stop now. and maybe add more later, or discuss more with comments....

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sending my love to all sentient beings,
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ishka LA
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