Female

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I am cute. Damn cute. But not easy. So don't go getting any ideas.

I am the mother of two beautiful school-aged boys. I am the wife of a truly wonderful man. I have an additional relationship with a second equally wonderful man who is also my partner in music. This has complicated my life intensely and qualifies me for the "poly" label, much as I have resisted it. I prefer the term "polyfidelity" to "polyamory", because I think it applies more to my relationship model, and don't you dare go comparing me to any polygamist you may have heard about in the news recently. As they say in Spanish, "Nada que ver!"

I was raised in a Christian environment and went through an evangelical phase which I have since outgrown and am trying to live down, forget, grow past, find forgiveness for, whatever.

I thrive in community. My husband and I have hosted a total of 12 exchange students over 9 years and now we live with my other partner and his two daughters. Three adults and four kids sharing space, time, laughter and tears. I love my extraordinary and unconventional life, except for the part about living in the closet. I wish the world at large could handle the unconventional a little better.

I am fierce. Confrontational. Head-strong. When I feel secure. When I don't, I'm a wallflower.

I am the queen of the molehill. I am trying to grow past my panicky, crisis-driven nature.

I am a homemaker. Not as a career; as a person. I love my home and I love making it a home for others. I divide my time between home and the research lab where I work for pay. I have mixed feelings about the career choices I have made.

I am a genie in a bottle. When I meet the right person who rubs me the right way, a connection is forged that cannot ever be broken. I work hard at relating, too hard sometimes.

I am wary of people (especially on the internet) but it is my nature to trust. So here I am, please don't be offended if I hold you at arm's length for a while. I think we as humans have so much to offer each other but our treasures should not be tossed around easily or carelessly.

My favourite quote of late comes from the Gospel of Matthew:
"Give not that which is holy unto the dogs, neither cast ye your pearls before swine, lest they trample them under their feet, and turn again and rend you."
People will use a person's vulnerability against her. I have learned that the hard way. But my heart is still open, because to lock it up tight would rob me of all purpose and meaning.

Lastly, I love to talk about myself. Way too much. I want to grow beyond all the navel-gazing I've been doing and look more at the people around me. Without having a compelling need to rescue them from being themselves.