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Khrysso Heart

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joined on 04/09/05
last updated 06/18/13
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My Other Internet Home

As of September 2012, I have a permanent internet home: www.khrysso.net.

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These Things I Believe

MOTTOES, MAXIMS, PRINCIPLES, AND GUIDELINES

"Lead, follow, or get out of the way."

"If [people] define situations as real, they are real in their consequences." --W.I. Thomas

"Friends don’t let friends vote Republican."

"Failure to plan on your part does not necessitate an automatic emergency on my part."

"Occam’s Razor": All other things being equal, the simplest explanation is to be preferred.

(surely a corollary to the preceding) "Do not attribute to malice what can just as easily be explained by incompetence."

"Them wot does the work makes the rules." (aka "The Iron Rule of Oligarchy")

"If they don’t want it, they can’t have any!" --Oberon Zell-Ravenheart

"Philology leads to calamity."

"Nature does not care that you are comfortable, only that you evolve." --Harville Hendrix

"People won't care how much you know if they don't know how much you care."


PERSONAL TRUTHS:

It is evil to disrespect people for their gifts.

It may seem as though I think that I'm always right, and that I need to be right. What I need (compulsively) is to be accurate. There is a difference. Accuracy is far more important to me than "right"-ness. I never said I'm always right--but I don't usually say something until I've done my homework, and so I usually know what I'm talking about--unless I'm giving an opinion, in which case I usually disclaim that it's an opinion.

For the most part, people are basically stupid (and I'm not excluding myself from this generalization).

If you didn’t vote, don’t complain to me about your elected officials.

There are always options I haven’t considered.

I am frequently cooperative--not to be confused with compliant.

You can't apologize for my shortcomings. But I suggest you find a less bitter way to criticize me... and that you not expect your criticism to be news to me, since my "shortcomings" are just unproductive manifestations of my strengths, of which I am well aware.

The fact that I don’t complain about your intemperance doesn’t mean I approve of it. Corollary: Sobriety is underrated.

Criticism is not condemnation, and condemnation is not criticism.

No matter what they say, what people do is pretty much what they really wanted to do.

We’re all doing the best we can at any given time.

Feelings are important, but they are only feelings; they are not catastrophes.

My existence is its own justification.

Anyone can pay retail! What's impressive about that?

What I WANT and what I ASK FOR are two entirely different things, and should not be confused.

People become conservative with age because age teaches us about what is worth conserving.

All I know is what I know, and sometimes not even that. Meanwhile...

The world would be a better place if more people got it that I usually know what the hell I’m talking about.

Everything I do is entirely about me, and nothing anybody else does is even remotely about me. We are all working it out for ourselves--our choices just happen to impact each other.

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It's Khrysso!

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about me
Preface: It's important that I warn you that being my Tribe friend could potentially mean *lots* of blog entries coming your way. Though I'm not currently anywhere near peak production for cranking out Tribe blogs, for a long time it was not unusual for me to enter four blogs a day.

I've decided that the best way to describe myself is as a "very silly curmudgeon." The predicate nominative and the modifier are equally significant.

It is meet that I tell you that MY BLOG IS SUBJECT to a fairly stringent "no unsolicited advice, thank you" policy, which includes moralizing, instructing, lecturing, preaching, or delivering any kind of imperative as well as advice-giving. I am very clear when I am soliciting advice, and if I'm not soliciting it, warm relations between us are best nurtured by your honoring this boundary.

In his book Winning Through Intimidation, Robert Ringer talks about how the easiest way to be intimidating is to refuse to be intimidated. I suppose that's why many people find me intimidating: I become more and more fearless with age, and I have a strong sense of who I am, what I value, and what I am willing to stand for.

Reflections, resonances, and testimonials that are delivered in the first person are welcome and in fact invited, as long as they don't turn into instances of the dreaded "you-message." I am a quick study and am probably way ahead of you in having considered the morals and caveats that my life's scenarios may contain for me, because my struggles at 50-something are nearly all rehashes of lifelong struggles, and I'm a very circumspect person. If you're a Tribe member, you have access to your own blog, and if I like your advice, I am likely to visit it eagerly.

I've long suspected that I'm <<Un Bodhisattva Malgré Lui>>, as well. It was all a big mistake, I'm sure, and will be corrected in the next life.

Most of the people who know me best find me also to be kind, wise, artistic, articulate, organized, poor but generous, impish, candid, comfortable in my own skin, patient, polite, stubborn, clever, opinionated, gentle, melodic, tough, tender, idealistic, forthright, diplomatic, decisive, incisive, insightful, spiritual, open-minded, creative, and in excellent command of what the hell I'm talking about. I am actually all of these things, and full of shit all at the same time. And I'm getting to be completely okay with that.

That's all. If you've a mind to, please do invite me into your circle of friends, and if I accept, you can read my blog and find out more than you could have ever dared hope to know...
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It Seems to Me

I get really tired of civilians referring to the President of the United States as "the Commander in Chief," or, worse yet, "'our' Commander in Chief."

The POTUS is the Commander in Chief of the US Armed Forces, not of anything else--certainly not of any civilian citizens. In fact, as the Chief Executive of our government, he is a public servant, not a public commander.

Until we are placed under martial law, I am at perfect liberty to ignore any command the President gives me, without f... read more
Tue, October 23, 2012 - 9:13 PM permalink - 1 comment
 
I've had 29292 hits to my profile in seven and a half years.
Tue, October 23, 2012 - 9:02 PM permalink - 2 comments
 
thebullyproject.com/

Folks at my Unitarian Universalist fellowship were talking up this movie Bully. I was bullied without letup (almost all emotional, very little physical, as I remember) throughout my seventh-grade year (age 12-13) and frequently during my eighth-grade year as well. I don't want to be reminded of that experience, so I decided that I will not go to see it while it is playing in town (namely, Canton, Ohio).

But I was more interested in seeing a lecture by the dir... read more
Tue, October 9, 2012 - 4:22 AM permalink - 2 comments
 
Through some reading that I've been doing for the sermon I'm scheduled to deliver at my Unitarian Universalist fellowship this Sunday, I've been reminded that I have not being diligent in taking a stand for my position that I believe that relationships must, if they are to be more than exercises in self-indulgence, be about something more than the sum of the two parts that are the two individuals involved. Relationships, to my mind, are ultimately about expanding the individual, about somethi... read more
Wed, October 3, 2012 - 7:42 PM permalink - 3 comments
 
I've been thinking a lot lately about the fact that I used to be mercilessly self-critical, and now I seem not to be self-critical at all any more.

I don't know if that's true--but it is my perception, and as I quote on my profile page, "If [people] define situations as real, they are real in their consequences" (W. I. Thomas). So perhaps I make it true.

And the corollary question, or group of questions, then, is, "Is this a good thing? Or a bad thing? Or is it just an is?"

I used to... read more
Thu, September 20, 2012 - 7:59 AM permalink - 2 comments
 
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Horntootin'

June 27, 2010
After reading his blogs I couldn't help but communicate with Khrysso. He is a real philosopher. He makes me think. I feel fortunate that we've become friends via the computer and I'm looking forward to the day when we can meet in person. He's been a real help to me with am emotional problem that I've been having and I can't express how much I appreciate that. I would say he's one of the most intelligent people I've ever known. And it turns out that we have so many interests in common - making art, folk music being Pagan, etc. Plus, judging from the photos, he is really cute and handsome!
May 17, 2009
this man keeps me sane.
thanks a bunch for being there.
December 25, 2007
im officially outing you as a sweetheart
Unsu...
 
October 24, 2007
Khrysso is good for me. Chances are he's good for you, too, whether or not you agree with him at the time. He doesn't ask that you agree with him, just that you listen and think about what he says. Well, most of the time anyway. ;-) Seriously, love getting to know this guy on Tribe.
September 24, 2007
Listen to what Khrysso says. Ok, maybe you won't listen at first (half the time you'll think he's full of s*#@ ) but after you think about it for awhile, you won't be able to deny that what he says sheds some light on things. Honestly, if you let him get to know you a little, he'll be one of your most trusted friends in no time. And if you need a good poetry editor, hey! I haven't met anyone better!
August 2, 2007
Khrysso is khomplex. Khrysso is khool. Khrysso is khind. Khrysso is khreative. Khrysso is kharismatic. Khrysso is. . . well, he's Khyrsso. Hope to meet him irl one day, but in the meantime, I highly recommend him as a Tribe friend. Don't take my word for it though - read his blog!
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