this is so beautiful, i simply had to steal. thank you, ms heather!



I BEG YOU... TO HAVE PATIENCE WITH EVERYTHING UNRESOLVED IN YOUR HEART AND TRY TO LOVE THE QUESTIONS THEMSELVES AS IF THEY WERE LOCKED ROOMS OR BOOKS UNWRITTEN IN A VERY FOREIGN LANGUAGE. DON'T SEARCH FOR THE ANSWERS, WHICH COULD NOT BE GIVEN TO YOU NOW, BECAUSE YOU WOULD NOT BE ABLE TO LIVE THEM. AND THE POINT IS, TO LIVE EVERYTHING. LIVE THE QUESTIONS NOW. PERHAPS THEN, SOMEDAY FAR IN THE FUTURE, YOU WILL GRADUALLY WITHOUT EVEN NOTICING IT, LIVE YOUR WAY INTO THE ANSWER... RAINER MARIA RILKE

stolen freshly from the eloquent Darkly Bright S:

"I am currently involved in an exclusive dating relationship.

I am happy to make new friends, open-minded and willing to talk about all things, including sex and kinks, but not looking for dates at this time.

Nothing personal, I'm just a one-person-at-a-time type. Crazy kink, I know, but it takes all kinds to make a world..."

thats me to a t.

www.youtube.com/watch




they make me believe i am a foureyedmonster.

Tell it like it is. I respect that.

*************

[I like this because I know too many women who have been raped, AND just knowing one woman who's been raped is too many right there ... I do not understand this part of my sex ... WHY WOULD YOU EVER DO THIS???]

reposting this from Epona (and by extension, from ::Ms. Julia):


A lot has been said about how to prevent rape.
Women should learn self-defense. Women should lock themselves in their houses after dark. Women shouldn't have long hair and women shouldn't wear short skirts. Women shouldn't leave drinks unattended. Fuck, they shouldn't dare to get drunk at all.

Instead of that bullshit, how about:

if a woman is drunk, don't rape her.
if a woman is walking alone at night, don't rape her.
if a woman is drugged and unconscious, don't rape her.
if a woman is wearing a short skirt, don't rape her.
if a woman is jogging in a park at 5 am, don't rape her.
if a woman looks like your ex-girlfriend you're still hung up on, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in her bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is asleep in your bed, don't rape her.
if a woman is doing her laundry, don't rape her.
if a woman is in a coma, don't rape her.
if a woman changes her mind in the middle of or about a particular activity, don't rape her.
if a woman has repeatedly refused a certain activity, don't rape her.
if a woman is not yet a woman, but a child, don't rape her.
if your girlfriend or wife is not in the mood, don't rape her.
if your step-daughter is watching tv, don't rape her.
if you break into a house and find a woman there, don't rape her.
if your friend thinks it's okay to rape someone, tell him it's not, and that he's not your friend.
if your "friend" tells you he raped someone, report him to the police.
if your frat-brother or another guy at the party tells you there's an unconscious woman upstairs and it's your turn, don't rape her, call the police and tell the guy he's a rapist.

tell your sons, god-sons, nephews, grandsons, sons of friends it's not okay to rape someone.
don't imply that she could have avoided it if she'd only done/not done x.
don't imply that it's in any way her fault.
don't let silence imply agreement when someone tells you he "got some" with the drunk girl.
don't perpetuate a culture that tells you that you have no control over or responsibility for your actions. You can, too, help yourself.

*If you agree, repost it. It's that important.
Posted by
epona
Oakland East