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Since so many seem to not read profiles all the way to the end, I am going to start off by saying I am in a relationship, several actually, and yes, they all know about one another. I am not looking for replacements!!! I am not looking for new relationships!!! I am also not looking for casual sex partners. I am on OKCupid to meet new people, make new friends and take the tests. I am currently Collared and owned, so any "new" love interests need to be run by my Master for His inspection and approval (if you do not know what this means, please message me and ask.). Also, if you are not poly, or poly curious, we can only be friends. All messages sent to me are forwarded, to my Master and to my partner(s) for our viewing pleasure. (This is to hopefully scare off the Horny Net Geeks "HNG's) If this does not scare you off, then by all means, keep reading :-)

II am not your typical run of the mill American female, at least not according to society's norms. It is not that I try to go against them, I just don't fit the mold. I love to wear dresses, corsets and high heel boots with a leather miniskirt, but I am just as likely to be found wearing blue jeans and a t-shirt or a business suit. I am very dominant in my day to day living, but submissive in a relationship (once enough trust is built up). It is easy for me to switch roles in either situation when necessary (even though I may not like to switch). I fall somewhere in the middle of what society expects, and what it doesn't. Many find me an enigma when they first meet me, yet once they get to know me, I am easy to understand. I enjoy surprising people. I also enjoy being surprised. I walk the middle ground in most areas of my life. I seem to attract the extremes to me, pleasure and pain (I am currently Owned - R.A.C.K.), light and dark, etc. I aspire to find the fulcrum between extremes and allow them to co-exist in harmony. More often than not, I am successful.

I am a 3rd degree Priestess. I practice eclectic Left Hand Path Paganism, always walking the line between the light and dark sides. Want to know more, just ask. I follow my own religious path, which I describe as being eclectic LHP(Left Hand Path) Paganism. I also like the ideas and possibilities proposed by the Quantum Physics Theory of Observer Created Reality. I am a full believer in The Secret, and in the theories proposed in The Celestine Prophecy. These in turn go right along with "The Law of Attraction."

I have 2 children, both boys who are the loves of my life. I have a BA in Child Development. I am an INFP - Healer on the Meyers Briggs personality rating scale. I am polyamorous, meaning I practice polyamory, (polyamoury). I am not interested in traditional single husband/wife or girlfriend/boyfriend relationships or polyfidelity. The model I base my relationships on is Multiple Primary Open relationship. Other words related to that topic include polyfidelity, fluid relationships and non-monogamy. I am bisexual, with a preference for men. I am currently involved in a multi-partner poly relationship, and have no desire to leave any my partners, so please don't try to turn me monogamous. I have been monogamous in the past, and it just does not work for me, I have too much to give. I am very picky about my partners, and adhere to a strict fluid bond protocol within my relationships, and require my partners to do the same. Trust is the basis of a relationship, and the health of all members is of utmost importance. I do not have any STD's and would like to keep it that way.

Here is my Myspace Profile ( www.myspace.com/ladylilithdreams )


What am I doing with my life?

I am currently the organizer for the Southern California Polyamory Meetup Group. Please feel free to join. polyamory.meetup.com/393

I am also raising my kids to the best of my ability. Although my partners do help me out with the kids, I am essentially a single mom. One of my children has been diagnosed with Autistic Disorder which is similar to Asperger's Syndrome. Much of my time is currently spent getting his needs met. My other son has been diagnosed with ADHD-I and Dysthymic Disorder, so I am working with the school to try to get his needs met as well. Much of my time is currently spent addressing the needs of my children.

I have also found out that although I have done more things sexually than most (12.0% on the 500 Question purity Test ( www.puritytest.net ), it is only the tip of the iceberg.

I wrote the Sexual Experimentation Test ( www.okcupid.com/tests/take )on OKCupid.
Although OKCupid wont allow me to save my scores because I am the author, my score is as follows:

Enthusiast

You scored 78% Experience, 93% Adventurousness, 94% Kinkyness, and 79% Corrupt!
You are not afraid to experiment, in fact you thrive on it. You are always looking for what else there is to experience. You enjoy pushing yourself. You enjoy your journey to sexual discovery and wont let anyone steer you from it.


What does it mean when I say I am poly? It means I believe that the human heart can love and care for more than one person at a time. It does not mean I have sex with everyone I meet. Polyamory is about having meaningful long-term relationships with multiple partners, not sex.

My favorite analogy regarding polyamory is relating it to a rose bush. The main stem is the individual. Each branch can be a partner. The branches grow and bloom just as relationships do. Each branch adds to the beauty of the whole plant. Roses have thorns, just as relationships have difficult times. If you cut a branch with a rose off and place it in a vase (monogamy) it will last a short while then fade away no matter how well you take care of it. If you leave the branch on the rose bush (polyamory), nurture it, and the rest of the plant, it will continue to grow and bloom year after year. Occasionally the branches will die, just as relationships do, and those branches must be trimmed back so they do not sap the strength of the rest of the plant. New branches grow to replace the lost one, but the plant continues to add beauty and enrich the lives of those people represented by each branch.

What am I good at?

I am really good at moderating discussions, getting people to see each other's points of view. I am very good at knowing my own limitations, and am not afraid to speak up when need be. I am really good at reading other people's emotions, and have a knack for being able to see all sides of a situation.

I am really good at offering advice, giving moral support, etc..... or so I have been told. I enjoy helping people as much as possible. I find it easier to keep my cool, than to lose it, and many people seem to respect the fact it is difficult to rile me.