Not that I actually expect to meet anyone on OK Cupid, but it's sort of a good thing to do every once in a while just so that I examine who I think I am and consider who I want to spend my time with...

And just to clarify...Marten and I are still partners, I am just looking for another partner as well...

Some of these are things I have only just discovered about myself...or have only recently been able to admit to myself...for instance the whole super thin men thing...it's frustrating and I've been fighting it, but sadly it is just a fact and a product of my twisted brain. So here goes:

I am friendly, warm hearted, smart, educated, exotic and powerful. I am a flirt...a huge flirt. I flirt constantly, I can't stop and I don't really want to, it's a big part of my personality, and it's how I display affection towards my friends...it's cultural, I'm from the Caribbean, and that is just "how we roll" <--read in a voice that reflects the fact that I never actually say "how we roll"

Something of a gypsy I like to travel but for the moment I am putting down roots in San Francisco while I learn everything that I need to. That said, I do travel down to Southern California often and I'm open to making connections there.

I am in a poly relationship and I am looking for a partner in crime who is tall, thin, educated, employed, confident, kinky, romantic and a genius.

I love watching and doing object manipulation and fire performance

I am more likely to smell like smoke from fire spinning than from cigarette smoking because I only smoke the occasional clove with a glass of red wine or with coffee. A pack can last me several months. Edit: I've quit smoking.

I am interested in everything and especially interested in how other people perceive and make sense of reality. I have three degrees in law and anthropology. And I'm halfway through my library science degree. I work in a law library and I love it. I'm studying to be an International Law Librarian.

I love tasting new food. I'll try anything once, I'm afraid of heights, even escalators sometimes. But I don't think that being afraid is an acceptable reason not to do something.

I love the water, I grew up near the sea.

I like most people and I'll probably like you. I love to laugh and I love people who make me laugh. I also love to learn and I enjoy having many people in my life who have things to teach me.

I have a weakness for redheads, geeks, performers, people who like to dance, people with freckles smart switchy people, creative people, transgendered people, people who act or live with intention and for people who are brave enough to dye their hair an unnatural colour. I have body art and appreciate that in others, in fact I wrote my masters thesis on body modification.

I am incredibly angst filled. I am constantly in existential crisis and I am very moody. But I know how to have fun and can distract myself into being happy for a few hours at a time. I am interested in having the kind of connection where people direct positive, encouraging energy back and forth at each other, and negative social interactions are addressed in a way that strengthens relationships between community members, encourages forgiveness and fosters spiritual-emotional-mental growth.

My life is always in a state of apparent chaos but things just flow.

I like being able to communicate clearly in my relationships so that everyone is fulfilled. I am open to whatever kind of relationships bring happiness and enjoyment, a constantly evolving understanding of the human condition, and of course love in its many incarnations.

I love to cook and sing, when I'm happy, I do them both at the same time.

I am really a gentle soul but it's fun sometimes to release the inner warrior and sometimes . . . the inner beast. I can fit in anywhere, and I'm just as comfortable speaking to ambassadors and CEO's as I am talking to fire performers and naked Burners. I'm smart, funny and reliable. An Angel at your shoulder, I love to be helpful and to make my friends look good.

I'm very active and physical and I am looking for playmates who can keep up.

I'm not into mindless sex with strangers, but mindblowing sex with someone I've connected with and feel close to, that sounds great to me!

I really really don't like watching TV. I sometimes don't have the patience to watch a movie in a group. I'd just rather be moving. and prefer being outdoors, sometimes even when it is cold, which I hate.

ok so I stole this paragraph wholesale from eyebloomlately because it sums up sort of how I feel as well with the one modification

"Even though I'm [open to] something casual, i do not treat people casually, nor do I want to be treated casually myself....I believe that a relationship can be casual while people are still treating each other thoughtfully and with respect."

The most important qualities I am looking for in potential female partners are:
Education (prefer an advance degree), intelligence, financial strength (in other words, I don't want to always feel like I should pay for everything), open to sweetness and connection...this is what turns me on in women and keeps me close.

There is a double standard because that is how my brain works, sadly, I generally am not attracted to men who are overweight...in some cases, not even men of average weight...I have very specific taste in men...I like men who are very tall, over 6ft 2in usually and very thin...like I can count your ribs, people are always trying to feed you etc. ...I am attracted to men who have jobs they love that pay well...men who have confidence...and who are smart, very smart, genius type smart, if you got under 1400 on the SAT's I'm probably going to lose interest pretty quickly...I am looking for someone who has at least one advanced degree, preferably a PhD. I also want a man who is empathetic, sweet and romantic and bi-sexual.

Gender queer is an added bonus...again if you have a penis, I need the whole super thin counting your ribs thing in order to experience sexual desire for you...damned brain...

I have a lot to offer and I demand a lot in return...I am not for everyone and that is O.K. I am willing to wait patiently for the right person to come along.

Does anyone have an extra tent to lend?

xoxox