a museum of priceless & useless emotions
Tribe CockFri, January 18, 2008 - 11:04 AM
And once again, WHY THE HELL did i ever accept a friend invitation from that guy? All that's in his profile is how much he's interested in fucking, licking, sucking, chicks, bondage and nipple torture. What was i thinking? Just being nice so i didn't hurt the guy's feelings? I think it's time i stopped being so nice to people like that, and saved my niceness for the people i used to be rude to.
I have learned to be a lot more discriminating on the internet, thanks to a few lascivious fucks.
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yesabusers, offenders, phone solicitors, marketers, all capitalize on our niceness and our politeness. they know that we have been trained not to offend them and they use this to gain access.
saying no is powerful. the stronger one is saying no the more likely they are to go away. offenders/abusers groom their victims taking advantage of initial niceness and grooming them to the point where the victim no longer knows how to say no.
i use my computer in public places. it is not only my boys who might look over my shoulder, but also my boys friends. i quickly remove posters of offensive photos. also, i have shut down the photo module at times when someone i know and love has posted a photo that i don't want to view.
Pics and tribesWell, I undderstand completely. I'm into many things too... and some aren't right for children of course.
There are some tribes I'm on because I was thinking that the tribe *might* have some useful insight on things, but I'm finding that I'm well enough aware of what to do, etc. So, I'm about to leave a couple of tribes that I shouldn't be on.
There are many people that take advantage of our niceness, and some who still don't know who we are.
You're just protective... and people understand that. Good job for staying with your beliefs and standing up for your own integrity.
Much love sis...
Kinda Sorta....Similiar issues I am contemplating lately.
As far as my tribe "friends" or for that matter my "friends" in "Real Life" I accept nudity, as long as I receive it in an artistically expressive and somewhat sexy way. With that the people that would qualify, would not blatantly post nude photos of their linghams, breast or yoni, in a
"Hey Look at this" sort of way. So far I have not had issues with that, then again, I don't have tribe friends that I really don't know. Infact out of the 170 or so friends I probably haven't meet and agreed to who they are in person oh about 14 or so. Not bad, I definitely have a genuine connection with the people I consider friend.
On a similar note, I am trying to discern as to what is beyond the boundaries of posting "Nude" photos of my son. Now wait before anyone calls the authorities, let me clarify what I mean by nude. At one time I had several photos of him where his bum was showing and I think maybe even his penis. But he was like 2-3 so, you know. But then his Mom and I reconsidered the idea and I took off ALL photos that revealed anything. I don't think the WHOLE internet is a place for my son's bum or penis to be exposed. The delema I am in now is I just made a Video DVD of the first 4.5 years of his life and there are 3 photo and a short clip of his bum exposed, very cute clips and yes it is going out to family in DVD. However I really want to post it somehow on the net for my tribal family to view, but I am worried about predators and "Ms Nosey Nose" who may consider it offensive and call the authorities.
Anyway I guess if I have these worries then they will come to me and I shouldn't do it, but it is sad we do live in a society where nudity has to be so damn taboo and also taken advantaged of as well.
Reminds me of something I was writing in my journal a while back about wanting an education system for kids from birth up, that fully accepted and implemented the teachings of Tantra. Of course keeping the actual sub-script appropriate to the age, but ideally the core teaching would be that everything is connected, we are all one, learning how to communicate about your whole being in different dynamics.
Teaching kids to be comfortable with their body and educating them on what appropriate touch it. How to use proper communication around your body and your energy field as well. The ideas are limitless with this and I have a wish that one day mainstream society will wake up and embrace this, because true change will only happen with the future generations, and if we keep oppressing awareness in our kids, then that will just keep leading to more broke hippie, fuck society I hate my mom and dad mentality....(Sorry I love most hippies, and I feel for them, but we need another paradigm) Lets truely support the indigo and crystal children and provide them with the tools that they need to really produce change.
Okay enough ranting, nice pic of a sausage by the way...
Yes, nice sausage.I guess it really depends on the 'style' of photography imo., however I do not know what it entailed or the kind of pose.
I see the male body no different than to the female. I have many friends that have posed nude, in the past within there profiles.., however they are done tastefully and non sexually, yet still just the same for being 'nude' as it were.
Really depends, you know? Just thought to raise the question.., if it were a woman's body, how might one feel as apposed to a man's?
If he is erect, it would be the same as if she were aroused.
|I don't mind scantily clad pictures, but I have no desire to see anyone I'm not involved with's plumbing on Tribe.|
ok i forgot to mention...the most important detail, that being the nature of the photo in question.
It was a close-up picture of him stroking his cock, with the caption, "who wants some of this?". And it was then that i noticed all of his friends are female, several of which show themselves nude as their main photo.
I have another friend who consistently posts gorgeous art nudes, and i have never had an issue with his photos at all--in fact, i wouldn't even mind if my kids saw them. I walk around the house naked all the time, they're used to casual, natural nudity. They are not, however, used to seeing men jack off...and i don't think they need to for many years.
Now, speaking of men jacking off, i love watching!
But i only love watching when i have asked to watch, when i've had some choice in the matter. When i'm enjoying my breakfast smoothie and checking last-minute emails before work, i don't appreciate having my eyes assaulted by some dude's phallus. I believe it's a form of rape, in that there is a lack of consent.
No, the issue here is not about nudity...it's about unwanted sexual advances, be they in person or visually.
creepy guys and boundariesSheesh! I removed a remote friend for the same thing. Yet I don't add folks I don't really know mostly. Only 6 people I've not met in person and those I've exchanged moving and meaningful words with back and forth.
With what we do you'd think that we'd be better at setting boundaries right? I mean aren't we supposed to be helping men have healthier relationships? With themselves and with the other goddesses of the world? Practicing good boundaries everywhere in our worlds ripples out into all areas that we touch.
And with the increased intensity that I know I experience from doing my practice I feel more responsible to set the example because it's powerful sister!!! As you well know.
Blessings and good luck,
That would bother me too, definitely.I have no problem with nudity, or sexuality being expressed in art, or just expressed in general. I appreciate well written erotica. I belong to a number of tribes which contain sexually explicit content, but those are all on my terms, not someone blasting me with unwanted photos.
For me, it's also an issue of HR compliance. I work at at dot.com with a very permissive environment towards personal time on the computer. As long as I answer the phone when it rings my bosses don't really care what I do online as long as nobody is offended by what I view, so I spend a lot of time on tribe, MySpace, Facebook, etc... ( I mention this so that you don't think I'm a total slacker for spending so much time goofing online when I "should be working.") I have to be careful about what photos I pull up. I haven't had a problem yet, but all it would take for me to get into hot water would be for the wrong person to walk by while my homepage pulls up with a nudie pic, however tastefully shot. I've got a few friends who model, or are artists who post beautiful shots, and I want to see them when they post, I just don't want to see them when I'm at work.
I wish that there was a way to further configure the feed module to select who's photos show up on your homepage, instead of the all or nothing options we have now.