I am a complete and heartless bastard... just received one of the worst trait test results ever.. the problem - all true (sometimes) when I'm tired or frustrated I can be all of these things...

Who are you at your worst...? Take the test cityculture.org/test.php
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Egocentric

egocentric, self absorbed, not loyal, not generous, only concerned about those close to them, prone to bitterness, can ignore the rights of others, narcissist, meglomaniac, competitive, controlling, needs to have the upper hand in relationships, vain, materialistic, values indivuality over loyalty, not afraid of conflict, would pursue a career that was harmful to others, believes the benefits of freedom outweigh the benefits of attachment, does not value organized religion, does not like to admit making mistakes, quick tempered, not traditional, tactless, blunt, suspicious, makes enemies, wants to be famous, prefers technical careers (law, engineering, medicine), prefers instant gratification, attracted to prestige, manipulative, influenced more by self than others, decisive

SLUEI

prone to addiction, often late, does not think things work out for the best, impatient, discontent, negative, opinionated, acts without thinking, preoccupied with self, easily frustrated, not that interested in others, act at the expense of others, becomes aggressive when they feel hurt, acts wild and crazy, frustrated and angry when people don't live up to expectations, slow to forgive, takes charge, does not behave in way that is acceptable to society, pessimistic, agnostic/atheistic tendencies, not usually happy, not calm in crisis, does not accomplish work on time, spontaneous, not on good terms with everyone, demanding, misbehaved, improper, avoids responsibilities, not willing to let things rest, acts out frustrations on others, has a need to maintain high levels of excitement, rarely prepared, often bored while working, aggressive, asks questions nobody else does, hard to reason with, likes to be the center of attention, acts without planning, retaliatory, asks many questions, quick to correct others, more pleasure seeking than responsible, not hard working, disorganized, loses things, unable to control cravings

So I re-upped my E-harmony profile and there it was - a profile of a compatible partner based on my personality... I've modified it so that it reads in the first person but otherwise it's all based on the E-harmony profile...
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Vitality and Security: I have a particular need for a man who is reliable and honest. He is dependable and makes decisions based on his long-term goals. Friends see him as someone who tends to focus on shared goals in a relationship. He has probably chosen a job and lifestyle that lend themselves to longevity and financial stability. Like me, he wants to ensure that his future is safe and secure and he has a good understanding of what it takes to make a relationship work.

Kindness: My ideal mate goes out of his way to shower me with attention. He is likely to perform small acts of kindness others would not even consider, like jotting me a note of appreciation or bringing home my favorite take-out meal when you're tired. He won't take me for granted. He wants to be there for me when I have a problem or when I just want to talk. He is motivated by a strong belief in the importance of treating people with kindness and consideration.

Character: My ideal mate is a man who genuinely tries to care for others. His friends see him as someone who knows he's not perfect, but who makes a sincere effort for the important people in his life. He can show great kindness for others on occasion, but is by no means a saint. He will appreciate my compassionate side, but will also understand and empathize with my feeling that there are times when my personal needs and in life may overshadow concern for other people.

Autonomy: I will be best matched with someone who is interested to know all the important things about my past, but is equally if not more interested in experiencing the present and building a future together. I are most compatible with someone who believes that communication is vital in creating a healthy relationship, but I may have problems with someone who feels a burning need to know every last detail about my past or every thought that crosses my mind. When in a relationship: My ideal partner sees himself as part of a couple, but still maintains his independence and identity.

Communication: I will have the best relationship with a man who places a high value on both talking and listening. He also enjoys speaking his mind, but knows that understanding someone else's point of view is vital to healthy communication. He's accepting of what people tell him and rarely argues, even when he disagrees with their opinions. Friends and family appreciate his good listening skills and expressive, open nature.

Conflict Resolution: I'll be happiest with someone who rarely gets into arguments. Others say he's the kind of person who has no enemies because he's a natural diplomat, brokering peace among those around him. When misunderstandings do arise, he is more concerned about resolving a conflict well than winning the fight. When he's wrong, he's quick to apologize; when he's right, he's quick to forgive and forget.

Romantic Passion: My ideal mate is a sensual and passionate man who invests 100 percent in the romantic aspects of a relationship. He places a high value on romantic gestures, such as love notes or flowers, and enjoys the reaction they elicit. He's the kind of man who enjoys connecting emotionally, and will take the extra steps to create real romance in a relationship, like planning romantic weekend getaways, finding special restaurants to share and making I feel truly special.

Adaptability: My ideal mate is someone who really enjoys thinking outside the box when faced with a problem. He tries to approach challenges with an open mind so that he's not tied to conventional solutions. I are likely to find it difficult in the long run if I are with someone who is unable to think in new and creative ways in order to solve a problem or resolve an argument. Friends and family of my best match are likely to describe him as the kind of person who remains calm in a crisis and bounces back easily when setbacks arise.

Emotional Energy: I'll be happiest in the long run with a man who's generally outgoing and vivacious but who appreciates a regular dose of quiet and relaxation to keep him at his best. His friends might describe him as someone who'd rather do something right away rather than put it off for later, whether it's a chore at home or a complex task at the office. At the same time, he likes to carve out time for himself and his own interests. He appreciates having stability, but if he feels life is getting too routine he isn't afraid to venture out and rectify the situation. If he falls into too much of a routine, he's likely to worry that life is passing him by and take steps to rectify the situation.

Dominance: I am best suited to someone who respects my competitive nature and shares some of the same thirst for victory. He generally goes out of his way to make sure he wins, whether it's playing a pick-up game of basketball or negotiating a business deal. His friends think of him as aggressive and passionate about what he believes in and know that he doesn't back down easily. The two of us might butt heads when it comes to making decisions or resolving disagreements, but each of us will strongly understand and support the underlying competitiveness that drives the other.

Sociability: I'll be happiest with a man who likes to spend time with old friends and make new ones. Like me, he might not always be the first to strike up a conversation with a stranger, but he is rarely tongue-tied once a conversation is underway. On some days, he might start a conversation with a complete stranger because he feels chatty. Other days, he would rather be alone or just talk to people he knows well already. At parties, he's the type of person who isn't afraid to venture outside his immediate group of friends and meet new people.

Humor: My ideal mate has a great enjoyment of sharing laughter, friends and family. I would find it very difficult to be with someone who views humor as silly or frivolous. In the long run, the person who is right for me will appreciate my sense of humor and my ability to highlight life's absurdities and reversals with laughter and wry observation. He may not be a stand-up comedian, but he must place a strong value on the importance of laughter in life to be my best match.

Curiosity: I will be well matched with a man who is eager to learn. He's the kind of person who's able to discuss the latest headlines and world events. He is constantly expanding his knowledge and understanding of the world. Each avenue of knowledge leads him to another inquiry; for example, a visit to a historic landmark might spur him to do additional research. He's the kind of person who enjoys intellectual stimulation even when he's relaxing. He appreciates my desire to understand the world around you.

Intellect: My ideal mate is smart, educated and knowledgeable. He is astute and will appreciate my understanding of a wide variety of topics. He has varied interests in subjects such as literature or languages. Other people see him as someone who's looking for friends who are his equal in terms of intelligence or knowledge. He places a high priority on reflection and intellectual pursuits.

Artistic Passion: I am best suited to the kind of man who is able to appreciate art and creativity. He appreciates things like museums and art galleries, but probably just doesn't get to them very often. He enjoys things like literature and fine art, but generally has other priorities when it comes to entertainment. Other people see him as someone who would visit some of the world's top museums during a trip abroad but who might neglect the ones in his own home town.

Sexual Passion: My ideal companion is someone who needs to have an intense physical chemistry with his partner. He's the kind of person who wants to feel a surge of excitement, like an adrenaline rush, whenever his partner enters the room. I are most compatible with a man who thinks that intimate physical contact, like a romantic kiss, should be an exchange of sensual energy that leaves one breathless.

Appearance: I will be well matched with a man who appreciates the time and effort I put into how I look. He thinks it is important to put effort into looking ones best, such as wearing nice clothes or staying in shape. He is able to understand the care I take with things like my clothing, hair or makeup and will always let I know that he appreciates the end results. He is probably someone who knows the value of a first impression, and will work to ensure that his is flawless.

Physical Energy: I am best suited to the kind of man who lives by the adage that slow and steady wins the race. He doesn't need to be active in order to be happy. He generally appreciates my desire to take time out to relax on weekends. He doesn't feel the need to incorporate physical activities like running a 5K or going for a hike into his day in order to feel accomplished.

Ambition: My ideal mate is someone who keeps score in the game of life and makes sure he comes out the winner. He's the kind of person who wants to keep up with the Joneses, judging his progress by things like his salary or the influence he wields. He wants to come out on top, and he likes the admiration he gets from others who recognize his success.

Education: My ideal mate is a man who wants his partner to be a person who is able to connect with him intellectually. He's the kind of person who discusses the issues of the day, like politics, religion, science or the arts. If he and his partner aren't intellectually compatible, he might feel like there's something missing from the relationship. He values learning and is accomplished academically.

Industry: I am most compatible with someone who works hard at the office or jobsite, but avoids bringing too much stress and worry home. He likes to stay busy, but doesn't feel the need to fill every moment of every day with some task or chore. He's generally efficient, persistent and productive, but doesn't obsess over making lists of things to do or accomplish. He will appreciate my work ethic and my ability to enjoy the relaxation of downtime as well.

Organization: My ideal mate is probably more interested in having fun and enjoying the "here and now" rather than constantly making extensive plans for how to get the most out of the future. He likes being organized enough to know where he's going and what he's doing on a given day, but planning every last detail of something like a camping trip or a visit to a new city would, frankly, take some of the fun out of the adventure as far as he's concerned.

Anger Management: My ideal mate rarely loses his temper because he is able to process his anger in a healthy way. He has the ability to think through a situation instead of reacting blindly to it. When he does get upset, he generally doesn't blame others or say things he later regrets.

Obstreperousness: My ideal mate is someone who isn't afraid to voice his opinion and appreciates the fact that I do the same. He won't be surprised if I disagree with him or argue my position. His friends would probably describe him as the type of person who's more concerned with being right than just having everyone like him. Like me, he may get irritated easily when others disagree with his perspective. However, the two of us will be able to appreciate each other's commitment to being honest rather than "politically correct," and share emphasis on substance over style.

Self-Concept: My ideal match is someone who supports me when I’m feeling insecure, dissatisfied or stressed. He can understand what it's like to be misunderstood or underappreciated. He will be able to accept me as I am without trying to change me. He can empathize with my need for approval and desire to fit in. He will be able to bolster me during the bad times and help me appreciate the good times.

Emotional Status: I am best suited to a man who is generally happy and hopeful about what life has to offer. There may be parts of his life he'd like to improve, but he generally has faith that he'll attain his goals. When faced with conflict at work or at home, he rarely overreacts or feels out of control. Friends see him as someone who tries to focus on the positive in good times and bad.

Mood Management: I will be most satisfied with a man who will be able to understand if I sometimes take my grouchiness out on him. Friends and family may know him as someone who has gone through more than his own share of low times himself. He'll understand and be supportive if sometimes my mood seems all-consuming and that I need someone to just sit with me and listen.

Traditionalism: I'll be happiest with a man who considers himself a good person: He has strong values and his moral beliefs are an important part of who he is. He might think people don't need to be sticklers when it comes to their personal beliefs, but he probably believes that values related to religion, country and family provide important general guidelines for life.

Altruism: My ideal mate is the kind of person who cares about helping strangers but who might not spend a lot of his time doing so. He is someone who generally takes care of his friends when they're in need and who might feel a pang of guilt when he doesn't reach out to assist strangers. Others see him as someone who, with a little encouragement, will join efforts to help, whether it's a canned food drive or a charity fundraiser.

Spirituality: My ideal mate is someone who is probably either involved in a religious community or who enjoys a more individualistic spiritual life. He's the kind of person who respects religious institutions and finds himself drawn on occasion to faith communities. He might attend services, but may not be an active member of a congregation.

Family goals: My ideal mate is someone who loves children and wants them to play a significant role in his life. He thinks family is important and is willing to commit his life to having children of his own. Friends say he is the kind of person who's comfortable around kids, who would get down on the floor to play with them when visiting someone's home. For this reason, children are probably drawn to him, too.

Family Background: My ideal mate will understand if my relationship with my family is distant, uninvolved or filled with conflict. He may not have a perfect family either, and definitely doesn't expect family life to always be wonderful. His family relationships may have been marked by tension, miscommunication or anger, but he has learned to adapt.


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Of Course - I need to also become this person because it is in being that I will attract - But just in case - if you happen to know this man - send him my way...
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