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How I was described by the guy that wrote up my last interview:

"Chris happens to have made himself highly unique (and, following his logic, therefore capable of great beauty); thoughtful and introspective to the point of near-relentlessness, his conversation has the fast, assured tone of a guy unaccustomed to meeting anyone smarter than himself. He's the sort of person who will ask, sincerely, "have you ever studied the philosophy of beauty?" ... and will then be capable of explaining his own genuinely intriguing thoughts on the topic, rather than simply parroting lines that his dialects professor underlined in a textbook. The kind of person who can elicit feelings of fear and inadequacy, who knows that he can have that effect, and who points it out while shrugging carelessly."

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I'm the geek you'd expect, except I have all these great social skills and charm. :) (I know, you're thinking, no one who's charming would say so -- but I can provide references on request.)

I guess it's important to me to act appropriately for any given situation. If it's a time to be serious, I am. If it's a time to be drunk and singing Karaeoke, I am. If it's time to offer someone support, I do. And if someone needs to be told off, they either walk away in tears or never know that it happened.

I'm very bookish, but I don't read all that much. I like art, but I'm not interested in staring at it all the time.

I'm usually acutely aware of everything going on around me.

People enjoy partying with me. Lesbians refer to me as "The General," but I prefer to think of myself as "cruise director."

One of my oldest friends has dubbed me "a people collector." I think it's true. Some people are way into in music or film, others lust after finding that rare Precious Moments figurine, but I find myself intensely interested in people. When I find one I like, I'm kind of like a little kid and I get very excited. When we reduce it all down, other people are the only thing in life that really matter.

Oh, yeah -- I can be fairly reductionist.

I have a very full laugh and I'm not afraid to use it. Sometimes I'm the only person laughing at all -- but I could care less. If people can't see how utterly ridiculous so much of the world is and revel in it, that's their problem.

When I go on vacation, the only thing I have to know is how I'm getting there and back, and where I'll be sleeping. Otherwise, I prefer to go with the flow and see where the day leads.

Friends who have known me for years are always surprised by something I end up doing or saying. I'm never sure how to take that; I think I'm usually pretty obvious about who I am and how I work.

Despite people's impression of me, I'm not a tidy person. I like to keep my living room livable, but my bedroom and work spaces are usually a mess. I'm unashamed.

I prefer people around me to be happy and I hate when people around me are uncomfortable or angry. That said, half of my family is Italian so I'm pretty attuned to when arguing or bitching are meaningless, and will gladly participate in both activities when it's clear the other person recognizes them for what they are.

I'm capable of sustaining phone conversations for hours at a time.

A recent date e-mailed me saying I was "an odd and eccentric mix of cerebral and down-to-earth,..."

Beauty makes me cry. Come to think of it, so does violence. (Though don't expect to see me weep unless I'm really comfortable around you.)

I burn my toungue a lot.

Some people find me loud and obnoxious until they get to know me, then they love when I'm loud and obnoxious.

Cruel humor is a specialty. (Well, some people think it's cruel; I just think of it as "the truth is funny." Other people do, too. They tell me how mean I am while they're laughing. )

Others always seem to be writing down what I'm saying. ("You're so quoteable...")

If I were to list the top 10 moments of my life, at least 8 of them would be none of your business.

But I'm just rambling. People are energy. We attract and repel for reasons we don't understand. So, reading all of this won't really tell you if you'll like me or not anyway.