Living the dream....

Are you a carrot, an egg, or a coffee bean?

   Thu, March 18, 2010 - 7:45 PM

A young woman went to her mother and told her about her struggles in life and how things were so hard for her. She did not know how she was going to make it and wanted to give up. She was tired of fighting for survival and struggling. It seemed that as soon as one problem was overcome, a new one arose.

Her mother took her to the kitchen. She filled three pots with water and placed each on a high fire. Soon the pots came to the boil.

In the first pot the mother placed some carrots. In the second pot she placed an egg and in the third pot she placed some ground coffee beans. She let them sit on the fire, without saying a word.

Fifteen minutes later she turned off the burners. She fished out the carrots and placed them in a bowl. She pulled the egg out and placed it in a bowl.

Turning to her daughter she said, “Tell me what you see.”

“Carrots, egg and coffee,” said the girl.

Her mother brought her closer and asked her to feel the carrots. She did and noted that they were soft.

The mother then asked the daughter to take the egg and break it. After pulling off the shell she noted the hard boiled egg.

Finally the mother asked the daughter to sip the coffee. The daughter smiled as she tasted the rich flavour and aroma of the coffee.

“What does it all mean, mother?” she asked.

Her mother explained that each of these things had faced the same adversity, that is, the boiling water. Each reacted differently.

The carrot went in strong, hard and unrelenting. However, after being subjected to the boiling water, it softened and became weak.

The egg had been fragile, but after being subjected to the boiling water, its inside became hardened.

However, the ground coffee beans were different. After they were in the boiling water, they changed the water.

“Which are you?” the mother asked the daughter. “When adversity knocks at your door, how do you respond? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

Ask yourself, Am I the carrot that seems so strong, but with pain and adversity do I wilt and become soft and lose my strength?

Am I the egg that starts with a malleable heart, but changes with the heat? Did I have a fluid spirit, but after a death, a major loss, a break-up, a financial hardship or some other trial, have I become hardened and stiff? Does my shell look the same but on the inside am I bitter with a hardened heart and an unyielding spirit?

Or am I like the coffee bean? The bean actually changes the hot water, the very circumstance that brings the pain. When the water gets hot, it releases its flavour and fragrance. If you are like the bean, when things are at their worst, you get better and change the situation around you. When the hour is the darkest and the trials are at their greatest do you elevate yourself to another level?”

How do you handle adversity? Are you a carrot, an egg or a coffee bean?

May you have enough happiness to make you sweet, enough trials to make you strong enough sorrow to keep you human, and enough hope to sustain you.

The happiest of people don’t necessarily have the best of everything; they just make the most of everything that comes their way.


I like to think of myself as a Guatemalan coffee bean :)



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Fri, March 19, 2010 - 4:45 AM
Thank you for sharing this
Good Parable!
Fri, March 19, 2010 - 11:09 AM
I like this. thanks Penguin.
Sun, March 21, 2010 - 6:18 AM