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Randy & Sara

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joined on 07/06/05
last updated 05/13/08
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This is Us

This picture says a lot about who we are. It was taken by a photographer when we didn't know he was filming
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Our Bio

Age
35
Location
about me
We are a happly married polyamourous couple (+ modest circle of poly loves).
We are: hetero man, Bi woman (strongly lesbian).
We are 30 something geeks who love roleplaying games and sci-fi.
We're active members of the Alt lifestyle social/political community of the TC.
We were both raised in the country and love nature and animals.
We love to learn a little bit about anything and everything.
If it's something new and different we're up for it.
Life is about new experiences.
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A little about Randy

Randy's PersonalDNA Personality Test:
www.personaldna.com/report.php

Randy On Randy:
Hello to all our future friends. Hmm..........what should I tell you about me?
Well lets start with the centerfold data sheet:
Age: 32
Height: 5'9”
Weight: 190 lbs (formerly a not so healthy 225, yeah!!)
Bust: Not anymore (see weight)
Hair: Medium Long, Brown, needs trimming
Facial Hair: mustache, somewhere between cheesy and pathetic (but I do love it so)
Turn-Ons: Red Heads (to an unreasonable level) and anyone who is intellectually stimulating
Turn-Offs: Judgmental, superior or uppity people, people who want to argue rather then debate

First and foremost I proudly declare that I am a geek of the most hopeless variety. Have dice bag will travel. I'm a self taught RPGer from the age of 14, avid reader with a 500+ book personal library, computer tinker and amateur video game coder/ modder. I have a complete Renfest costume and a sword collection. My computer contains over 30 gigs of electronic version gaming books and have the entire Robotech anime series on VHS. I.......... (stops at the sound of women running screaming into the hills)...{cough} well, yes, anyway moving along.......
I am the wild eyed optimist of this dynamic duo. I believe in living life like this day, this moment, is the only one we have and to make the most of it. Everything in life is about the experience. I say “try anything once and the fun stuff twice”. This makes me impulsive. My idea of long range planning is “Hey we got through today. Lets try to do that again tomorrow.” This makes Sara and I perfectly balanced. Her pragmatism (bordering on pessimism) offsets my crazed (bordering on mental) optimism. She pull me back and I push her forward and therein we find the happy medium.
My sense of humor (as you might have deducted) tends towards the self-deprecating and goofy. I'm am infamous for my endless stream of puns and one liners (our friends call them randyisms). I blame it on too much Monty Python and Douglas Adams in my formative years. Then again maybe I'm just bent.
I love intellectual stimulation and debate. I'm a political junky and an armchair theologian (unaffiliated in both respects). I absorb knowledge like a sponge and love to dig into everythings inner workings. This makes me a font of obscure and useless knowledge. Play trivial pursuit with me at your peril.
I have well though out and nuanced opinions on most topics. However I don't consider any opinion to be absolute. I love to debate ideas because I am always looking for someone to show me a new perspective that will expand my understanding a topic. Expect to see a lot of me on the tribe discussion boards.

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Sara on Randy:
Now to talk about my husband, hee hee. He is basically my soul mate as I see it. Although my experiences in the last couple of years of made me feel that it is possible to have more than one soul mate. I also don't like using the term soul mate but it is the best word I can think of to describe our relationship. I will have to get into our relationship later.
My husband, Randy, is the most loving person I have ever met. He is everything I could ever want in a person. He is my best friend and more. He is a really cool person to know. I enjoyed his company before we were ever a couple. He is a huge geek and I love it because so am I. He is also really funny although he may not admit to it most other people think he is very humorous too. He is very smart and has a lot of obscure knowledge. He still amazes me with the things he knows and we have been together for 14 years. He will state some odd fact and I will look and him and say “where did you learn that?” He knows the wierdest things. I love him for it. We never get bored with talking to each other. He also learns things very quickly. He taught himself all of his computer knowledge and he knows a lot.
He is more feminine than most men I know and that is one of the things that I love about him. He is feminine in the way that he does not think like a typical male. It's hard to explain but if anyone continues to read about us I am sure you will eventually understand.

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A little about Sara

Sara's PersonalDNA Personality Test:
www.personaldna.com/report.php

Sara on Sara:
I want to start out by saying hi to anyone who reads this. This is really hard for me to do just because I tend to be a little paranoid about letting anyone know anything personal about me. But I realize being a social hermit is not going to help my husband and I meet people. I really do like meeting people and doing things but unless I have someone else to say hey lets go do this thing I tend to be a hermit. I am really good at entertaining myself. I never get bored since I feel there is always something to do and learn. When I do get to go and do things with people I know I love it and wish I did things more often. I am up for doing pretty much anything anyone wants to do. I am very open minded and don't like to judge people and things. I am the kind of person that will go do something with someone even if I don't know if it will be fun or not. I figure I will go and find out. You never know what will happen or who you will meet.
I absolutely love the outdoors. I love being in the woods and feeling the life around me. I enjoy hiking a lot. When I am hiking I like taking the rougher trails or making my own. I also love gardening but currently live in an apartment building where I can't garden. But we did pick an apartment building that is on the edge of a state park so that my back yard is all woods with hiking trails. Very Cool! My dog loves it too. I like to be very active in general. I do not work out but I get enough walking in that I get plenty of exercise. I walk to work everyday and most of the time walk home from work everyday. I takes me 1 hour and 10 minutes to walk one way. And as one of my co-workers said “and you are still on time everyday.” I don't drive so I get around with my husband or I walk. I am a very determined person and will get where I need to go even if it is by foot. Besides if it is not that far I might as well walk rather than ride.
If you read my personality test thing I think it did a fairly good job except for the fact that it said I would rather observe things than experience them. That is wrong, I think I know which question I answered wrong that made it think that. I really like experiencing new things.
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Randy on Sara:
What to say about my lovely wife?
Again lets start with the centerfold stats:
Age: 31
Height: 5'6”
Weight: 130 lbs (the naturally lean eating machine)
The Vitals: Long brown hair, Steel gray/blue eyes, womanly hips and a gravely Lauren Bacall “come up and see me sometime” voice.

Being Sara's husband the last couple of years has been an adventure (and I mean that in the best possible way). Sara has been going through a personal renaissance that I can only describe as amazing.
First a little history.........
For most of the time we have been together (an amazing 14 years) I would have best described her as repressed. She rarely asserted herself and it didn't seem like she felt her opinions and thoughts were as valid as those of others. She didn't seem to be entirely comfortable in her own skin. At first I thought it was the effects of her rough childhood (a whole other subject) but as time went on I began to suspect something else entirely.
I would say that it was about five years into our relationship when I started to pick up clues. I would come home and Sara would have been surfing the net collecting pictures of woman “for me”. She'd sit next to me while I went through them and decided which one to keep. Occasionally as I went to throw one away she be like “Um... your getting rid of that one... I thought you'd really like her”. Eventually I just started keeping those pictures too. Then there were things like the fact that she swore she liked rap music but she never listened to it on the radio, she just watched the videos.
I should mention at this point that Sara was raised rural and Catholic. Her experience and understanding of the world when we first met was.... shall we say...limited. As time went on she developed the most well established and convoluted mental block I have ever seen. Even as everyone that knew her began to figure things out, she found more and more complex ways to fool herself. We all eventually came to the conclusion that Sara would forever be in her own little closet.
Then about two years ago two very important things happened. Sara got her first teaching assistant job and in doing so found where she finally belonged. Shortly there after she fell hard for woman she worked with. Very married, right wing Christian and unattainable but can't choose who our heart goes for can we.
It took her three months to tell me her new feelings...to which I responded “well ya...I just never thought you would admit it”. It took her another couple of months to come out to our friends....to which they responded “well ya...I just never thought you would admit it”.
Since then Sara has just exploded like a new flower. It's almost like holding back her sexuality from herself caused her to hold back herself from everyone else. She's just out there now. She finally feels confident to tell people what she thinks and how she feels. She's not only comfortable in her own skin, she's bursting out of it like a butterfly. I love just bing along for the ride.

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Getting to Know Us and our Thoughts

We went to college many years ago now. So we are not in school which was fun but we are not very career orientated so neither of us did the whole go to school, get a degree, get a job. We tend to just go whereever life is currently taking us. We believe all knowlege is good even without a degree which we should have both had after 7 years of college. Neither of us dropped out or anything.

We take whatever jobs we can that can at least attempt to make us a better living. Our jobs... read more
Wed, August 22, 2007 - 3:10 PM permalink - 0 comments
 
I thought of a good way to describe my relationship with nature. I am a huge gamer (role-playing) and always thought that the description of a ranger character class in the AD&D books described me well. So here is how I see my relationship with nature.
I have always loved animals and they have always seemed to have a natural attraction to me. "Many characters regard animals as non-thinking beasts that react purely on instinct, incapable of responding to reason. The ranger, on the ... read more
Wed, July 11, 2007 - 6:31 PM permalink - 1 comment
 
(Randy)
Sara and I are a weird dicotimy in that we are nature loving techno-geeks. We are equally comfortable out in the woods in the middle of nowhere and in our little personal tech bubble ( formally known as a dining room). Sara is the technician for our ebay business, tearing apart and rebuilding vintage video game consoles. We both operate off of home built PC's that are tweaked and upgraded to the point of near instability. I'm constantly looking for the next best piece of software an... read more
Fri, June 8, 2007 - 5:29 PM permalink - 0 comments
 
So my dear wife describes me as :
He is more feminine than most men I know and that is one of the things that I love about him. He is feminine in the way that he does not think like a typical male. It's hard to explain but if anyone continues to read about us I am sure you will eventually understand.

Boy if the overt geekness doesn't sent the girls packing that's sure to do it.
But seriously, I thought I would make a stab at some of the aforementioned explaining.
Now don't get me wro... read more
Wed, May 30, 2007 - 10:25 AM permalink - 1 comment
 
I am a 32 year old woman married to a 33 year old man. We were married in the court house in 1996. Not that either of us ever remembers the exact date, for us the official marriage was not all that important. We considered ourselves married since 1993 when we first met and decided to have a life together. We have never been much for doing things apart. We have all the same friends and mostly the same interests. Our personalities tend to compliment each other.
Randy is my soul mate and I lo... read more
Sat, May 12, 2007 - 9:08 PM permalink - 0 comments
 
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