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Something that made me go hmmm...

   Sun, May 27, 2007 - 10:43 PM
I was just cruising on tribe, and happened across the profile of a guy I've been having a little flirtation with at a few parties lately. This weekend, especially, when we cuddled up on beanbag chair at the Anon Salon party and I had the blissful opportunity to run my hands through his hair as he hallucinated (as the Dandies would say, how Bohemian Like You).

So, I was enjoying the opportunity of seeing his interests and admiring his pictures when I noticed his age... I knew he was older than I am, but it turns out he's 42! I hate to be ageist or anything, but 42 is fourteen-going-on-thirteen years older than I am, which is quite a jump. I know relationships like that happen all the time, but... well... that's just a lot older than I am. It doesn't bode well for anything I might imagine to be an equal partnership, which is really what I'm looking for at this point.

That said, I do like him. I like him so much that I didn't even take advantage of him while he was on drugs...



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Mon, May 28, 2007 - 6:58 PM
Oh my. I love older men.
Who is he? Who is he?
Tue, May 29, 2007 - 3:23 PM
Well, would it hurt to have an adventure? ;o) It might end up the loveliest thing you could have ever imagined! :o) Take good care, angel! ~ Misha
Fri, June 1, 2007 - 7:32 PM
what is the difference
A difference in age doesn't equal a difference in standing in the relationship. Older men are such good lovers too! Its all about you! Imagine....
Mon, June 4, 2007 - 11:22 AM
Yes, older men can be hot...
As I have certainly found out.

Don't get me wrong - I've always liked older men. But, like 3-5 years older. This is a lot older. 12-13 years older. My experience dating somewhat older men has shown me that they sometimes can be a bit... paternalistic, while younger men don't seem to have that quality with me. As my own pattern is to tend towards safety and security, and as I don't particuarly think that's a good pattern for me, I try to stay away from that kind of dynamic. I can't help feel that someone so much older than me will be at a different level than I am or at least feel that he is. After all, I can't IMAGINE dating a guy even five years younger than I am...

But, as you said, Misha, it certainly couldn't hurt to enjoy his company.

And Erin, their is no way I'm posting his profile publicly. How embarassing! What if he should come across it? But I'm happy to private message it to you.