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Wed, November 5, 2008 - 11:11 PM--Into The Wild (Hal Holbrook, in the movie)
I don't believe in god, or gods, or a personification of "something bigger than us." but I do believe that we all can learn from the wisdom of forgiveness.
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Wed, November 5, 2008 - 11:21 PM
I agree.
I've always tended to look at it as a flow of energy. I have *this* much energy, now what do I want to spend it on? Do I wnat to focus on negativity, or focus on positive things and create magic with my energy? |
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Thu, November 6, 2008 - 10:29 AM
I always feel that my energy is limitless, when I focus on positive and loving connection. It's when I get negative, or focus on those thigns, that I feel my energy get drained. :)
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Thu, November 6, 2008 - 3:55 PM
Not forgiving takes a lot of energy. There have been a few times where I made the choice to not forgive and each time it has been a drain.
Thanks for the quote! |
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Thu, November 6, 2008 - 4:07 PM
True. I have though about forgiveness a lot, mostly in the context of my students, and wondering what to do in the case of a person who does something really bad, and people are always telling the student to forgive the person, mostly in a religious context. I think there is a healthy way to move past something of that nature, and not have it affect you anymore, and forgiving them in THAT sence, then to say "What they did was OK." I think there is a time to forgive, and a time to just move on. You know what i mean?
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Thu, November 6, 2008 - 6:10 PM
i don't think forgiveness means "what you did was ok," because forgiving someone means they did something wrong. Otherwise you're just realizing you were upset or hurt about something without basis.
Yeah, i don't think i mean the religious context either. For me I take forgiveness to mean where i choose to put my energy and emotions. I take my empathy, understand their perspective (i don't have to agree with it by any means), and then move on to better things. |
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Thu, November 6, 2008 - 9:25 PM
A few years ago I met a fellow who had done a bunch of research on forgiveness, Fred Luskin. He has written some good practical and readable accounts on the topic in books, as well as technical research. www.learningtoforgive.com/steps.htm www.learningtoforgive.com/research.htm |
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Fri, November 7, 2008 - 10:41 AM
Good topic. I think that forgiving someone is giving a gift to yourself, because all the toxic and hurtful inner turmoil just .... goes away.
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